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Jeridiah
July 21st 03, 02:15 PM
Hello all,

Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
group).

My wife seems to prefer the iVillage group, of which I am sure there
is some crossover. Mostly a matter of our newsreader preferences I
think.

Anyways, hello to all and I will hopefully learn as much as possible
from you.

Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
appealing as well.

Thanks

Jeridiah

Astromum
July 21st 03, 02:29 PM
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.

Welcome!

> EDD is 3-14(pi day).

Yay! Another geek! Even more welcome! ;)

> Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?

No, we preferred the curiosity and made a uni-sex nursery.

--
-- Ilse
mom to Olaf (07/15/2002)
TTC #2
"What's the use of brains if you are a girl?"
Aletta Jacobs, first Dutch woman to receive a PhD

Ali's Daddie
July 21st 03, 02:57 PM
"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
om...
| Hello all,
|
| Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
| EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
| interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
| group).
|

Welcome! I am a new father, and am already looking for the next "vessel" for
our second :-)

|
| Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
| If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
| we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
| but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
| appealing as well.
|


We found out the sex of the baby. I was so tired of seeing yellow and green
that I was going to scream if I didn't get to buy a pink or a blue
*anything*. We thought a surprise would be fun, but financially it was
easier on us to know. I wanted my first to be either really girlie or really
boyish. Meaning blue everything or Pink everything, etc.. Ok, so it turns
out that yellow is my favorite color, and looks great on Alegra.. So we all
won lol.

I don't think I could have gone without knowing though. Maybe for our second
I can deal with a surprise, but I doubt it.

--

LES!

Daddie to Alegra Lee. May 25th 2003!
"Daddie's Little Diva"

before you reply to me via email, please remove your hat


Take a look at my eBay auctions I just might have something you can't live
without :-)
http://members.ebay.com/aboutme/dads2003/

Plissken
July 21st 03, 03:54 PM
"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
om...
> Hello all,
>
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> EDD is 3-14(pi day).

Welcome and congratulations!! I've already had my baby but am addicted to
this group so I still hang out here. I guess having had my child I can offer
advice to others.

> Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> appealing as well.

I did not want to know the sex of the baby. Having said that, curiosity got
the better of me at the ultrasound and I asked what sex it was. Fortunately,
the technician could not determine the sex because of the baby's position. I
am very glad I didn't find out as I feel it gave me extra motivation when it
came to pushing. I bought gender neutral clothing which can also be used for
the second child when he/she comes. I have yet to decorate a nursery as we
are selling our condo soon, but when I do I think I will also go for gender
neutral colours so it will be suitable for the next baby.

Nadene

Minx
July 21st 03, 04:52 PM
Hey :-)

Just popped out of lurkdom to answer this one, because it was one of the
first questions I posted on another pg newsgroup.

I have a son from a previous relationship, and with him, I chose not to know
what he was going to be.

This time round, I left the choice to my husband, because I had already had
the privilege of choosing
what to do before. He thought about it long and hard for a number of weeks,
before deciding that he thought it would be no less beneficial to find out
at the scan. His logic was that it would be a surprise whenever you found
out, that it would make the baby more "real"
and that some of the practical aspects could be easily addressed, like
choosing the name, (although that wasnt as easy as first anticipated).


So we did have the scan and ask, and it turns out we are having a girl.
Which is fab, because friends and family are all overladen with girls of
various ages and are busy compiling all their stuff to give to us :D


The results of the N/G post I made were pretty split about what to do. I
guess the end answer is to work out your own personal reasons for and
against finding out, and then go with the one that makes you most
comfortable.

Congratumalations on the pregnancy :)


"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
om...
> Hello all,
>
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
> interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
> group).
>
> My wife seems to prefer the iVillage group, of which I am sure there
> is some crossover. Mostly a matter of our newsreader preferences I
> think.
>
> Anyways, hello to all and I will hopefully learn as much as possible
> from you.
>
> Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> appealing as well.
>
> Thanks
>
> Jeridiah

Jeridiah
July 21st 03, 06:47 PM
"Plissken" > wrote in message >...
> "Jeridiah" > wrote in message
> om...
> > Hello all,
> >
> > Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> > EDD is 3-14(pi day).
>
> Welcome and congratulations!! I've already had my baby but am addicted to
> this group so I still hang out here. I guess having had my child I can offer
> advice to others.
>
> > Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> > If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> > we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> > but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> > appealing as well.
>
> I did not want to know the sex of the baby. Having said that, curiosity got
> the better of me at the ultrasound and I asked what sex it was. Fortunately,
> the technician could not determine the sex because of the baby's position. I
> am very glad I didn't find out as I feel it gave me extra motivation when it
> came to pushing. I bought gender neutral clothing which can also be used for
> the second child when he/she comes. I have yet to decorate a nursery as we
> are selling our condo soon, but when I do I think I will also go for gender
> neutral colours so it will be suitable for the next baby.
>
> Nadene

Interesting side note to this: Talking to a friend the other night,
and when her sister was pregnant with their last "one", they had
requested to not be told of the sex of the baby. The doctor(s) had
been doing the other regular checks for heartbeat, etc but apparently
the babies had been playing hide and seek the whole time and one was
always "hiding" during her checkups. Big surprise at that delivery -
for everyone! Can't imagine what that scene was like. :)

Jeridiah

Sue
July 21st 03, 08:31 PM
Congratulations.

We tried to find out with each child, but the children didn't cooperate. So,
I didn't know for any of them. I do like the element of surprise though.
--
Sue
mom to three girls

Jeridiah > wrote in message
om...
> Hello all,
>
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
> interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
> group).
>
> My wife seems to prefer the iVillage group, of which I am sure there
> is some crossover. Mostly a matter of our newsreader preferences I
> think.
>
> Anyways, hello to all and I will hopefully learn as much as possible
> from you.
>
> Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> appealing as well.
>
> Thanks
>
> Jeridiah

Alicia Elliott
July 21st 03, 09:18 PM
Welcome to MKP Jeridiah, and congrats on becoming a dad for the first time.
: ) I am expecting my first kid too, and my hubby is all a flutter. I bet
you are excited too eh? I know that I have found this group to be very
helpful over the last several months, and now that my time is coming to an
end, it's nice to know there are people out there rooting for me, even
people I don't know. : )

All the best to you and your wife, I hope her pregnancy goes smoothly.

-Alicia


"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
om...
> Hello all,
>
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
> interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
> group).
>
> My wife seems to prefer the iVillage group, of which I am sure there
> is some crossover. Mostly a matter of our newsreader preferences I
> think.
>
> Anyways, hello to all and I will hopefully learn as much as possible
> from you.
>
> Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> appealing as well.
>
> Thanks
>
> Jeridiah

Plissken
July 22nd 03, 12:51 PM
"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
om...
> "Plissken" > wrote in message
>...
> > "Jeridiah" > wrote in message
> > om...
> > > Hello all,
> > >
> > > Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> > > EDD is 3-14(pi day).
> >
> > Welcome and congratulations!! I've already had my baby but am addicted
to
> > this group so I still hang out here. I guess having had my child I can
offer
> > advice to others.
> >
> > > Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> > > If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> > > we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> > > but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> > > appealing as well.
> >
> > I did not want to know the sex of the baby. Having said that, curiosity
got
> > the better of me at the ultrasound and I asked what sex it was.
Fortunately,
> > the technician could not determine the sex because of the baby's
position. I
> > am very glad I didn't find out as I feel it gave me extra motivation
when it
> > came to pushing. I bought gender neutral clothing which can also be used
for
> > the second child when he/she comes. I have yet to decorate a nursery as
we
> > are selling our condo soon, but when I do I think I will also go for
gender
> > neutral colours so it will be suitable for the next baby.
> >
> > Nadene
>
> Interesting side note to this: Talking to a friend the other night,
> and when her sister was pregnant with their last "one", they had
> requested to not be told of the sex of the baby. The doctor(s) had
> been doing the other regular checks for heartbeat, etc but apparently
> the babies had been playing hide and seek the whole time and one was
> always "hiding" during her checkups. Big surprise at that delivery -
> for everyone! Can't imagine what that scene was like. :)
>
> Jeridiah


Wow! That would be quite the surprise! You'd have to run out and buy seconds
of everything.

Nadene

Em
July 22nd 03, 08:31 PM
"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
> interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
> group).

Congratulations & welcome to the group! (there aren't usually this many
trolls--some people out there must be having boring summers or something).

> Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> If so, why? If not, why? My wife is asking what I want to do when
> we get to that stage. I am not really sure. I would like to know,
> but also think letting things happen and finding out at the moment is
> appealing as well.

We decided to find out. I felt like it would make the baby more "real" to me
to know (and it did). We also wanted to get psyched up for whichever one we
were having as opposed to be surprised at the actual birth.

--
Em
& a small son edd 9/23/03
(31 weeks today!)

aps
July 22nd 03, 09:13 PM
In article <YhgTa.120804$H17.37514@sccrnsc02>, Em
> wrote:

>
> We decided to find out. I felt like it would make the baby more "real" to me
> to know (and it did). We also wanted to get psyched up for whichever one we
> were having as opposed to be surprised at the actual birth.
>

We decided not to find out, and I regretted it throughout the
pregnancy. My whole point was that I knew I wanted a girl, and I wanted
some time to accept it if it was a boy. My wife thought it would be
more fun and that the intensity of the moment would wipe away any
disappointment. She expected and wanted a boy.

As it turned out, we had a girl, and I was elated and very, very
relieved. I'm a little ashamed of that to be honest. My wife was
disappointed along with lots of other intense emotions, none of which
really wiped another away. Above all, finding out was thrilling. But so
is a good suspense movie.

8 weeks later, I sometimes see our daughter as a boy--I think it's
because I had preconceived ideas of what it'd be like to raise a girl
and she's pretty much just a little critter at this point.

APS

Shelly
July 22nd 03, 10:27 PM
"Jeridiah" > wrote in message
om...
> Hello all,
>
> Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
> EDD is 3-14(pi day). So far this has been an informative and
> interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
> group).

Hi Jeridiah,

Congrats and welcome! I'm also due with my first on 3-14. Hope you stick
around despite the trolls.

We've tentatively decided not to find out...but we'll probably change our
minds a few times between now and the first ultrasound.

....and I'll get in my own little "Go geeks!" cheer here.:)
-Michelle

==Daye==
July 22nd 03, 10:41 PM
On 21 Jul 2003 06:15:02 -0700, (Jeridiah)
wrote:

>Been lurking since finding out my wife is pregnant with our first.
>EDD is 3-14(pi day).

Congrats!

>So far this has been an informative and
>interesting group(aside from the inordinate amount of trolls on this
>group).

Our trolls are nothing. You should see the trolls on misc.kids.

>Question: Did you find out the sex of your new baby before the birth?
> If so, why? If not, why?

Yes, because both me and my DH wanted to know.

--
==Daye==
Momma to Jayan
#2 EDD 11 Jan 2004
E-mail: brendana AT labyrinth DOT net DOT au

zeldabee
July 23rd 03, 12:50 AM
aps > wrote:
[...]
> As it turned out, we had a girl, and I was elated and very, very
> relieved. I'm a little ashamed of that to be honest. My wife was
> disappointed along with lots of other intense emotions, none of which
> really wiped another away. Above all, finding out was thrilling. But so
> is a good suspense movie.

That's interesting...I'd always envisioned myself having a girl, and before
being pregnant, I remember actively wanting a girl/not wanting a boy. Then,
once I was pregnant, I wondered how I'd feel if it turned out I was to have
a boy. Bloke has daughters, and I knew he'd be thrilled to have a son. But
I really didn't know how I'd feel.

Then, at 16 weeks, I had an amnio done, and had a complication. I leaked
some amniotic fluid shortly after the procedure, which was very scary, and
I was terrified that I was going to lose the baby. I was absolutely beside
myself. I spent the night in hospital on IV fluids.

The next morning, they did a sonogram to check the fluid level (it was
fine), and the tech asked me if I'd wanted to know the sex, and I said yes.
We just happened to have a really clear view...she pointed out the legs,
and the little penis. And I was just overwhelmed by emotion, both because
he was apparently fine, and a little boy. Suddenly he was a person to me,
and I think that was when I started to love him.

That was just my own experience...I think it's interesting that my feelings
turned around so instantaneously. I still sometimes feel wistful when I see
a little girl, especially since this baby is likely to be my only child,
but now I can't imagine this baby being anything other than a boy. I'm glad
I found out my baby's sex when I did...and now I can't wait to meet him.

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