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Old November 29th 06, 05:35 PM posted to alt.child-support
Chris
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"Gini" wrote in message
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"Phil" wrote

"Gini" wrote

"teachrmama" wrote
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I certainly hope you are not teaching your children that they are
victims! Everyone needs to play the cards they are dealt, and not

liking
your cards should never make you sit down and pout!
==
That is the tragedy of some children of divorce. A parent's obsession
with the
minutia of "issues" tramples common sense and dignity. Fortunately, the
children come of age and
sort beyond the BS they were handed. Then mom's "too bad your dad

didn't
show for your party," becomes
child's "no damn wonder he stayed away after the horrible wretch you

were
to him."


I wonder if these mothers ever realize they are their own worst enemy

and
caused their later situation by their earlier actions.

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I don't think they realize the implications of their actions at the time
because it's hard to imagine one's child as an independently thinking

adult.
My stepchildren were very controlled by their mother who
blamed my DH for all manner of things including never having enough money
for them, despite
the fact that we were paying 600. then 1200. a month CS. She blamed us
because she got evicted from her apt,
had her car re-poed and was asked not to come back to certain doctors
because she had so many unpaid bills.
She told the kids that DH was putting me and our kids ahead of them. They
were told that we were living large at their expense--
They had no idea how much support we were paying, or how financially
strapped we were because of it. Now they do, and not because
we ran to them and spilled the beans. The kids asked about these things
after they were grown and we simply told them
the facts.


Sooner or later the laundry gets done, huh.