On Wed, 10 Mar 2004 21:02:18 GMT, "kylee"
wrote:

I am at my total wits end. So please for giveme if this rambles a bit. My
dd is 4 years old and has taken to wetting her pants.. She had quite a while
where we were doing GREAT we were even having quite a few dry nights .. so
much that she was wearing panties to bed rather than training pants.
But recently things have taken a drastic change. I have a feeling it's
related to dh going out to sea and ds being born in Dec. I have tried giving
her more attention, time outs you, loss of prilidges, treating her for
going, you name it.. nothing works it's almost like she doesn't care. I
don't know what else to do.

Example. SHe would go with me to all my pre natal appointments, One in
particular she wet herself on the way there. I changed her, and went in. As
we were waiting to be called she said she had to go, so we went to the
bathroom an she went. Then while we are in with the doctor, she doesn't
bother even saying anything and proceeds to wet her pants not even 20 mins
after I had just taken her to the bathroom ..

I have had to take to putting her in pull ups when we go run errands or else
I would have to take numerous changes of clothes; which to her seems to be
permission just to go ahead and pee since she doesn't feel it. Not that we
pants seems to bother her too much either.

I have even caught her intentionally pulling down her pants and going on the
floor just so she wouldn't get in trouble for getting her pants wet. So I
know she knows when she has to go. Granted our only bathroom is upstairs but
this is gettiing rediculous.

I have no idea what to do. PLEASE HELP!!

Kylee

First, make sure that there is no physical problem by taking her to
her pediatrician to check that she doesn't have a bladder infection
or something like that.

Second, *don't* punish her or reward her for her toileting behavior.
Let her change herself, but don't react to it at all if you want to
try to keep her in underwear.

My vote, though would be to ask her if she wants to be back in
diapers and to allow that if she wants to be a baby again for a
little while. It will blow over after the stresses of the new baby
are done. Meanwhile talk to her about all the things big kids can
do that babies can't manage. And involve her in helping with the
new baby. I am sure that your husbands being gone is probably
a stressor too, so keep her in touch with him if you can. Does he
have email access? He can write to her and you can read these
emails to her.


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Dorothy

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