MalMama
September 15th 04, 03:56 PM
Riddle me this:
I am a remarried mother of one child from my first marriage. My
daughter is currently 7yrs old and has been in the care of my second
husband and I since just after her first birthday. She visits her real
dad every other weekend, which was his choice. Our original custody
agreement is a joint agreement, naming me as PPC. No child support is
provided for, for either party. Real dad has always had the option of
more time when he wanted it, less time when he didn't. But basically
he took her every other weekend unless he was travelling for work, and
a week at Thanksgiving. We managed to remain friends and amicably
communicate about all manner of things. His ONLY, and I mean only,
contribution financially to our arrangement was his agreement to pay
out the remaining payments of my car and insurance. He offered to do
this out of his self proclaimed desire to contribute to his daughter's
household.
About six weeks ago, he and his latest girlfriend/fiance, moved into a
fabulously new expensive house, in a fabulously expensive
neighborhood. When my daughter came home from visiting them, she was
acting out what I assumed were her insecurities about not being able
to spend more time with her real dad. I talked to him about it, asked
if he would consider letting her visit for two weeks before school
started. Initially he was reluctant, because his fiance has a 7 year
old son, and he wanted time for HIS family. He relented and she went
for a visit. While she was there, I only talked to her twice. During
this time he was trying to convince me that she should come live with
him now. I told him we could talk about it when he felt more settled
with his new situation and he reluctantly agreed. When I called to
make arangements for her to come home, my daughter was crying on the
phone because she wanted to come home, but her father and his fiance
had told her she was going to live with them.
Much arguing ensued, child was returned to me, ex took car back (which
was still in his name), and we have a court date set for 9/29/2004. Ex
is suing for PPC and wants daughter to visit me every other weekend.
His attorney suggested he tried to discuss terms w/ me before going to
court. Ex says he no longer thinks he wants to be PPC, but he doesn't
want to pay CS. I told him that I didn't want/need his *&^%$ing money
anyway, and I wasn't going to be on his payroll to do a job I was
doing already, I offered to let him give the car back and call it a
day. He said he already sold the car and was screwed because now he
would have to pay arrears to make up for it. So basically, he is still
seeking custody he doesn't want, so that he won't have to pay me money
I don't want.
Anyone ever see this before? What is the general consensus on how this
will turn out? Just for the record, we are both average middle class
people, no criminal records, no domestic violence, etc.. My husband
works, I work part time when my daughter is in school. My ex and his
fiance both work. No sudden changes have occured in our lives.
Any input would be helpful.
I am a remarried mother of one child from my first marriage. My
daughter is currently 7yrs old and has been in the care of my second
husband and I since just after her first birthday. She visits her real
dad every other weekend, which was his choice. Our original custody
agreement is a joint agreement, naming me as PPC. No child support is
provided for, for either party. Real dad has always had the option of
more time when he wanted it, less time when he didn't. But basically
he took her every other weekend unless he was travelling for work, and
a week at Thanksgiving. We managed to remain friends and amicably
communicate about all manner of things. His ONLY, and I mean only,
contribution financially to our arrangement was his agreement to pay
out the remaining payments of my car and insurance. He offered to do
this out of his self proclaimed desire to contribute to his daughter's
household.
About six weeks ago, he and his latest girlfriend/fiance, moved into a
fabulously new expensive house, in a fabulously expensive
neighborhood. When my daughter came home from visiting them, she was
acting out what I assumed were her insecurities about not being able
to spend more time with her real dad. I talked to him about it, asked
if he would consider letting her visit for two weeks before school
started. Initially he was reluctant, because his fiance has a 7 year
old son, and he wanted time for HIS family. He relented and she went
for a visit. While she was there, I only talked to her twice. During
this time he was trying to convince me that she should come live with
him now. I told him we could talk about it when he felt more settled
with his new situation and he reluctantly agreed. When I called to
make arangements for her to come home, my daughter was crying on the
phone because she wanted to come home, but her father and his fiance
had told her she was going to live with them.
Much arguing ensued, child was returned to me, ex took car back (which
was still in his name), and we have a court date set for 9/29/2004. Ex
is suing for PPC and wants daughter to visit me every other weekend.
His attorney suggested he tried to discuss terms w/ me before going to
court. Ex says he no longer thinks he wants to be PPC, but he doesn't
want to pay CS. I told him that I didn't want/need his *&^%$ing money
anyway, and I wasn't going to be on his payroll to do a job I was
doing already, I offered to let him give the car back and call it a
day. He said he already sold the car and was screwed because now he
would have to pay arrears to make up for it. So basically, he is still
seeking custody he doesn't want, so that he won't have to pay me money
I don't want.
Anyone ever see this before? What is the general consensus on how this
will turn out? Just for the record, we are both average middle class
people, no criminal records, no domestic violence, etc.. My husband
works, I work part time when my daughter is in school. My ex and his
fiance both work. No sudden changes have occured in our lives.
Any input would be helpful.