"CasualObserver" wrote

Moon Shyne wrote:
wrote
Dear Divorced,

I'm mom of three. Kids don't get the adult inference of surnames. Their
name is their name. It wouldn't occur to a kid that a name "belongs" to
Dad, or that they could make a statement about rejecting someone by
dumping a surname. That's adult logic, not kid logic.

Not true. My daughter, when in the 7th grade, chose to use my family
name
as her last name in school - and she was absolutely making a statement
about
rejecting the father who disappeared from her life nearly 5 years ago.


Maybe as she got older she started sounding a lot like her mother and
he faded away in disgust.
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Or the mother manipulated the relationship between father and child in such
a bizarre
manner that it became in the best interest of the children to not subject
them to such
hideousness. Sadly, the children may never know how much their father loved
them
and how broken his heart was when he had to make the decision to bow out.
Just a thought.