H.I.M.
July 17th 03, 06:35 AM
The custodial parent is coming after me for a modification of support. No
argument from me here, since it's long overdue.
Problem is, she's asking for a lot extra.
I have seen her income and expense declaration, which is surely a textbook
example of perjury (although naturally I have no hard evidence having not
yet looked for inconsistencies---lies revealed by disagreeing numbers in
two places).
She wants an extra $700 a year for volleyball, $130 a month for
orthodonture, $840 a year for tutoring. My guess is this is all extra
beyond the minimum guidelines. And it's all very suspicious. For example,
I have offered to tutor the child, especially in mathematics, and think
anyone with a Ph.D. in the natural sciences is up to the task. The mother
says, "OK" but doesn't bring the child around (I have no visitation) and
yet she asks for the money.
I know this is all horse-pucky, since she's never spent a dime on this
stuff for her child.
My first thoughts: get an affordable lawyer now...if there is such a
thing, at least for advice, and maybe one to represent me at the hearing.
My advice from relatives: ask for visitation, as if to put the screws to
the custodial parent.
Other germane facts in the case likely to be considered by judge:
1. In 1993, I left U.S. to live and work in the country of my foreign-born
wife, who lived and worked there. Our child was born in 1995.
2. In 2001, my passport was revoked for non-payment of child support
between 1993 and mid-2001. Returned to U.S. with nearly $24,000 in
arrears. Living overseas in a developing (but not undeveloped) nation
would have been impossible if I had to pay child support to the U.S.
(income fluctuated from USD equivalent of 400-800/month which was upper
middle class for that nation). For nearly the past 18 months, I have a
steady record of payment toward the arrears with balance down to about
$19,000.
3. My wife and child remain in a separate household overseas. My wife's
income essentially supports the both of them, although I have sent cash in
envelopes.
4. There was no visitation in the original order, requested or used, since
the child's birth 14 years ago. The mother makes loud remarks that I tried
to talk her into an abortion and that I would have "murdered" the baby, and
therefore am entitled to no visitation (which I have never requested).
This case was stipulated paternity more than a dozen years ago.
The jurisdiction is the state is California.
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I appreciate any thoughts, suggestions, sentiments, and hard shakings by
the shoulders.
argument from me here, since it's long overdue.
Problem is, she's asking for a lot extra.
I have seen her income and expense declaration, which is surely a textbook
example of perjury (although naturally I have no hard evidence having not
yet looked for inconsistencies---lies revealed by disagreeing numbers in
two places).
She wants an extra $700 a year for volleyball, $130 a month for
orthodonture, $840 a year for tutoring. My guess is this is all extra
beyond the minimum guidelines. And it's all very suspicious. For example,
I have offered to tutor the child, especially in mathematics, and think
anyone with a Ph.D. in the natural sciences is up to the task. The mother
says, "OK" but doesn't bring the child around (I have no visitation) and
yet she asks for the money.
I know this is all horse-pucky, since she's never spent a dime on this
stuff for her child.
My first thoughts: get an affordable lawyer now...if there is such a
thing, at least for advice, and maybe one to represent me at the hearing.
My advice from relatives: ask for visitation, as if to put the screws to
the custodial parent.
Other germane facts in the case likely to be considered by judge:
1. In 1993, I left U.S. to live and work in the country of my foreign-born
wife, who lived and worked there. Our child was born in 1995.
2. In 2001, my passport was revoked for non-payment of child support
between 1993 and mid-2001. Returned to U.S. with nearly $24,000 in
arrears. Living overseas in a developing (but not undeveloped) nation
would have been impossible if I had to pay child support to the U.S.
(income fluctuated from USD equivalent of 400-800/month which was upper
middle class for that nation). For nearly the past 18 months, I have a
steady record of payment toward the arrears with balance down to about
$19,000.
3. My wife and child remain in a separate household overseas. My wife's
income essentially supports the both of them, although I have sent cash in
envelopes.
4. There was no visitation in the original order, requested or used, since
the child's birth 14 years ago. The mother makes loud remarks that I tried
to talk her into an abortion and that I would have "murdered" the baby, and
therefore am entitled to no visitation (which I have never requested).
This case was stipulated paternity more than a dozen years ago.
The jurisdiction is the state is California.
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I appreciate any thoughts, suggestions, sentiments, and hard shakings by
the shoulders.