How to stop him?
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen? Thanks for your help. Jan |
How to stop him?
"Janet" wrote in message ... My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen? Thanks for your help. He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own turf as you do. Jan |
How to stop him?
"Janet" wrote My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen? == How is it that she got so turned against her father? That doesn't normally happen without some Parental Alienation Syndrome, especially in a child that young. Why do you not wish her to have a relationship with her father? You are no more her parent than he is. You do not own that child. If you want him out of her life, why did you file for child support? Did you really expect to take the money and run? You aren't looking so good here. It wouldn't surprise me if the judge agrees. Normally, when a custodial mom comes here with this kind of story, she suddenly comes back with "he was abusive" in an attempt to justify her turning the child against the dad to keep him away from her. So, do you now have an abuse story? |
How to stop him?
Janet wrote: My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen? Thanks for your help. Jan You don't have a clue. Do you? The little one is his too. You're the one responsible to see to it they have a loving and healthy relationship. Where did she get the idea dad was a bad guy anyway? It's not genetic. I'll give you a hint... YOU! What sort of message are you sending your "Little" girl about men and relationships? Your attitude wreaks of feminisim. Kids need BOTH parents. Wake up and stop the bull**** kitten. Who the hell are you to judge his motives? Perhaps it would be a better idea to post this trash to a feminist audience. Not to parents |
How to stop him?
"Janet" wrote in message ... My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen? It's going to be up to you to make this easy for her. The judge almost certaily will assign him time with his chld. So you need to start talking about all the wonderful things little girls can do with their fathers. Talk to him, and arrange for the 3 of you to start doing some things together--go out for a hamburger, go see a movie, etc. Laugh with him, talk with him. Let HER see what a nice man he is. (You obviously did more thatn laugh and talk at one point in time, or she wouldn't be here) Let her see the man you cared enough about to create her. YOU have the power to help this happen without trauma. Be a loving mother to your daughter and help her get to know and love her daddy. |
How to stop him?
"Janet" wrote in She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I don't get it, you say she doesn't hardly knows the man, but has been in therapy previously and spending time with him will set her back? Since when does a parent's love do damage to a child? Perhaps the reason your boyfriend was absent all these years is because you shut him out from your daughter's life? Let me guess, you filed for C$ money just in time before her 6th birthday, so the state can legally collect arrearages from the time of birth? Did you really think you were going to collect a $30,000 check with no strings attached or did all your girlfriends not tell you about that part? If you are really serious about stopping him and you were being truthful, then drop the CS case. If he's really not interested, he will go away!!!!!!!!!! |
How to stop him?
It's kind of funny, isn't it? The girlfriends are all full of advice about
"divorce him", "sue him", and all sorts of stuff, yet nobody figures that there might be a backlash. Only loads of free money... Seems like women think that the pussy is just a ticket for a free ride. "Dale" wrote in message . net... "Janet" wrote in She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I don't get it, you say she doesn't hardly knows the man, but has been in therapy previously and spending time with him will set her back? Since when does a parent's love do damage to a child? Perhaps the reason your boyfriend was absent all these years is because you shut him out from your daughter's life? Let me guess, you filed for C$ money just in time before her 6th birthday, so the state can legally collect arrearages from the time of birth? Did you really think you were going to collect a $30,000 check with no strings attached or did all your girlfriends not tell you about that part? If you are really serious about stopping him and you were being truthful, then drop the CS case. If he's really not interested, he will go away!!!!!!!!!! -- The Source For Premium Newsgroup Access Great Speed, Great Retention 1 GB/Day for only $8.95 |
How to stop him?
"Janet" wrote in message ... My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen? Thanks for your help. Parenting time plans are used to establish CS awards. CS can be set administratively and then get court approval. Parenting time plans require separate approval and can only be set by the courts. Your child's father is not doing anything unusual. From the tone of your original post it sounds like you might have some control issues. Since the two of you had a child together your lives will be intertwined forever through the child. Get used to it and stop trying to drive her father away. |
How to stop him?
"Mr. Anonymous" wrote in Seems like women think that the pussy is just a ticket for a free ride. Yes, there wouldn't be much of an incentive to pop out kids if it was just basic support they were going to get, but the idea they can collect a large portion of money, based on the percentage of a man's income is what's really driving these greedy mommas to hunt there missing ex down. Maybe he wouldn't be missing if the CS rates were not so bleeding high? |
How to stop him?
"Mr. Anonymous" wrote in message t.com... It's kind of funny, isn't it? The girlfriends are all full of advice about "divorce him", "sue him", and all sorts of stuff, yet nobody figures that there might be a backlash. Only loads of free money... Seems like women think that the pussy is just a ticket for a free ride. For many, it is and just as many men haven't figured it out yet. Phil #3 "Dale" wrote in message . net... "Janet" wrote in She hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house. She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her back if she is forced to go visiting him. I don't get it, you say she doesn't hardly knows the man, but has been in therapy previously and spending time with him will set her back? Since when does a parent's love do damage to a child? Perhaps the reason your boyfriend was absent all these years is because you shut him out from your daughter's life? Let me guess, you filed for C$ money just in time before her 6th birthday, so the state can legally collect arrearages from the time of birth? Did you really think you were going to collect a $30,000 check with no strings attached or did all your girlfriends not tell you about that part? If you are really serious about stopping him and you were being truthful, then drop the CS case. If he's really not interested, he will go away!!!!!!!!!! -- The Source For Premium Newsgroup Access Great Speed, Great Retention 1 GB/Day for only $8.95 |
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