Subject: For those that care to know
From: "Tiffany"
Date: 11/18/2004 8:50 PM Eastern Standard Time
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"Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message
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Subject: For those that care to know
From: (Karen O'Mara)
Date: 11/18/2004 12:25 PM Eastern Standard Time
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(Bebelestrnge0721) wrote in message
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My daughter has mantained residential custody of her baby.The judge
refused
the
emergency petition for the father to take the baby from our home. My
daughter
has admitted to the judge she has made bad choices and mistakes since
the
father left her, and admits he has continually emotionally abused her ,
adding
to the severity of her mental and emotional health, and that she has
never
and
will never do anything to hurt her child . Our behavioral therapist
supported
her in court, that she has been working with our family for three years
and
our
home is a safe nurturing environment for the baby. As I have known in my
heart
to be the truth as well. There will still be a custody conference
(arbitration
hearing) in mid January.Hopfully My daughter and her ex can agree upon
something that works for the both of them at that time. Meanwhile my
granddaughter slept snug as a bug in her nursery last night ! I am happy
that
this has helped reasure my daughter that she is not a bad mom and that
she
can
and will be o.k. Thank you to everyone that listened and showed support
to
our
family. Bev

Keep us posted. I have been thinking about you. I hope the father of
the baby will remain sincere and help out and I hope your daughter
seizes the opportunities to be the best mother she can be. You hang in
there, too. You are a very caring person and probably a target because
of that.

Karen


Thanks Karen, I would love nothing more than for them both to get thier
heads
outta their butts, and do what is right for the baby. I can only respond
to
what I see from each of them , I have seen my daughter struggling while he
runs
around in his 2000 car with light effects and a stereo system you can hear
down
the block with his friends and girlfriends( three) since the breakup,
while
claiming he can not afford to buy shoes for his child? He bailed and left
her
holding all the emotional and financial support of this baby. It is what
happens most of the time with teenage boys that make babies, He is just a
heat
seeking missile and my daughter got burnt.

Bev that is the most sexist thing I have heard in sometime. You should be
ashamed of yourself for putting all the blame on the boy for the pregnancy!

Tiff holy macaroni ! I didn't mean that that is for sure .As a matter of fact
"THEY" got pregnant on purpose remember ? I have never felt this pregnancy was
his fault alone and that is not what I said in this post ?


Your daughter should have been thinking of HERSELF and been on a form of
birthcontrol or insisted he use a condom. Yeah, yeah, I know nothing is 100%
percent and I just bet she used something and it didn't work. Regardless, it
is NOT just his fault. She had sex too.



I know ! If you read back I was ranting that HE is the one running around in
the 2000, all spruced up car, that he got after he left his daughter , and he
claims he can not afford 25 bucks a week to help my daughter financially suport
HIS child. As it has been he has a free babysitter huh ? I am not sexist , I am
the mother of a teen with a baby and you bet I am gonna be upset with this boys
actions concerning taking care of his child, that is what this thread was about
not who's fault the pregnancy happened? So what part of what I typed is giving
that impression that I am blaming him and a sexist?
Bev
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