Travelling after stillbirth

[Ajay]

My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
India.
We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
family support she desperately needed.
There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey

Ajay

[Amy]

I'm not sure about the flight, I'm guessing in the early post-partum period
she could be still at some risk of clots, and it couldn't hurt to wear
pressure stockings just in case. Someone else could probably better answer
this.
My deepest condolences to you and your wife...there is no greater pain than
the loss of a child. Be prepared that you may not get the answers you are
looking for from the post-mortem report, something like 50-60 percent of
stillbirths still remain unexplained after a post-mortem, if I remember
rightly. And it still won't answer the bigger question of why it had to
happen to you. I hope it brings you a little comfort and closure, but I just
want to prepare you for what will possibly be another hurt. What is your
child's name?

~Amy, Mum to Ana 30/6/04 and Carlos, born sleeping @ 29 weeks 20/11/02

"Ajay" > wrote in message
om...
> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

[Mamma Mia]

"Ajay" > wrote in message
om...
> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

please accept my condolences also, a terrible thing to happen. And best
wishes for safe travelling home.

christine

[Buzzy Bee]

On 12 Sep 2004 01:59:10 -0700, (Ajay) wrote:

>My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
>32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
>mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
>We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
>India.
>We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
>family support she desperately needed.

So sorry for your loss. I was in a similar position 16 months ago
when my son died at 17 hours old. A week later my mother (in New
Zealand) was admitted to intensive care and at one point was not
expected to live.

Until 2-3 months after the birth there is an increased risk of clots,
as you say, particularly with long haul travel. You should seek
advice from your wife's GP. I was prescribed aspirin as an
anti-coagulant, there are better ones, but they are injectible which
of course causes difficulties travelling (others have nasty side
effects apparently). I would have been travelling via the US so they
didn't prescribe injectibles, since you won't be your GP may decide
they're better. If she is prescribed injectibles get a letter from
the GP explaining why they are necessary so you can get them onto the
plane!

I was also prescribed support stockings, the prescription ones are
more effective than "flight socks" plus of course if they are
prescribed by a GP they are free (your wife still being entitled to
free prescriptions for a year after the birth) which helps. The GP
put something relatively vague on the prescription "Support Stockings,
one pair" I think, and the pharmacist in Boots advised me which ones
to get, measured me and ordered them in, they arrived 24 hours later.

She should also get up and walk around on the plane at least once an
hour.

Megan
--
Seoras David Montgomery, 7th May 2003, 17 hours. http://seoras.farr-montgomery.com
EDD 11th March 2005

[Leslie]

I don't have any travelling advice for you but I wanted to say I am so very,
very sorry for your loss. :-(


Leslie

Emily (2/4/91)
Jake (1/27/94)
Teddy (2/15/95)
William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.)
and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04

"Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home."
~ William Wordsworth

[Donna Metler]

Check with her OB, but it's probably OK as long as she has no residual
medical effects (IE-the SB wasn't for something like Pre-eclampsia, which
can wreak havoc with blood pressure for months afterwards)-and she needs all
the support she can get.

My heart and prayers go out to you and her-I lost my son at 22 weeks, and it
is the hardest thing I've had happen in my life-made worse because it is so
minimized by so many.


"Ajay" > wrote in message
om...
> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

[Marion]

Buzzy Bee wrote:

> On 12 Sep 2004 01:59:10 -0700, (Ajay) wrote:
>
>
>>My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
>>32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
>>mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
>>We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
>>India.
>>We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
>>family support she desperately needed.
>
>
> So sorry for your loss. I was in a similar position 16 months ago
> when my son died at 17 hours old. A week later my mother (in New
> Zealand) was admitted to intensive care and at one point was not
> expected to live.
>
> Until 2-3 months after the birth there is an increased risk of clots,
> as you say, particularly with long haul travel. You should seek
> advice from your wife's GP. I was prescribed aspirin as an
> anti-coagulant, there are better ones, but they are injectible which
> of course causes difficulties travelling (others have nasty side
> effects apparently). I would have been travelling via the US so they
> didn't prescribe injectibles, since you won't be your GP may decide
> they're better. If she is prescribed injectibles get a letter from
> the GP explaining why they are necessary so you can get them onto the
> plane!

Last Christmas I was travelling between US and NZ and was on injectible
meds to prepare for IVF. I called the airline for advice and per their
suggestion, I got a letter from my doctor regarding the needles in my
carry-on bag and had no problems whatsover... matter of fact, I never
had to show the letter. I even had to administer a couple of injections
inflight. No problems.

Marion

[Carol Ann]

> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

No advice, but wanted to send you my condolences. My prayers are with you
and your family.

Have a safe journey home.

~Carol Ann

[Not My Real Name]

No idea about flying, but I am so sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))

-Sara:)

"Ajay" > wrote in message
om...
> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

[A&G&K&H]

"Ajay" > wrote in message
om...
> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

I don't have any travel advice, but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry
for your loss.
Amanda

[Unadulterated Me]

Ajay wrote:

> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.

I'm so sorry for your loss :(

Andrea

[Bóliath]

I do not know about travelling Ajay but hope you and your wife will
accept my deepest sympathies on the loss of your child.

Bó

Ajay wrote:

> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

[Crystal Dreamer]

I don't have advice, just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss.

-Lisa
Missing Mariam since 9/10/03, Born an Angel
http://www.memoriesofmariam.com
Aaron & Nicholas arrived safely 7/25/04

"Ajay" > wrote in message
om...
> My wife gave birth to a stillborn baby on 4th september 2004.She was
> 32 weeks pregnant at that time.We are still waiting for the post
> mortem report to give us any clue why it all happened.
> We are in UK at present but our(both me and my wife) families are from
> India.
> We would like to fly back to India asap so that my wife can get the
> family support she desperately needed.
> There have been several post regarding travelling after birth which
> talks more about the childs health but not about the mother.
> Will it be safe for my wife if we fly on 16th september(i.e 14 days
> after the birth of stillborn) and are there some precautionary
> measures we can take while travelling in 9 hour flight journey
>
> Ajay

[Amy]

How are you and the boys? I haven't seen anything from you in a while.

"Crystal Dreamer" > wrote in message
...
> I don't have advice, just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss.
>
> -Lisa
> Missing Mariam since 9/10/03, Born an Angel
> http://www.memoriesofmariam.com
> Aaron & Nicholas arrived safely 7/25/04