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Betsy wrote:

Okay, I HAVE been abused. I have to say that I agree with what
these folks are saying to the extent of ignoring it. As my mother
once had a T-shirt that said, "Don't let the *******s get you
down." YOU have the power to not read the posts.

I never said it was your fault. You read that into it.

oh. I guess that is what I am used to hearing from some of the
longtime regulars here. I just took a trip down memory lane on
google.com (the newsgroup archive that goes back years and years of
everything we post online) and I read with horror how most of the
time that I have posted here I have been ganged up on by some real
jerks that used to post here who pretty much were a "clique" and
labeled me the dysfunctional group scapegoat. It's a role I am used
to as I was the family scapegoat, my family was very abusive and I
was the threat, I was the one who kept pointing it out and I was the
one who made my mom do something about it. No wonder she hates me.
So I have this thing about being told to keep quiet or to ignore
anything resembling abuse or injustice. Even though in most cases
ignoring is the most effective way to deal with bullying or
"trolling" behavior.

My YWCA advocate is funny. She said, "never wrestle with pigs. You
get dirty and the pigs like it."

Basically,
however you control your reaction to it.

The root of the serenity prayer. I get it.

I don't think anything I
say will make a difference. You have your belief system. I hope it
works for you. I was sharing what works for me. Good Luck

Betsy

Thank you for your persistence with me. you are brave, LOL.


Brave? I think not. Stubborn, I would definitely agree with that one. I
am persistent. If I feel there is value in something, I keep at it. If
someone seems to be listening, I keep talking. When they shut down, I shut
up. It's how I am. It stems from being a Hospice nurse, I suppose. And
no, not ALL nurses are co-dependent. I am a very strong willed, assertive
person. I scare most men away, which is probably why I haven't had a date
in years. I really hope things work out for you.

Betsy
--
Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with
ketchup.