Maundy Smith wrote:

Hello,

I was involved for a time with a man by the name of Michael F.
O'Shaughnessy when I live in Central New York(I lived in Morrisville, NY).
He was very handsome, and a smooth talker, we used to talk alot, and seemed
to have nice times together with me and my aged mother(I came from a single
parent family). Anyway, when he decided to not wear a condom, as expected 9
months later I gave birth to beautiful baby girl. Then that's when the
trouble started, when he found out I was pregnant he became enraged. Then he
got a U-haul (when I was at a friends house) and moved all of his stuff out
on me. My daughter Sarah is 15 years old now, and has not seen ONE RED CENT
of support from her father Mike. I know he has alot of money too. When I
was with him he used to wear the finest clothes, and he worked two jobs, I
saw some of his paychecks and they were always around $700-800.00 a week.
You would think making over a grand a week he could share with my daughter
and I, but no he does nothing ! I have been to family court several times
to try to get him to provide for his daughter. They Judges always rule in my
favor, but then I never get any payments from that jerk Michael F.
O'Shaughnessy.


Snippage



You know to be honest, I don't have any sympathy for either you or the
long gone Mike. You displayed some real lack of judgement in your
decision, and yes, it was yours, to forgo contraception and have a child
with someone you obviously knew so little about. "Having some nice
times with me and my aged mother" does not a secure and stable
relationship make. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that the guy
would be "lukewarm" to say the least to the idea of parenthood. So why
the hell you chose to have a kid with this guy is completely and utterly
beyond me. No one forced you to have sex, and pregnancy is not
inevitable, they have figured out what causes it and most importantly
how to prevent it. So Mike took off and you are spending your life
tracking him down because you want a wallet. I'm pretty sure that's all
you wanted from him even before you got pregnant, and figured that
"having his baby" would keep him. Dream on. You have now spent 15
years of your life chasing this yo yo when you could have devoted that
time to bettering yourself, or you could have had an abortion and
avoided this whole mess entirely.


As for "Love 'em and Leave 'em Mike", I don't have any sympathy for him
either. Like it or not, he did father a child, and it is his
responsibility to support it and keep it off the public dole. Before
anyone gets on his high horse about how "men don't have any choice"
matters of this sort, I beg to differ. Men do have choices - Wrap, snip
or do without. They might not be the choices they want or like, but
that is not the same as having no choice. It doesn't take an Einstein
to realize that the dice in this game are loaded. As soon as conception
occurs, everything is out of his hands, he has no choice, and no power
in this situation at all. So, if someone who does not want children
makes the deliberate choice to surrender responsibility for
contraception to someone else, he has given up what power and choice he
had. It may not be fair, but at this point in time, those are the rules
of the game. Mike did just that: he willingly surrendered his
responsibility. I'd bet good money that all the signs that Maundy was
looking for a meal ticket were in plain sight.

Maundy will never give up the hunt, and Mike will live his life trying
to dodge it. These two morons deserve each other.

ChildFree Abby

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