"Dave" wrote in

I'm in a different group. I'm part of the growing group of unmarried
fathers. Many of us (maybe most of us?) were turned into dads against
our wishes. We've had the finger wagging lectures about our
responsibilities. We've heard about our obligations and how we have to
"step up to the plate".

Unfortunately we all have to find out the hard way what the State's idea of
an obligation is.
It's 18 years of financial devastation for you and you have no say in the
child's well being.

What should be mandatory before the birth of any child is a contract or
agreement that outlines the total financial plan and custody conditions, so
that everyone understands their obligations when the child arrives. As in
any contract, there should be an option to opt out of any binding condition
that you feel you cannot meet. There should be an option for single birth
fathers to opt out if a pregnancy is forced on them. Legal abandonment is
then presumed and the birth mother can then choose to either abort, raise
the child on her own or put the child up for adoption.

This all might sound a bit sanitized, but we have reached a day and age
where government agencies are acting on obligations that have never legally
been defined. While I strongly don't believe in murdering a child
(abortion) for the sake of convenience, there should be other legal options
for unwanted births that birth fathers should be fully made aware of. Too
many birth fathers just assume they don't have any options.

All we have right now for NCP's is legalized government oppression!