"Rambler" wrote in message
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Father of the Year wrote:
new to group. What is a deadbeat dad?

it is usually somebody who has been flailed to a ninch of their life by
being accused of being insensitive to their child's needs while in fact
they are struggling to put food on the table for themselves whilest being
commanded to make good sized (for their incomes) support payments.

No, not always. That sure might be the case sometimes, but other times a
deadbeat parent could be just that. Sometimes a deadbeat parent just
doesn't feel they need to live up to their parenting responsibilities.
That's not always meaning money wise. I would consider a deadbeat parent as
someone who just does nothing. I'm sorry, it doesn't take much money to
spend some time with your own child and show them love and that they are, in
fact, a human being. There's a lot of 'parents' - both mothers AND
fathers - who just don't give a damn. It goes both ways, but it seems that
you just hear about the dads more than the moms. There's selfish parents
both ways, and it's not fair to say that every parent who cannot afford to
support their children is a deadbeat. It does go so much further than that,
because there's also lots of parents who choose not to help with their
children and have more than enough means to survive well, while helping out
financially with their children.
Support payments are only a part of a child's needs.

I typically refer to it as "Beat Dad Dead" in my affidavits, and yes, the
ex has thrown that term around to everybody, kids included.

I don't agree with that. I, personally, believe whatever I think and feel
negatively about my ex stays to myself, or to the ears of MY friends/family
without the ears of my children around. I have never once said a single
negative word about my sons' father for them to hear, nor have I ever said
anything negative to someone who would pass my words on to them. There are
a lot of parents, as well, who do the same, and then on the other hand,
there are some who have no problem insulting their child's other parent and
vocalize whatever anger they may have. I do believe, in every way possible,
that this is so wrong and unfair to the child, even more to the other half
of that child.

Rambler