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A day in the life....... (long)
(I started making these notes because I'd read Gina Ford's 'Contented
Little Baby Book' and was curious as to what would happen if I tried waking baby for feeds/putting him down for naps at the times her routines dictate - would he magically recognise something that fitted with his internal body clock, or would his day be totally different? Anyway, that's neither here nor there, but since I was making some notes anyway of how the day went and how it differed from Gina Ford's plan, I went ahead and wrote up the whole day so that I'd have a record of life as a new mum for my diary. Thought I'd post it here in case anyone else was interested.) This record is of Thursday 16th December going on into Friday 17th, when Jamie was three weeks and five days old. 2.10 a.m. - get to sleep, baby having settled down from his latest nursing marathon. 3.45 - baby woke up. Changed his nappy, fed him, fed him, fed him, fed him. 6 a.m. - had reached 'make your mind up' stage of pulling off breast looking absolutely sated & refusing to take any more, then fussing as soon as he went back in the cot, taking a bit more when he was picked up, pulling off breast looking absolutely sated etc., lather, rinse, repeat. (Burping didn't seem to be getting anything up, either.) 6.30 - gave up, just got dressed & ready for the day. Took baby out to bathroom & changed him, then downstairs for feed. 7.00 - 7.45 - baby feeding. (This is how GF's routine for 2 - 4 week olds is meant to start. From here on, for those who aren't familiar with her, baby is meant to stay awake until 9, then nap until 10, then feed again.) 7.45 - put baby on a folded towel on the floor to kick and keep himself awake, while I make oatmeal. 8.00 - baby fussing and rooting. I feed him. 8.20 - put baby in car seat and go get my oatmeal. 8.30 - baby has fallen asleep in car seat. Wonder whether Gina Ford would say I ought to put him back on the towel (which I've put away as DH would probably object to me leaving it on the study floor) but a) I need my breakfast and b) GF says babies are meant to have a wind-down before the nap anyway, so I'm not sure if having him too active would be right. Decide I might as well leave him to sleep. 9.00 - baby awake, fussing and rooting. I feed him, take him upstairs to change him, and feed him more as he's still obviously hungry. This goes on until 9.50. 9.50 - put him down in cot & lie down on camp bed in hopes of getting some rest myself (since I don't plan to follow the bit of GF's routine where you leave the baby on his own for naps). He's a bit fussy, but I wait to see whether he settles. After 10 mins is obviously getting more upset, and also does not seem too impressed by my attempt at swaddling him. Since I have no intention of following GF's advice about letting the baby cry for up to 20 minutes, I get him up. 10.00 - change his nappy. He starts rooting again and I feed him again. 10.25 - he stops feeding. I put him down in the cot, but he's still not happy. Since he appears to have convincingly voted 'No' to the routine, I give up on that and pick him up to take him downstairs and make tea for DH. 10.30 - he quietens down at last (I think he probably managed to get a burp up somewhere along the way) and so I take him upstairs and put him back in the cot, figuring I might as well take this chance to work on getting him used to it. This time, he goes to sleep quite happily. I take DH his tea and then, out of curiosity, leaf through GF's book to see what she says about babies who don't go to sleep for their morning naps. She says that if the baby's been wakeful in the morning, try giving him a catnap of 15 minutes before 11 a.m., then putting him down for his lunchtime nap around 12.15 - 12.30 instead of 11.30 - 12.00 as recommended in the normal routine. Since it's now 11, I figure I might as well try this. 11.00 - have a go at waking baby up. He's out for the count, however. So much for Gina Ford. Put him in his car seat and go get some food, since DH wants to set out shortly for the shops, and read my newsgroups. 12.00 - baby decides he wants feeding again. I change him as well in hopes that he'll be quiet during our shopping trip. Takes half an hour before he's settled in his car seat again, which delays our departure somewhat. 12.45 - finally make it out the door. Trip to the post office and the supermarket, which is the sort of thing that somehow doesn't really seem to get scheduled in to Gina's routine (you're meant to fit all trips for the first eight weeks into the third nap of the day). Baby sleeps in his car seat during all this. I nap in my car seat. 2.20 - arrive back home, start putting shopping away. 2.35 - wonder what will happen if I try the afternoon routine (wake for feed, two hours awake, one hour nap, wake for feed, bath, further feed, bedtime). Figure I might as well give it a go, in hopes that it'll settle him for the night. Baby quite slow to wake and feed & needs coaxing at first, but then wakes up properly, becomes a lot more enthusiastic, and feeds well until 3.50. 3.50 - put baby on folded towel on the floor to kick and go get some food, as I didn't get much lunch. 4.30 - baby starts crying. I feed him. 4.40 - baby has settled down, which, surprisingly, puts us back on track for the nap, since it's now 2 hours since he last woke up. However, fusses when put in big cot. Decide I really don't care that much whether he's already developing good sleep associations or not, take pillows and duvet off our bed, and nap there, holding him. Since he still can't latch himself on from lying down, I get woken intermittently by his fussing, and make vague attempts to poke a nipple at his mouth before falling promptly back to sleep again, but do manage an hour of broken sleep in this way. 5.50 - get up, feed baby. 6.35 - put baby down in cot for two minutes to use the loo, during which time he starts screaming. Get stuff ready for bath as quickly as possible. Baby calms down a lot once wet nappy is off and seems to enjoy his bath a lot. 7.20 - Feed baby again in hopes of getting him to settle for a bit. 8.00 - Try settling baby in big cot. He still isn't too happy about this. Since I see no need to push the issue at his age, I pick him up and take him downstairs to put in his carseat while DH does dinner and I empty the dishwasher. 8.45 - take my chance to go pump some milk for the freezer stash I'm trying to build up. 8.55 - DH comes through to say baby's hungry again. I put the ounce I've so far managed to pump in the fridge, hoping optimistically to be able to add more to it later on, and feed baby. 9.15 - baby finishes feeding. Only a few minutes before dinner will be ready, so I don't bother restarting the pumping. 9.50 - baby wants feeding again within a couple of minutes of me finishing dinner. (This is unusually impeccable timing for him. Normally, he manages to time his more vociferous demands to coincide with dinner. Of course, since he's been feeding non-stop during the evening, this is hardly surprising.) 10.20 - baby finished feed. I seize chance to go and brush teeth. Remember that while putting away his laundry earlier (don't ask me when I found time for this, it's all a blur) I noticed he only had one clean Babygro left. DH tells me that there's a load of baby's laundry waiting to be dried, but he has nowhere to put the stuff that's currently in the drier as the bag is still full of the clean laundry that hasn't been put away yet. I go to start putting my share of this away. 10.50 - DH comes upstairs with baby, who's hungry. 11.50 - baby finishes feeding. I go back to folding laundry. 11.55 - realise that if I want a shower that day, which I certainly do, I'd better grab the chance to take it while baby is between feeds and DH is available to keep him going if he suddenly decides he's starving again. Dash to do this. Baby is fussing a bit, so I suggest to DH that he could try the dummy (pacifier) just in case at least some of this is comfort sucking. 12.10 - finish showering, go back to the last of the laundry. Baby has been persuaded, after some dissent, that, yes, he does like dummies. DH and I have a reprise of our dummy vs. thumb debate (DH doesn't want him to be the child who gets bullied for still thumbsucking at school & thinks it'll be easier to wean him off a dummy - I've heard too many horror stories of parents having to get out of bed several times a night because their babies keep losing their dummies while sleeping and can't get back to sleep without them). 12.20 - finish laundry, leave DH to put baby in cot while I run downstairs to put the dishes in the dishwasher and the milk I pumped earlier in the fridge (having given up on previous plan to pump more to add to it). 12.30 - back upstairs again to find that baby is screaming after being left alone for less than ten minutes. Feed him. 1.00 a.m. - baby still fusses when put down in cot, so I try the dummy again. After an initial reluctance on his part, he actually takes it and seems happy with it. Unfortunately, it's of limited use as far as me getting sleep is concerned, since it falls out of his mouth every couple of minutes. Also, for reasons given above, I don't really want him to grow dependent on it to get to sleep. However, after twenty minutes of replacing his dummy, followed by a further short breastfeed, he has actually quietened down enough that he drifts off to sleep. 1.45 a.m. - bed. So, what I want to know is - how do parents of more than one child manage?? All the best, Sarah -- "I once requested an urgent admission for a homeopath who had become depressed and taken a massive underdose" - Phil Peverley |
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Phew, I'm exhausted! I don't really believe in scheduling babies this
young -- waking them from naps to feed, or whatnot. I've found that if you just feed them when they are hungry, and let them sleep when they are tired, eventually, without any further work on your part, they will organize their sleeps until they are sleeping through the night (considered to be a 6 hour stretch, I believe) by about 2-3 months. Most babies, without a lot of prodding, eventually learn to sleep through the night, and take predictable naps and feeds. I say toss the book and "read" the baby! Also, although it is a pain to replace the binky when it's fallen out, it's not the end of the world, and it doesn't last forever. For me, both of my girls relaxed when sucking on the binky, and it enabled them to fall asleep better than without. Same for when they were a little older, and were upset or crying about something -- the binky would help make it "all better." Plus, around 8 months old, they can put it in and take it out themselves, so you don't need to do late night binky duty. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Sarah Vaughan wrote:
So, what I want to know is - how do parents of more than one child manage?? I gotta say, that schedule sounds utterly hellish to me, and I've never had to contend with anything like that. Compared to mine at that stage, that's a *lot* less sleeping, a *lot* more feeds, and a *lot* longer feeds. I'm not sure what to suggest to you to change things, though. I do feel like pacifier vs. thumb is the least of your worries right now. If I had to deal with that schedule, I would use a pacifier or pretty much *anything* that helped! More typical for mine would be eating every two hours, with one longer stretch of 3-5 hours overnight. They probably wouldn't be awake for more than two hours at any one stretch (and some inter-nap intervals would be smaller than that). Feeds would last about 10 minutes (I realize that is speedier than normal). Naps would be generally 1-2 hours long. "Bedtime" would be around 10pm or so until 7am or so, during which time there'd be feedings but no real awake time. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Sarah,
Informative and entertaining account. I'd like to see more of these from other mothers with varying styles. Larry |
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Wow. Now I'm REALLY glad I had new mom amnesia and I didn't write down
everything or I'd never be asking DH to consider ttc in the next few months. A lot of this looked really familiar. Kay didn't like schedules and had her days and nights flipped and napped very quickly and unpredictably. And, to boot, she was colicky at night. She did, however, figure out the whole "eat on your side" thing, which was a blessing. DH refused to co-sleep, so we'd lounge on the couch until he left in the morning and then WE GOT THE BIG BED and we'd sleep five hours straight. |
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OH --
Kay's now 10 months old. She still doesnt' sleep through the night and we're working on getting her more used to her crib/cot, but she is even more fun now that she's walking, recognizing the dog and birds, and eating real food all by herself because she's a big girl! :^) |
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arrrggh, however it does sound like you have a normal newborn, a few things
did strike me though, first of all why on earth at 11.50 were you folding laundry? Your DH could have done it, or it could wait, and if you really need more baby stuff, go to Asda or Tesco, they are even cheaper now than when I was buying them 18 months ago, I got 7 body suits for 5pounds last week. In the morning it sounded like the car seat was in use a lot, we had a bouncy chair, the absolute basic one 10 pounds from mothercare which we kept in the dining/kitchen area, absolutely fab, car seat was or in the car or on the pushchair only. You really are having problems with that cot, you really don't have to spend money to do something about that, I'd rather put a baby swaddled on the floor than fight with them over a cot (as I type there is a 2 week old baby at my foot swaddled and sleeping on pillows). Throw away Gina Ford, I didn't read her, I read Ezzo, but I think she is just an English version of Ezzo, which is BAD, her scheduling of feeds has a serious risk of damaging your milk supply and the babies end up dehydrated or on formula. Cheers Anne |
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On 17 Dec 2004, H Schinske wrote:
Feeds never were predictable with him at all, and I never counted them or supposed they ought to be any certain length apart. I just figured I'd be interrupted to nurse pretty often, and that was that. Especially in the VERY earliest days, I kept a log of feedings (duration, which side, anything odd) and diapers (contents) because I was so overwhelmed I couldn't remember from one minute to the next what had happened to tell the doctor, and when I was on antibiotics, I was supposed to space feedings for at least 3 hours, I think , from the time I took the prescription. I wasn't trying to schedule anything so much as give myself some confidence that yes, something's going in, and something's coming out, regularly! |
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Sarah Vaughan wrote:
So, what I want to know is - how do parents of more than one child manage?? Good jesus is it like that everyday? I had the odd day like that with my newborns, usually on growth spurt days, but they were very few and far between. That kid eats all day long! Are you sure he's hungry? It may just me his squeaking is because he needs to be near you or needs to be held by someone rather than hungry. You sounds like the perfect sling candidate, a sling or a backpack may let him sleep on you while you do your bits and bobs around the house. That is quite a demanding wee baby you have there if it's like that everyday, I feel for you. Andrea |
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Sarah Vaughan wrote: So, what I want to know is - how do parents of more than one child manage?? Probably by lower expectations by a lot and realizing that babies, newborns particularly, are absolutely not 'scheduable', their patterns vary day to day and week to week such that trying to recognize any sort of pattern will only frustrate you in the end. With a newborn you should expect to spend most of the day nursing (and reading or watching TV or movies or resting), carrying baby around while you do household things in a sling or front carrier, resting or napping while baby naps, and thats about it - a few errands maybe. As he gets older maybe between 2-3 months, the feeds will likely space out and the naps will take on a more 'scheduled' feel. cara |
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