"Bob W" wrote in message
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"Chris" wrote in message
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[Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have
custody of such child]

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"teachrmama" wrote in message
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"jean paul sartre" wrote in message
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On Fri, 08 Aug 2008 14:37:37 -0700, teachrmama wrote:

You don't mention how much the mother earns. It makes a difference.

"jean paul sartre" wrote in message
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Hi, I have a question... Does anybody have an idea about this?

I live/work in Washington DC- I have two toddlers with a woman in
NY.
I
earn (before taxes) 51k a year.

We don't have a formal arrangements with the courts for child
support.
I send her 1k a month and I help out with medical expenses as they
show
up.
Last year the amount I sent her averaged to about 1300 a month.

Is this too much? Too little ? What would the courts find- what is
the
likelyhood they would order me to increase or decrease the amount??


She earns very little. She works part time and moved in with her
mother.

Ok. Look on alllaw.com, at the child support calculators. You will
have
to
use the state the child lives in. It will show approximately what you
would
have to pay with a court order. I am not sure whether it includes child
care into the calculation.

For what it's worth, courts NEVER order someone to pay less. In other
words,
they order a minimum; not a maximum.

Perhaps I'm unique, but I was ordered to pay less CS after the CS
guidelines were implemented. The irony was I had more income than when
the original CS order was made yet the modification of the CS order using
the new guidelines dropped the amount paid down about $150 per month.

I have to admit the above is why I don't think the CS guidelines are that
unreasonable. But I did think paying CS, SS, and income taxes that took
75% of my gross income was way over the top.

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I think it probably depends on what state you are in. Some states take out
way more than others. We were really rocked financially when my husband got
hit with CS and arrearages, but we survived. They tried to force him to
change to another insurance option at work that they thought would be more
convenient for his older daughter, but would have put all of us over 2 hours
from medical care. The attorneys where he worked stepped in and told them
no. If we had been hit with the cost of that insurance (much more
expensive), plus child care, on top of the CS order, it would have wiped us
out. The CS itself was doable, even though it was far more per month than
we spent on both of our daughters.