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Nan wrote in
: Okay, so you're concerned about the potential for her having an affair. Fine, but you're just buying trouble you don't need. You can just accept that she's going and try your best not to worry, or you can drive yourself batty over the whole thing. i'm so glad this sort of thing doesn't even occur to me to think about. living with that kind of suspicion must be terribly limiting (not to mention ulcer inducing). Look at it this way.... if she wanted to fool around on you she could just as easily do it closer to home. seems to me that that would be much more likely. when i was working in a male dominated feild & had to do the business trip thing i can safely say that i was not in the least interested in any of my coworkers in any way except as friends (i did have a *lot* of fun with Chuck... but he's gay g) Either talk to her about it (which might not sit well with her if she feels you don't trust her), or let it go and stop worrying. i'd say let it go. unless he really wants to cause a rift... lee -- Last night while sitting in my chair I pinged a host that wasn't there It wasn't there again today The host resolved to NSA. |
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On Mar 4, 12:30*pm, enigma wrote:
Nan wrote : Okay, so you're concerned about the potential for her having an affair. *Fine, but you're just buying trouble you don't need. *You can just accept that she's going and try your best not to worry, or you can drive yourself batty over the whole thing. *i'm so glad this sort of thing doesn't even occur to me to think about. living with that kind of suspicion must be terribly limiting (not to mention ulcer inducing). The OP does not seem morbidly suspicious to me. You mentioned in a previous thread that you are "poly"(amorous?). Maybe you think monogamous marriage in general is "terribly limiting". |
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Beliavsky wrote: On Mar 4, 12:30 pm, enigma wrote: Nan wrote : Okay, so you're concerned about the potential for her having an affair. Fine, but you're just buying trouble you don't need. You can just accept that she's going and try your best not to worry, or you can drive yourself batty over the whole thing. i'm so glad this sort of thing doesn't even occur to me to think about. living with that kind of suspicion must be terribly limiting (not to mention ulcer inducing). The OP does not seem morbidly suspicious to me. You mentioned in a previous thread that you are "poly"(amorous?). Maybe you think monogamous marriage in general is "terribly limiting". I don't know about "morbidly", but the OP seems to be concerned about something that would never occur to me, either. Clisby |
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Welches wrote:
[snip] To be honest, I wouldn't particularly want to be the only female going on something like that. Also if anything did happen between her and another, then it would be much more obvious than if there were numbers of others going, as she will stand out. I can't see dh wanting to go on something that would be only females, he'd be grateful for an excuse as to why it should be me. But if he did, then I wouldn't be worried as I know his first priority would be the daughter. Another factor in her decision might be that she might be glad that she has a boyfrined back home: it means that she has the perfect excuse for turning down anyone who is taking more of an interest in her then she wants. Basically, she is there for her son, not the fathers of her son's teammates. If she was inclined to have a fling, then she could do it without going away, and if she is not inclined to have a fling then your worry is unnecessary and probably counter-productive. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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Beliavsky wrote in
oups.com: On Mar 4, 12:30*pm, enigma wrote: Nan wrote : Okay, so you're concerned about the potential for her having an affair. *Fine, but you're just buying trouble you don't need. *You can just accept that she's going and try your best not to worry, or you can drive yourself batty over the whole thing. *i'm so glad this sort of thing doesn't even occur to me to think about. living with that kind of suspicion must be terribly limiting (not to mention ulcer inducing). The OP does not seem morbidly suspicious to me. You mentioned in a previous thread that you are "poly"(amorous?). Maybe you think monogamous marriage in general is "terribly limiting". no, it's just not my "thing". i do think that if one is married, one damn well better not be having affairs. marriage is a committment to one person & it should be taken seriously as just that (gender not applicable). i think a lot of divorce is because people are really poly & are just having serial committments at any rate, being suspicious of something so mundane as a trip to a game with her son really does smack of overbearing suspiciousness/ posessive jealousy. i had a boyfriend in high school that tried to make me publicly apologize because i had gone with a group of mixed gender friends (not including him) to visit a male friend at college. he was incensed that i would go anywhere or do anything without *him*. he was a very scary boy... i should have dumped him then & not let it get to the point where he was stalking & trying to kill me. yeah, i don't have much use for the jealous types anymore. lee -- Last night while sitting in my chair I pinged a host that wasn't there It wasn't there again today The host resolved to NSA. |
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"enigma" wrote in message
at any rate, being suspicious of something so mundane as a trip to a game with her son really does smack of overbearing suspiciousness/ posessive jealousy. i had a boyfriend in high school that tried to make me publicly apologize because i had gone with a group of mixed gender friends (not including him) to visit a male friend at college. he was incensed that i would go anywhere or do anything without *him*. he was a very scary boy... i should have dumped him then & not let it get to the point where he was stalking & trying to kill me. yeah, i don't have much use for the jealous types anymore. That is weird Lee. I had a boyfriend like that too. He was messed up. His theory if he couldn't have me, no one could. He also tried to kill me. He was stalking me and put sugar in my gas tank at one point. I finally was able to get rid of him by the police. Very scary. I don't deal well with the controlling/jealous types either. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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"Sue" wrote in
newsNudnZblIYPIN1PanZ2dnUVZ_t2inZ2d@wideopenwest .com: "enigma" wrote in message at any rate, being suspicious of something so mundane as a trip to a game with her son really does smack of overbearing suspiciousness/ posessive jealousy. i had a boyfriend in high school that tried to make me publicly apologize because i had gone with a group of mixed gender friends (not including him) to visit a male friend at college. he was incensed that i would go anywhere or do anything without *him*. he was a very scary boy... i should have dumped him then & not let it get to the point where he was stalking & trying to kill me. yeah, i don't have much use for the jealous types anymore. That is weird Lee. I had a boyfriend like that too. He was messed up. His theory if he couldn't have me, no one could. He also tried to kill me. He was stalking me and put sugar in my gas tank at one point. I finally was able to get rid of him by the police. Very scary. I don't deal well with the controlling/jealous types either. yup, he tried to kill me. i moved 5 times through 3 states in 18 months & he kept finding me. i finally had to sever all contact with everyone i knew that also knew him. he found me during the moves by going through a mutual friend's desk when the friend was out of the room, & finding correspondance/phone bills (apparently he'd call any long distance # on the phone bills to see if any were mine). i do know what town he lives in now (he's in MA, but he owns property in NH too), so i can avoid it still. he was seriously deranged. lee -- Last night while sitting in my chair I pinged a host that wasn't there It wasn't there again today The host resolved to NSA. |
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