Okay, some of you are going a little over board here. I just started by
asking a simple question. Obviously you don't know and won't know the whole
story. The father only comes and visits because he didn't want to pay more
in child support. He has missed three of his court ordered visits this year.
He is to come out once every other month and he went 6 months without seeing
him! My son and his dad don't have a very good relationship and it is the
cause of the father, NOT ME!!!!! Even my sons counselor has mandated that
the FATHER NOT ME seek counseling for his relationship with his son. He has
dissapointed my son over and over and over and it has caused great anger with
my son and none of it has to do with CS or ME!!!!! So, believe it or not I
am certainly NOT the typical mother here. I was the one calling the father
when my son was little telling him how he should be coming to see and visit
with his son!! I am the one that allowed to stay in my home in my guest room
to save him some money so that he would come out more to see his son!!!! I
am not money hungry like most. I have tried and tried to help with his
situation.

I was just asking about the tournament because I wasn't sure if the father
should be paying for that duirng his visits............ Relax guys!

whatamess wrote:
So, a $1 chocolate bar is being hard-nosed... but a $70 lesson... he has
a point. It all adds up...
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H.

The guy pays child support, the guy lives in a different state and
STILL comes to
visit once a month (most NCPs in the same state only have visitation
twice a month)...
and you are complaining? Geez! Well, what would happen if he came up
on
the weekends that he didn't have the sports? Ah yes, then you'd
complain
that your son's father misses his tournaments! Go figure!

Can you tell me exactly what good enough is for you? Obviously, it's
not
related to CS, but more to you wanting to control his life and not
only
have you already forced him how to spend his money by getting CS
and you spend it as YOU see fit, but now you want to get into whatever
he has left and tell him how to spend that too?

I hope your son never ends up in the same situation you have put his
father.
I can assure you, that any boy who ends up in the same situation as
their
father and then truly realizes how unreasonable their mother was
being,
will end up resenting her more than the 70USD you are complaining
about.
It happened to my husband. Until he was in that situation, he thought
the world of his mother and thought his dad was a lousy piece of
garbage...
Now? He sees his mother once a year, if that much and always talks
about how now he sees what a greedy and horrible mother she was.

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