Ericka Kammerer wrote:
lenny fackler wrote:

Maybe so, but if one person wants an additional child so badly that
they would cause, or accept, or simply allow the destruction of
their
family, it would almost seem to me indicative of a mental illness
or at
least some serious underlying issues that having more kids isn't
going
to solve.

I don't think that's necessarily true. Your statement
is predicated upon certain values assumptions which not everyone
might share. Also, the decision about having more kids tends to
involve more than just the presence or absence of a child. It's
also about family values and lifestyle and so forth. The person
who very much wants another child likely has different ideas about
those other things all wrapped up in the decision as well.

Best wishes,
Ericka


I'm definitely bringing my own perpective in because it's the only one
that I have the authority to speak about.
I have 2 happy healthy kids and my relationship with my wife is good.
I'm 100% sure I don't want any more kids. She's a little less sure.
I'm trying to picture her being so insistent on having another baby
that she would break up the marriage. It certainly would have nothing
to do with any definition of family values that I can think of.
Lifestyle is broad though. What type of lifestyle would this be
consistent with?