"Mum of Two" wrote in message
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Everyone here is so perfect! It seems you all wear your babies constantly,
co-sleep with them when you aren't wearing them, rock them for hours on
end
while they scream, and manage all this even with a dozen other children
besides and a successful career. Those of you who don't have a career
cook,
bake, make your own clothes, baby products, and are basically Martha
Stewart
minus the criminal record. Still others of you are _always right_ or at
least have an annoying way of posting which makes it appear that way to
everyone who reads you, myself included. Do you ever get hormonal,
overtired? What is your breaking point? Do you have one?

I don't wear DD. She amuses herself a lot under a playgym. In fact, I
don't
even think she likes me because she cries and struggles when I pick her up
sometimes. She cries herself to sleep a lot, in her own room. I tell her
off
when she bites me. She has cat hair in her nappy, and sometimes in her
mouth. She doesn't get enough tummy-time, so she's starting to crawl
upside
down. She would rather watch TV, at three & a half months, than look at
us.
I can't/won't cook nor bake - the other mothers at my coffee group thought
my scones were biscuits. I don't do sewing either. Actually, I don't do
much
of anything. I am frequently hormonal and irrational, and constantly
contradict myself. I don't make a lot of sense most of the time, even to
me.

At least she's breast-fed and side-slept, so she'll have a good immune
system and a nice shaped head when she starts therapy.


No one is perfect! And just because a person co-sleeps and wears their baby
all the time does not make them a better parent than someone who doesn't.
All babies are different and have different needs. It sounds to me like you
have a baby that is a bit more independent than most. I had one of those
babies.

From day one I could put her down in her bassinet (no I didn't cosleep, but
she slept beside our bed for 9 months) and she would lay there quietly until
she went to sleep and at 17 months I can still put her down awake and she
will fall asleep by herself. My daughter never cried unless she was hungry
(not even for a wet diaper) and never really needed to be held constantly. I
did carry her around in her baby bjorn when she was really young and we went
for walks, but she went in her stroller at times too.

She is now 17 months and I'm 5 months pregnant so there is no way I carry
her anymore. Every baby and mom is different. I'm sure you are a wonderful
mother.

Nadene