Phil #3 wrote in message
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"Kenneth S." wrote in message
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So-called "child support" is actually money that fathers pay to
mothers.
There's no guarantee that the mothers will spend all -- or any -- of the
money they get on the children. Furthermore, any time fathers suggest
that
there should be accountability for "child support," the proposal is
fought
tooth and nail by representatives of mothers.

So from a father's perspective, "child support" is money that they
have
to pay the mothers of their children. It's not money that they are
paying
to support their children. Furthermore, in the vast majority of cases,
it's
the mothers, not the fathers, who decided that the single parent
household
should exist in the first place.

Groucho Marx said that paying alimony was like feeding hay to a dead
horse. That's the way most fathers feel about so-called "child
support."
They signed on to be fathers to their children, within a two-parent
family.
They DIDN'T sign on to be forced to pay money to the women who expelled
them
from their families, and who hold the power to put them in jail if they
don't pay.

Does that make the situation clear?

(I spent more than ten years paying large amounts of "child support"
to
my ex-wife, and one of the greatest days of my life was when I was able
to
write her a letter saying that, since the children were by then grown,
she
would no longer be on my payroll. Since then, I gladly support directly
my
now adult children.)


450 days, 18 hours left for me until I can send that same letter. I've
been
working on it for 15 years so I'm sure it will say just a bit more than
"you're fired"
My plan is to spend some time writing it so that I can say everything I've
had to bite my tongue through over the past 15 years due to the fact that
every time I tried to help him or each time we disagreed (which was every
time we spoke), she took it out on him.
I do not want to lose contact with her, however. I'm extremely curious to
see how she handles such a drop in income.
I can only imagine what it will be to like to add over $1000 a month to my
own income. It will be like getting a $1200/month raise because since I'm
already paying taxes on it, it will be $1K in MY pocket.

Imagine: spending one's own money. What a concept.
Phil #3



I have a very good friend who got to end payments on one kid, the other will
end in a year and a half. When he stopped paying the one, the mother was all
in an tizzy. And this women lives in a house that was bought for her by her
father, got to go to college as an adult, paid by her father. She makes an
average income but is so use to the high CS she was getting. He, like you,
is like a kid again. I wish more women could see the effects of high CS
payments on the NCP. And I will add, this father was in the children's lives
constantly. He paid half of all clothes, carried all insurances and paid
half of any medical bills. He has put braces on 2 kids and one kid had to
have them put back on! She tells him how lucky HE is she didn't take him to
court for MORE! He said she is lucky he is a good father and paid every
month on time, no matter what.

T