"Anna.Nicole.m" wrote in message
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ok other mommies I need some help. I have a 7 mos old critter at home
and I have very little to no sex drive. I'm fairly confident it has
more to do with being absolutely exhausted all the time. My husband
has begun to hound me about "getting" sex. Which makes me feel like
it's just another chore I have to find time to perform. like when's
the Laundry going to be done or when am I going to make dinner.

We had a pretty healthy sex life prior to getting pregnant.
complications half way through my pregnancy didn't allow for sex to
continue so we went almost 4 mos without. and anymore I could take it
or leave it.

When we do have sex it's good but once i get the baby to sleep for the
night I am so drained that I just want to sit down and do nothing.
sex is the very very very last thing on my mind.

HELP

*hugs*

Jessica will be 11 months next week, and I'm only just finding myself really
wanting it on a regular basis again. As Jessie's in a strong routine, and is
always in bed at 9, I do find I have a bit of an evening with my husband,
whereas before, like you, it was just another thing on my to-do list. As
soon as she's in bed now, that's it. My day stops. Even if I only sit on the
computer, I do nothing domestic after 9, or I find it never stops. I also
found once we'd had such a long break, it was hard to get back into it, if
that makes sense. I kinda made the effort a few times and that helped.

Things like losing spontanaity and fear of the baby waking don't help. Nor
does (if you're like me) all the baby flab areas and loss of what I call
"boob quality" I miss how it used to be, but I'm not giving up yet.The
only advice I can give is what my friend gave to me - get it into your head
that that's what you're going to be doing that night, send him little hints
on his mobile phone/email and make sure you do it. Seemed to add to it for
me, and gave me a bit of an incentive....

Take care - hope it's resolved soon!

Lucy x