"Janet" wrote in message
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Why would I want to encourage this? As I said before she is having to
see a therapist because she is having emotional problems related to
change. Any change in her routine sets off a crying fit. It will not
help her to be forced to go with someone that she doesn't want to
see.I thought they used the best interest of the child to determine
these things?

Her father was just someone that I had a brief fling with. We didn't
really care that much about each other and we both understood that. If
he is such a caring father then where was for the first 6 years of her
life? He could have found me if he wanted. Now just because I asked
for some help with the kid that he is halfway responsible for all of a
sudden he wants to act like hes a real dad to her. She doesn't even
like him. She got along fine without him all this time and now he
shows up disrupting her life. Is that fair to her? Do the courts
really think it will be in her best interest to have her being dragged
out of the house by someone she doesn't like and just barely knows?
That seems like child abuse!




However it may appear to you, it is not abuse. IF your daughter at the age
of six has had issues with change, that isn't because her father wants to be
a daddy. If you want what is best, you need to gradually include him in her
life. It truly is that simple. I am sure if you and him sit down and speak
with her counseler, the counselor can explain why its important to ease into
this transaction.

You can also try to put blame on him.... play the "Where have you been??"
blah blah. How old was he? You? Regardless of where he WAS, he is here NOW.
Actually, you should be very happy! How wonderful for your daughter that her
daddy cares. If you look at this is a wonderful thing, don't you think she
will catch on and be happy to? How great that your daughter may grow up with
a father, instead of being a child with only one parent.