Need some re-assurance

[MRC403]

My wife is 6 weeks along on aug 4 and it is our first. Everything seemed to be
going just wonderful. Dr ordered a trans-vaginal ultrsound last
thursday(because she had a little discharge) to be done on friday my wife saw
the "dot" and was thrilled. On saturday she began bleeding late in the
afternoon (not spotting) we rushed to the emergency room and we honestly
thought the worst was happening. they did another trans vaginal ultrasound at
the hospital and all seemed fine and her cervix was closed. (she did stop
bleeding total blood about 1 pad) they were very clear that this is a critical
stage but all still seemed intact. they took her blood and her hormone level
was still increasing .We were told it was at a normal level. Sunday just a
teeny bit of spotting and that was it. Because of the hospital visit saturday
her dr wanted to see her monday so we went (nervous as hell by the way) Doctor
said all really seemed fine felt her uterus and was ok with it told us that we
will do an ultrasound next monday aug 11 at that point we should see heartbeat.
That will be exactly 7 weeks. here is the problem. my wifes breasts have
stopped hurting her although she is still always nauciaus (how do you spell
that?) I told her all is fine but she is really obsessing over it she actually
told me today i am not sure i "feel pregnant" i told her she is feeling sick
for a reason and I am sure all is ok. she called me upset because she couldn't
go to work because she feels so bad.

so tell me group is this normal? I think it is but nothing i say seems to help.
I am new but could use your expertise

Thanks so much

[Daye]

On 05 Aug 2003 22:02:53 GMT, (MRC403) wrote:

>so tell me group is this normal? I think it is but nothing i say seems to help.

Some spotting in early pregnancy is normal.

--
Daye
Momma to Jayan
EDD 11 Jan 2004

[Shelly]

"MRC403" > wrote in message
...
my wifes breasts have
> stopped hurting her although she is still always nauciaus (how do you
spell
> that?) I told her all is fine but she is really obsessing over it she
actually
> told me today i am not sure i "feel pregnant" i told her she is feeling
sick
> for a reason and I am sure all is ok. she called me upset because she
couldn't
> go to work because she feels so bad.
>
> so tell me group is this normal? I think it is but nothing i say seems to
help.
> I am new but could use your expertise
>
> Thanks so much

I'm at about the same point your wife is, and have noticed that my breasts
will hurt for a while, and then the won't hurt at all for a few days or even
a week...it comes and goes, and I think that is normal.

Best wishes for both of you,


--
Michelle
critter edd 3/14/03

[jjmoreta]

"MRC403" > wrote in message
...
> My wife is 6 weeks along on aug 4 and it is our first. Everything seemed
to be
> going just wonderful. Dr ordered a trans-vaginal ultrsound last
> thursday(because she had a little discharge) to be done on friday my wife
saw
> the "dot" and was thrilled. On saturday she began bleeding late in the
> afternoon (not spotting) we rushed to the emergency room and we honestly
> thought the worst was happening. they did another trans vaginal
ultrasound at
> the hospital and all seemed fine and her cervix was closed. (she did stop
> bleeding total blood about 1 pad) they were very clear that this is a
critical
> stage but all still seemed intact. they took her blood and her hormone
level
> was still increasing .We were told it was at a normal level. Sunday just a
> teeny bit of spotting and that was it. Because of the hospital visit
saturday
> her dr wanted to see her monday so we went (nervous as hell by the way)
Doctor
> said all really seemed fine felt her uterus and was ok with it told us
that we
> will do an ultrasound next monday aug 11 at that point we should see
heartbeat.
> That will be exactly 7 weeks. here is the problem. my wifes breasts have
> stopped hurting her although she is still always nauciaus (how do you
spell
> that?) I told her all is fine but she is really obsessing over it she
actually
> told me today i am not sure i "feel pregnant" i told her she is feeling
sick
> for a reason and I am sure all is ok. she called me upset because she
couldn't
> go to work because she feels so bad.
>
> so tell me group is this normal? I think it is but nothing i say seems to
help.
> I am new but could use your expertise
>
> Thanks so much

Last December, I was about 8 weeks pregnant when I totally lost all of my
symptoms. My breasts went from screaming at having a seat belt put across
them to nothing. A few days later I started spotting. A week and a half
later I had a miscarriage.

This April, I was about 6-7 weeks pregnant when I totally lost all of my
symptoms. My breasts weren't as tender as with the previous pregnancy to
begin with, but even my nausea went away. I freaked until I was able to see
the heartbeat at 8 weeks. My symptoms came back in spurts. I'm now 26
weeks with a healthy pregnancy.

You don't need to share those details with your wife (first trimester is a
very scary and worrisome time for a lot of us), but what I was trying to
illustrate is that symptoms have nothing to do with the health of the
pregnancy. There are women who don't have pregnancy symptoms at all. There
are women who don't even start feeling sick until after 6 weeks or more.
Acknowledge her feelings of fear and comfort her as best as you can - the
hormones can often make normal feelings of fear explode into panic.

And if nothing else, remind her that the nausea is still a very positive
pregnancy symptom. I would be careful with this though, because if that
symptom goes away too, she might really turn into a mess. I can tell you
that I was! It's a long wait for the ultrasound, but once you see your
baby's heartbeat on the monitor, it's worth it, because the risk of
miscarriage drops dramatically once you do. Make sure you steel yourselves
in case you don't - in some cases you may not see it for a few more days to
a week, particularly if the pregnancy timing is off (due to late ovulation,
implantation, etc). I had too early of an ultrasound the first time so we
never saw it (if it ever beat at all), so I made sure I waited this second
time to ease my fears.

The ultrasound may also indicate why she was bleeding. I know one woman who
shares my due month on another group who had problems with a pool of blood
formed by the developing placenta burrowing into the uterine lining. She
spotted for a long time, but eventually it went away. Other women in my due
month group have spotted throughout their pregnancy, but the ultrasounds
tell them that the baby is healthy and everything is fine.

I wish you both luck!

- Joanne
#1 - 26w

[Carol Ann]

:: I'm at about the same point your wife is, and have noticed that my
breasts
:: will hurt for a while, and then the won't hurt at all for a few days or
even
:: a week...it comes and goes, and I think that is normal.

First let me say that I wish for all of us healthy full term pregnancies.
(Miscarriage mentioned below.)

I am glad you mentioned that your breasts stopped hurting for a while.

I'm about 5 - 7 weeks along. My first OB exam is on the 11th. I had
soreness in my right breast and pain in my lower left abdomen (where I think
my ovary is). I've determined from what I've read here that it could be due
to ligaments stretching.

No nauseau, no spotting, no nothing. Now, my nipples (can I say that here)
are a bit sore, but nothing major like a few days ago. If the test didn't
register positive 2 times I would not even know I was pregnant.

My girlfriend, OTOH, told me today that she lost her baby. Very sad. She
was about 11 weeks along. She said she had spotting but no pain and that
her naseau and tender breasts went away a few days ago. She went in and the
doctor told her that no heartbeat was detected. She goes in for her
"procedure" tomorrow morning.

Having said all of that, again, I wish for all of us healthy fullterm
pregnancies. The 11th still seems a lifetime away.....I just want to get
the OB exam done!!!

~Carol Ann

[Ilse Witch]

MRC403 wrote:

> so tell me group is this normal? I think it is but nothing i say seems to help.
> I am new but could use your expertise
>

Note: m/c mentioned below!

Pregnancy symptoms can vary enormously between one woman and the next, and
also between one pregnancy and the next in the same woman. It is really
hard to tell what is normal and what is not, and I know from experience
that the mind is perfectly capable of driving you totally nuts if you try
to decide on symptoms only what's happening.

First off (this sounds harsh) there is not much you can do if things go
wrong at this stage. Nature has a build-in safety catch, and so embryos
that have a serious development problem in the early phases will usually
stop growing and the woman will miscarry. At present we know of a pregnancy
so early that it is emotionally very hard on a woman if this happens, while
a few decades ago most women would just have discarded it as a late perdiod.

Here's some advice for you on how to deal with this: first off, let your
wife talk and don't try to persuade her into positive or negative thoughts.
It's her feelings that count, she is feeling what she does and will not
change her mind about it if you tell her it's either good or bad. But she
needs to get it off her mind. Try to take her out, do fun things together,
anything to get both your minds of this, and relax. Really, stress hormones
do not improve the situation. And keep in mind: the pregnancy hormones
raging through her body will make it only worse, so be lenient.

I do hope all turns out to be fine. I know how stressful this can be, I've
been through it myself.

--
-- I
mommy to DS (13m)
guardian of DH
TTC #2
War doesn't decide who's right - only who's left