"Chotii" wrote in message
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"T" wrote in message
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I am having sons circumcision tomorrow. I had one other question.
They do not use pain killer because of swelling, is there something that
the
doc can use that will not swell. I heard of a cream that they can put
on
to
minimize pain.

Also, why is it best practice to NOT do circumcision. I figure since my
first son is circ. I should have 2nd son also. I know they are doing
the
circs now but taking less foreskin off.

Please don't say "circumcision", it's a euphemism, a neat, tidy way of
saying something that's awful to talk about straight out. Please say "They
are going to amputate my son's foreskin tomorrow". That's the honest
truth.
That is what they will do. They will peel his foreskin away from his
glans,
where it adheres like your fingernails adhere to your fingers, crush it
all
around to keep it from bleeding too much, and then cut it off. That's
amputation.

The reason they amputate the foreskins of newborns and not 3 or 5 or 7
year
old kids is because older kids can tell you how much it hurts, and that
they
don't want their penis cut. All a baby can do is cry. If you wouldn't
subject your older child to this, with or without pain killer, why would
you
subject your newborn to it?

What has the fact that you had this done to your first child, got to do
with
doing it to baby #2? Children can be different. They can have
different-colored eyes and hair, different color skin even. Why not
different penises?

The best reason NOT to do circumcision is it is *his* sexual organ, not
yours. *He* will be the one using it later in life, not you. It should be
*his* choice to alter his body, not yours (as long as there's no medical
problem that needs correction for the sake of his immediate health). The
head of the penis is intended to be covered except when erect. The head of
the penis is a mucous membrane, meant to be moist, shiny, and exceedingly
sensitive - not dry, dull, and exposed. Cutting away its natural cover
*may* be necessary under certain circumstances, but these are unusual,
*not*
the norm.

There's another reason not to do it: there is no way to know how much the
individual's penis will grow at puberty. The doctor will remove what looks
like the right amount, but when the boy grows into a man, his penis can
grow
larger than what the remaining skin can accommodate. Such boys may wake in
the mornings with their sheets bloody, because the skin of the penis has
torn in the night. Such boys may have skin so tight it becomes abraded
and
even bloody from friction during intercourse. Such boys may well have a
smaller, shorter penis than nature has designed for them, because the
tight
skin won't allow full expansion during erection. Is this really what you
want for your son? Do you even want to risk it?

Please consider the reality of your choice, because this is what you're
choosing. Maybe it will turn out okay. Maybe it won't. But *YOU* won't be
the one who has to live with it. He will.

--angela



Here's how I decided

Compare the potential pain and suffering that having a foreskin would be
*likely* to cause (virtually nil) with the pain potential pain and suffering
cause by a circumcision (almost certainly a lot in the short term and a
possibility of more in the long term) and it's pretty simple. In the absence
of a real medical reason or religious belief I see no reason why anyone
would decide to circumcise.

And that's all I have to say about that :-)

Judy Mum to two boys with untouched penises