P. Tierney
August 2nd 03, 08:59 PM
My daughter sometimes plays with one or both of the two boys on my
street. They are all 19 months old, give or take a few weeks. Anyway,
both of the boys, at times, display a common toddler behavior that my
child is having trouble reacting to. One might sometimes grab a toy
out of her hand, move towards it in a pushy way, or at times, pretty
much want to play with whatever toy she is playing with, causing a bit
of a scene. It happens a lot with kids at this age, I've heard.
My question isn't in regards to the boys. Each of their parents deal
with them as they can, and I don't wish to parent anyone else's child
anyway.
I'm wondering how, from a developmental standpoint, I should hope
that my daughter should react. At first, I prodded her to continue to play
with the toy that the boy tried to take, in part because the other parent
wanted her to, showing her child that he couldn't do such things. Recently,
though, the boy has thrown a fit or two such that she's not wanted to play
with the toy anymore, taken aback by his reaction and slowly, wide-eyed,
backed away from the scene.
Is this a good thing to encourage her to do, developmentally speaking?
If not, then what?
While I'm nowhere near ready to link this to some of the male/female
interactions that I saw as a high school teacher, I do know that as she
gets out more as a toddler and experiences such reactions that are
unusual to her, she may need to be better equipped to deal with such
things. Or, maybe not. Thoughts? Thx.
P.
Tierney
street. They are all 19 months old, give or take a few weeks. Anyway,
both of the boys, at times, display a common toddler behavior that my
child is having trouble reacting to. One might sometimes grab a toy
out of her hand, move towards it in a pushy way, or at times, pretty
much want to play with whatever toy she is playing with, causing a bit
of a scene. It happens a lot with kids at this age, I've heard.
My question isn't in regards to the boys. Each of their parents deal
with them as they can, and I don't wish to parent anyone else's child
anyway.
I'm wondering how, from a developmental standpoint, I should hope
that my daughter should react. At first, I prodded her to continue to play
with the toy that the boy tried to take, in part because the other parent
wanted her to, showing her child that he couldn't do such things. Recently,
though, the boy has thrown a fit or two such that she's not wanted to play
with the toy anymore, taken aback by his reaction and slowly, wide-eyed,
backed away from the scene.
Is this a good thing to encourage her to do, developmentally speaking?
If not, then what?
While I'm nowhere near ready to link this to some of the male/female
interactions that I saw as a high school teacher, I do know that as she
gets out more as a toddler and experiences such reactions that are
unusual to her, she may need to be better equipped to deal with such
things. Or, maybe not. Thoughts? Thx.
P.
Tierney