lenny fackler wrote:
Ericka Kammerer wrote:

lenny fackler wrote:


Ericka Kammerer wrote:

It's a really tough situation, and can even be a
marriage-breaker in some cases.


When the issue is 'kids' vs. 'no kids' maybe, but you think a woman
would break up a marriage because her husband doesn't want a third?
That seems insane to me.
In my opinion, if a couple already has two healthy children and
disagree about having a third, the partner not wanting another

child

clearly has the upper hand.

Of course, because it's not ethical to force the other
parent into parenting another child. However, there are
certainly women (and men) who have felt such a strong desire
for another child that they were unable to continue in a
marriage where that could not happen. One hopes such decisions
are made only after a best faith effort on both sides, and
counseling, and so forth, but if after all that, the bottom
line is that the desire for another child is paramount, it's
likely to spell the end of the marriage.



Maybe so, but if one person wants an additional child so badly that
they would cause, or accept, or simply allow the destruction of their
family, it would almost seem to me indicative of a mental illness or at
least some serious underlying issues that having more kids isn't going
to solve.


You're saying that if someone accepts that they will not have another
child they have some serious underlying issues? I think acceptance (not
resignation) is a good thing.

Mary Ann