What if the ultrasound tech was wrong??!

[Nina]

As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me. God,
I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby quilt,
so I hope the thing was correct.
I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do but
worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)

--
A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning
unnecessary.
----Dorothy Canfield Fisher----

[~*~ Jess ~*~]

I had that fear when I was pregnant with DD - with DS I didn't even stop to
think about it. I had so wanted a girl and the u/s had said I was finally
getting one. Of course I had that fear that she was going to be a he. I was
asked more than once while I was in labor what I was going to do if she
ended up being a boy - I said "he's not going to have a name for awhile, and
he's going to wear pink." Belle was born a few hours later ;-)

It's normal, I don't think the fear goes away, but it's totally normal.

--
Jess
Mommy of:
Bubba (11/96)
Belle (12/01)

"Nina" > wrote in message
...
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
> the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
God,
> I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
> the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
> child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby
quilt,
> so I hope the thing was correct.
> I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do
but
> worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)
>
> --
> A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning
> unnecessary.
> ----Dorothy Canfield Fisher----
>
>

[Alicia Elliott]

Oh Nina, I sincerely hope they are right. I know that there are always
chances for them to be wrong, but try not to think about it. The good thing
is that a little one won't know or care what colours it is wearing, or that
the room is designed for the opposite sex. That kind of awareness doesn't
come till much later. So you'll be the only one feeling a bit off about it.
I'll cross my fingers for you. : )
-Alicia


"Nina" > wrote in message
...
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
> the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
God,
> I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
> the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
> child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby
quilt,
> so I hope the thing was correct.
> I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do
but
> worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)
>
> --
> A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning
> unnecessary.
> ----Dorothy Canfield Fisher----
>
>

[jjmoreta]

"Nina" > wrote in message
...
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
> the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
God,
> I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
> the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
> child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby
quilt,
> so I hope the thing was correct.
> I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do
but
> worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)
>
> --
> A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning
> unnecessary.
> ----Dorothy Canfield Fisher----
>

*sigh* At least you get the chance to find out. I'm dealing with the same
issues somewhat because we REALLY want a boy, and all the clothes I'm
getting from my family are for boys (last two cousins have been boys). I
have firmly made up my mind that if it is a girl, she will likely take after
me and be a tomboy anyways, so she's going to just wear blue until I'm out
of hand-me-downs (and wear one of those frilly headbands out in public to
ward off strangers comments). I have hedged my bets with a few pink outfits
I found at a garage sale this weekend, though. 8)

My mother had my brother 15 mos after my sister. They were military so
didn't have a lot of money. She told me that my brother only had a few boy
outfits for a long time, and wore pink and frilly stuff at home. When he
was born, she started buying more unisex basic clothes for my sister (less
ruffles) so he could wear them later too. Makes sense to me.

I wish you all the luck in that the u/s tech was right!

- Joanne
25w6d

[Em]

"Nina" > wrote in message
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
> the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
God,
> I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
> the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
> child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby
quilt,
> so I hope the thing was correct.
> I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do
but
> worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)

This has crossed my mind recently as well. The baby is sharing our room and
so doesn't have a themed nursery and we're not much into "color-coding" so
he has lots of neutral clothes, but even so I've had this little image of my
little boy baby in my head since my 21 week ultrasound and I think it would
*really* throw me off if the tech made a mistake. It is not that the sex
matters really (in fact I thought I was having a girl before the ultrasound)
and the baby certainly doesn't know the difference, it is just that thinking
of him as a boy is part of this baby's identity to me now and if they were
wrong it would make me feel a little bit like I accidentally got the wrong
baby! I'm pretty sure they weren't wrong though and the doctor who did it
said they have just about 100% accuracy, but still, it has crossed my mind,
so I know where you're coming from a little :-)

--
Em
edd 9/23/03

[Daye]

On Mon, 4 Aug 2003 12:38:54 -0500, "jjmoreta" >
wrote:

>(and wear one of those frilly headbands out in public to
>ward off strangers comments)

It won't work. I had my darling DD dressed in pink from head to toe,
and I still had a couple of people ask me how old my SON was. Some
people don't seem to get clues about the baby's sex from clothing.

--
Daye
Momma to Jayan
EDD 11 Jan 2004

[Daye]

On Mon, 04 Aug 2003 03:38:32 GMT, "Nina" >
wrote:

>As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
>the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.

Which is why I bought only unisex clothes for my first before she was
born. Pink is not my favorite color. In fact, I hate it. So she
only had a few pink outfits. She also didn't have many frilly outfits
as I didn't see them as practical. She does have some dresses, but
they were bought *after* she was born.

Girls can get away with blue. DD has spent a lot of her life in blue
-- it is one of my favorite colors. I think it is harder to pass off
a boy in all pink. However, if you have sweater that is primarily
another color, but has pink in it, a boy can def. wear that.

I have no idea what the second is yet. I will not have a huge problem
with my second wearing the clothes bought for the first, except that
DD was born in the middle of winter and #2 is to be born in the middle
of summer (for Australia).

I will tell you that the baby will not care what it is wearing so long
as it is comfortable and weather appropriate.

--
Daye
Momma to Jayan
EDD 11 Jan 2004

[Kereru]

"Nina" > wrote in message
...
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
> the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
God,
> I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
> the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
> child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby
quilt,
> so I hope the thing was correct.
> I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do
but
> worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)
>
> --
> A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning
> unnecessary.
> ----Dorothy Canfield Fisher----
>
>

You really need to keep an open mind about the baby's sex. They are
sometimes wrong, I have heard of people who have trouble bonding when the
"wrong" sex comes out. Just keep in the back of your mind that it could be
wrong, imagine yourself with a baby of the other sex every now and then,
pick a back up name. Don't worry about the nursery the baby won't give two
hoots, I know it's expensive but it's only money with is nothing compared to
your relationship with your baby that's the important thing.

I haven't decorated a nursery for either of my babies even though we are 99%
sure on the sex this time. Decorating the nursery is really for your benifit
rather than baby's (nothing wrong with that of course) it will be ages
before the baby even notices it's room. However I a am having a great time
decorating my two year olds new room because I not only know his sex but I
know him! and he will really enjoy it.

I see this as the one main problem with learning the baby's sex by
ultrasound. It never even occured to me until my niece Maggie was born a
Jimmy!

Good Luck

Judy

[Buzzy Bee]

On Mon, 04 Aug 2003 03:38:32 GMT, "Nina" >
wrote:
but then again I might just have mucked up the snipping as usual!
>As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
>the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me. God,
>I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
>the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
>child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby quilt,
>so I hope the thing was correct.
>I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do but
>worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)

We had panics like this too. About 3 weeks before S was born DH came
through and read to me from name books at 2 in the morning! The
result is that we have a name picked out for a daughter now. The tech
was right however.

If my next baby is a girl she will be wearing the wrong colour clothes
for a year anyway, but I don't think it will scar her for life!

Megan
--
Seoras David Montgomery, 7 May 2003, 17 hours: sunrise to sunset (homebirth)
Seoras' story: http://seoras.farr-montgomery.com

To e-mail use: megan at farr-montgomery dot com

[Puester]

Nina wrote:
>
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my handiwork,
> the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me. God,
> I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so in
> the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for a
> child of the opposite sex.And I am SO not going to make another baby quilt,
> so I hope the thing was correct.
> I guess I've done allthe preparation I need to do, so nothing left to do but
> worry for the next 12 weeks or so! :)
>
> --



The baby will never notice. You're the only one who will care.
(Yes, they are wrong occasionally.)

gloria p

[Nina]

"Stephanie and Tim" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Nina" > wrote in message
> ...
> > As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my
handiwork,
> > the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
> God,
> > I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so
in
> > the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for
a
> > child of the opposite sex.
>
>
> You will be the only one who cares. The baby will not care one whit!
>
I know, Im the one posting to Usenet while the baby lounges happily :)

[Nina]

"Daye" > wrote > I will tell you that the baby will not
care what it is wearing so long
> as it is comfortable and weather appropriate.

Yeah, Im more worried about ME :)

[Nina]

"Stephanie and Tim" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Nina" > wrote in message
> ...
> > As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring my
handiwork,
> > the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what they said it was, gripped me.
> God,
> > I can't even imagine the poor baby going about for the next year or so
in
> > the wrong colored clothes, and living in a room decorated expressly for
a
> > child of the opposite sex.
>
>
> You will be the only one who cares. The baby will not care one whit!
>
I know, Im the one posting to Usenet while the baby lounges happily :)

[Nina]

"Daye" > wrote > I will tell you that the baby will not
care what it is wearing so long
> as it is comfortable and weather appropriate.

Yeah, Im more worried about ME :)

[newfy]

"Nina" > wrote in message
...
> Phew! Please, nobody tell me stories of babies who WERENT what they had
been
> told to expect, I need to keep hope alive. :)

Okay, you asked ;)

Seriously though. We are planning on trying to find out this time around
too. The baby won't give a hoot, but can understand you feeling frustrated
if you've spent time decorating and shopping for a certain gender.
--
JennP.
mom to matthew 10/11/00
EDD 4/4/04

[FROGS GIRL]

I am a L& D nurse and have seen 3 mistakes in 4 years.

Tonya

[zeldabee]

"newfy" > wrote:
> "Nina" > wrote...
> > Phew! Please, nobody tell me stories of babies who WERENT what they had
> > been told to expect, I need to keep hope alive. :)
>
> Okay, you asked ;)
>
> Seriously though. We are planning on trying to find out this time around
> too. The baby won't give a hoot, but can understand you feeling
> frustrated if you've spent time decorating and shopping for a certain
> gender.

I guess that's one advantage to having had an amnio--it confirmed what we
saw in the ultrasound. Not that I'm too worried about colors, mind you, but
everyone in my family knows I'm having a boy, so I'd imagine we'll end up
with lots of blue stuff.

--
z e l d a b e e @ p a n i x . c o m http://NewsReader.Com/

[Cheryl S.]

Nina > wrote in message
...
> As I was painting even more stuff for the baby and admiring
> my handiwork, the sudden fear that the baby is NOT what
> they said it was, gripped me.

A couple night ago I skimmed the headers here on mkp just before going
to bed, and I think because of this subject line, I had a dream that I
had the baby and he was a girl, lol! I was so freaked out in the dream,
and kept wondering how we were going to choose a name since we haven't
looked at girls' names at all.

The possibility of them being wrong was my main reason for not wanting
to find out, actually, but curiosity overcame me. We found out last
time too (and they were right), but even though we knew Julie was a
girl, we chose predominantly blue stuff for the crib so it could be used
again regardless, since we'd planned on two kids.

I found that once you get to size 3-6 months and larger, it's almost
impossible to find uni-sex style clothing. At least you got it all
used. Maybe if they were wrong, you can re-sell the larger stuff and
use the money to get some other clothing, so you don't have to put up
with having the "wrong" clothes for a whole year.
--
Cheryl S.
Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 4 mo.
And a boy, EDD 4.Sept

Cleaning the house while your children are small is like
shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing.

[annafine]

To everyone with the fear that the u/s tech may have been wrong:

I personally know someone that had that happen to her. A former
coworker of mine had 3 boys and was pregnant with her 4th child...it
WAS supposed to be a girl.

Since the youngest of her boys was supposed to be their last child,
everyone at work held a Baby Shower for her...about 98% of the things
she got at the Baby Shower were pink, lacey/frilly, and most
definately for a GIRL.

When the Baby was born a BOY, Mom, Dad, Doctors were ALL shocked!

The Mom said that for about the first week she "checked" to make sure
that her baby was "still a boy" every time she changed his diaper.

This little boy will be 2 yrs old this October.

Side note: My baby is supposed to be a girl (EDD October 18, 2003).
I must admit that I have bought a few girlish things and some dresses,
but MOST of what I myself have bought for the baby is unisex clothes.
IF I should happen to have a boy, HE will wear a purple and white
checked dress home from the hospital (I had my Dad pick out something
for Baby to come home in, and that's what he picked).

***I'm keeping my fingers crossed because 1) I don't want to have to
put a dress on a boy to leave the hospital. 2) My husband and I have
been calling our baby by the name we plan to give her and referring to
the baby as 'her', 'she', etc. for about the past 2 months!

Anna

[Nina]

*closing eyes*
I cant see this! I can't see this!
That will be the worst for me, not the wrong clothes, but that we have been
calling the baby by name for months now. Especially my husband, since he was
convinced since conception that it would be what he wnted and has insisted
since then on calling the child by name.

"annafine" > wrote in message
om...
> To everyone with the fear that the u/s tech may have been wrong:
>
> I personally know someone that had that happen to her. A former
> coworker of mine had 3 boys and was pregnant with her 4th child...it
> WAS supposed to be a girl.
>
> Since the youngest of her boys was supposed to be their last child,
> everyone at work held a Baby Shower for her...about 98% of the things
> she got at the Baby Shower were pink, lacey/frilly, and most
> definately for a GIRL.
>
> When the Baby was born a BOY, Mom, Dad, Doctors were ALL shocked!
>
> The Mom said that for about the first week she "checked" to make sure
> that her baby was "still a boy" every time she changed his diaper.
>
> This little boy will be 2 yrs old this October.
>
> Side note: My baby is supposed to be a girl (EDD October 18, 2003).
> I must admit that I have bought a few girlish things and some dresses,
> but MOST of what I myself have bought for the baby is unisex clothes.
> IF I should happen to have a boy, HE will wear a purple and white
> checked dress home from the hospital (I had my Dad pick out something
> for Baby to come home in, and that's what he picked).
>
> ***I'm keeping my fingers crossed because 1) I don't want to have to
> put a dress on a boy to leave the hospital. 2) My husband and I have
> been calling our baby by the name we plan to give her and referring to
> the baby as 'her', 'she', etc. for about the past 2 months!
>
> Anna