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Old December 7th 06, 07:32 AM posted to alt.child-support
teachrmama
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Default How to stop him?


"Janet" wrote in message
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Why would I want to encourage this? As I said before she is having to
see a therapist because she is having emotional problems related to
change. Any change in her routine sets off a crying fit. It will not
help her to be forced to go with someone that she doesn't want to
see.I thought they used the best interest of the child to determine
these things?

Her father was just someone that I had a brief fling with. We didn't
really care that much about each other and we both understood that. If
he is such a caring father then where was for the first 6 years of her
life? He could have found me if he wanted. Now just because I asked
for some help with the kid that he is halfway responsible for all of a
sudden he wants to act like hes a real dad to her. She doesn't even
like him. She got along fine without him all this time and now he
shows up disrupting her life. Is that fair to her? Do the courts
really think it will be in her best interest to have her being dragged
out of the house by someone she doesn't like and just barely knows?
That seems like child abuse!


You have got some major growing up to do. He is her FATHER. You want him
to be a father in $$$$ only. But your daughter DESERVES her father in her
life. And if her only parent to date is acting as childish as you are (and
you are whether you like it or not), no wonder she is haveing such a hard
time. Apparently she was having a hard time with change before you ever
invited him otp the picture. Just what caused that?

Did the father know about the child? Did you invite him to be a part of her
life from the very beginning? Did you let him know where you were moving
when you moved? If it was such a casual, no-strings-attached fling, why are
you asking for $$$ now? Why doe he owe you that, but not deserve a
relationship with the child? Why do you feel it is in the child's best
interest to be raised not knowing her father? You do realize that there is
a chance that the courts will take the child from you and give her to her
father if they feel that your attitude and actions are harming her. And,
from what you have posted here, your attitude does not seem to reflect any
knowledge of the fact that your child deserves a relationship with ehr
father. The courts frown on that.