Hello, way long sorry.....

Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Sun, Feb 15, 2004, 11:00pm
(EST-1) From: ('Kate)
On Sun, 15 Feb 2004 22:15:55 -0500 (EST), (Bebe
lestrnge)

Snipped stuff here and the
'Kate wrote:
Too bad she wasn't checking receipts for condoms. Woulda saved her
time/trouble.

Yeah , but if they used the condoms there would not have been a
pregnancy and this was not their plan see.

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'Kate wrote
Going to court isn't going to help that but it sounds more like that's
what the other grandparents are expecting and they're not going to budge
to improve communications if that's how it is. Too bad, too... the baby
would do better if there was an atmosphere of friendliness and
cooperation.

It is not so much "not a friendly atmosphere" when they come to the
house, but more like "what isn't said is better". I am guilty of
avoiding a confrontation. Over the past few hours I have reached a
feeling of being content with just helping the kids in my way, which is
financial and moral support and advice when asked. I will not worry
myself with what his parents don't do, that is their problem . As far as
the financial responsibility Hell they are 16 just what can they really
do right now? Not much and yeah they better appreciate all we are doing
when they grow up darn it ! I did have a talk with Jimmy and Sara today
and asked them what they thought about opening a joint account for their
future and deposit say at least10 bucks a week show me they understand
their responsibility to one another and their baby. They agreed and I
will hold them to it. As they earn more they will add to it . I'm
feeling better now. I know they need to commit to being responsible and
how much this is good for them to do.

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'Kate wrote:
Parents can't and shouldn't fix everything... if we did that, the
children would never feel accomplishment, pride, and they'd continue to
behave like irresponsible children.

You are so right and I know I have issues with myself being to
protective and controlling with Sara , she is so much better than two
years ago.....she has much better control of her way out
behaviour....errr... well the sex thing was obviously not in control..
.....but like in school and at home she has accomplished so much.
although a different child (black hair this week ) she's been red
,orange, black with blond streaks, you know how it is.............Oh
well !
thanks "Kate you are very kind, I appreciate that you took the time
for me.

Bev


'Kate