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I am concerned about a child in my care at my family daycare. Normally it
would be up to Mom to pursue this with her ped. She is not going to do
this. I don't know why. I won't go on about my feelings about this Mom. I
cant tell if her actions are deliberately trying to hide something or if
she is the height of lazy. Suffice it to say this is not the first
unaddressed issue.

The first question that comes to mind is: "Why is this kid in your
daycare?" It doesn't sound like it is a good match between you and the
child. Both of you may be better off if he is in someone else's care.



Um. I don't even know what to say to that.

I really admire your devotion to this child.

I just wish that I could say the same thing of his mother. So do you.

So. Little boy, 5yo. Has SOME kind of learning disability. It is as yet
unidentified. Per Mom, ped has never commented on his development
(despite the fact that at age 4 he had not uttered a single word ever).
My point to the backstory is that he is disadvantaged in some way, but I
don't know how. Oh another part of the backstory, he is chronically
sleep deprived. How do I say this without sounding like a total bitch? I
guess I don't. I risk it. He is a virtual wild animal at home. When he
wants something he grunts and whines. Throws himself on the floor. Mom
does not put him to bed really. She just tells him to get in bed where
he plays with toys and watches tv until he collapses, often around 11:00
or 12:00. Then up to be to my house for 7:00. If I have him nap here, he
is up even later at home.

So. Every so often he will have a spell of vomitting. About once a week,
at snack time he will look green and even more tired than usual. Then he
will get sick one to three times and fall asleep, regardless of the
chaos around him.

There does not seem to be any corrolation with food, though I am very
concerned about a food allergy since they can go from benign to life
threatening in a short period of time.

Can shear exhaustion cause vomitting? I plan on calling my ped, but I
want to wait until afternoon when they are done with the morning rush.

Thanks for any thoughts.

I would either call child protective services or dismiss him from your
child care. Or both.



I have called CPS. Twice. No bruises. No action. And if I remove him from
my care, then what? Sure. It's not my problem any more. But what about
him? Prior to coming here, he would not talk (at 4 years old). He was
terrified of everyone. If someone's body moved to close to him, he would
cringe and shake but become stone silent. He did not look at books. He did
not play with toys. So I ship him off to puke on someone else?

The reality is that this kid need specialized care that you can't give.


No kidding! Mom is not going to find it for him. I have tried, but I am
not his mother. Without the mother's consent, it does not happen. I went
so far as to get the local EEE to come to MY house for assessments and
lessons. All Mom had to do was call and Ok. Strangely no call. I have been
pestering her for months for an updated immunization record. Funny thing
is, I am probably going to have to get rid of them just so I don't risk my
own registration.

Not really funny.

I'd mention the immunization records problem to CPS, too.

He should be in a preschool that can help him with his learning
disability.

You preacher. Me choir. That and a lot of money will get us a Starbucks,
my friend. At least when he hits Kindy next year (compulsory) *someone*
will be looking a little more closely.

A kid without learning disabilities (as well with parents) can stand to
lose 4 or 5 months. I wish I knew what to say. At least, you can notify the
school before he gets there. They may have someone who is able to start
getting him the services he needs soon after he starts there. It seems
obvious that without any notice, they would notice his lack of skills.

I think your idea of talking to your ped is a good idea. (S)He might also
be able to talk to people who can really help.

And it sounds like there are some issues concerning his care at home.



Um. Yes.

You know, you are going to go into withdrawal when he leaves your care. So
will he. He'll find people who care as much as his mother appears to care at
his new school. Hoepfully he will find people who care as much as you do.

Jeff

Jeff