Mr. X
August 9th 03, 05:54 PM
> wrote in message
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> Has anyone ever tried to make an extended trip with a toddler, leaving
> behind a very bonded other parent? My daughter is 18 months old. In
> the next couple of months we would really like to take her to see my
> very old grandma, who lives a long and expensive plane flight away.
> I can't imagine going for less than a week and usually plan about a 10
> day trip. Finances and other considerations will probably prevent my
> husband from traveling with us, much as he would like to, and my
> grandma's age makes waiting much longer risky. I'm just worried how
> my daughter will react to leaving her Daddy behind--not to mention the
> other family and friends she sees regularly. She and he are very
> close: we share childcare duties and he sees more of her during the
> work week days than I do. She won't know anyone but me where we're
> going. What do you think my chances are?
Depends on what you are trying to accomplish?
In and out? Minimize frustration? Ease of traveling? Should be fine.
My wife and I do this between Europe and California.
But the above should not be the goal.
My wife wants to watch grandma see the little girl.
And she wants to watch the girl watch grandma.
And she wants to watch me watch the girl watch grandma watching the girl
watching mom watching me watching the girl....
This is not a tongue twister and I think you get the idea.
The memories of the family bond might one day be lost upon the girl.
But it will not be lost upon you as you reflect on your daughter as she
grows older.
So, we find a way to get the money for all of us to go.
We just find a way.
> Thanks,
>
> Beth, mother of Margaret, 18 months
...
> Has anyone ever tried to make an extended trip with a toddler, leaving
> behind a very bonded other parent? My daughter is 18 months old. In
> the next couple of months we would really like to take her to see my
> very old grandma, who lives a long and expensive plane flight away.
> I can't imagine going for less than a week and usually plan about a 10
> day trip. Finances and other considerations will probably prevent my
> husband from traveling with us, much as he would like to, and my
> grandma's age makes waiting much longer risky. I'm just worried how
> my daughter will react to leaving her Daddy behind--not to mention the
> other family and friends she sees regularly. She and he are very
> close: we share childcare duties and he sees more of her during the
> work week days than I do. She won't know anyone but me where we're
> going. What do you think my chances are?
Depends on what you are trying to accomplish?
In and out? Minimize frustration? Ease of traveling? Should be fine.
My wife and I do this between Europe and California.
But the above should not be the goal.
My wife wants to watch grandma see the little girl.
And she wants to watch the girl watch grandma.
And she wants to watch me watch the girl watch grandma watching the girl
watching mom watching me watching the girl....
This is not a tongue twister and I think you get the idea.
The memories of the family bond might one day be lost upon the girl.
But it will not be lost upon you as you reflect on your daughter as she
grows older.
So, we find a way to get the money for all of us to go.
We just find a way.
> Thanks,
>
> Beth, mother of Margaret, 18 months