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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and
we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
Billy wrote:
My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. I guess at this point, I would ask how you know that the problem is with your daughter and not with the school. You raise several clear issues with the school, it appears that your daughter is often left with only aides supervising (or at least often enough that her misbehavior at those times is causing significant trouble), when you ask the school for information and assistance they apparently have no expertise to share. None of these things would be particularly acceptable to me. Maybe your daughter has issues, and maybe she doesn't, but it sure seems like this school isn't in much of a position to help her. What is her behavior like at home? Is she misbehaving there? If you can look at the situation objectively and decide that her behavior at home is fine, then I expect that there is very little you can do about behaviors that only occur at school. What are you supposed to do? Yell at her every day when she comes home for stuff she doesn't do under your watch? That's very unlikely to succeed in changing her school behavior. If she's challenging at home, then maybe there are some other things you can look into. Perhaps you are contributing to some problem behaviors and perhaps you can improve how you parent her when she's with you. But if the problem is pretty much exclusively at school, you don't have a lot of leverage. Someone *at school* has to be doing something effective *at the time* the problem behaviors are going on. If they aren't willing to do that, then they are not serving your child. I'm not saying that they ought to turn the classroom upside down to meet the needs of one child, but classroom management is part of a teacher's *job*, and if a child whose behavior is fine elsewhere is acting up just in a classroom, then there's something the teacher needs to be doing. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
"Billy" wrote in message oups.com... My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. It appears something changed in the last month or so. Maybe a student in the class left 3 weeks ago and she is acting out because of this. Maybe she is upset that she can't go out because of the frigid weather. Maybe something changed at home. Maybe there is a new aide, teacher or other staff member or student who bothers her. The other thing is that you said that her problems at the school have gotten worse over the years. I am wondering if the school is the right school for her. Maybe she would do better at a Montessori school, a Lutheran school or, a Quaker school or, Heaven forbid, a public school. If you haven't, I would discuss your daughter's behavior with her. Maybe she can give you some clues. Also, go and talk to the principal, with the idea that there is a problem and you want to work with the school *together* to solve. Jeff |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
On Feb 8, 9:07 pm, "Jeff" wrote:
"Billy" wrote in message oups.com... My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. It appears something changed in the last month or so. Maybe a student in the class left 3 weeks ago and she is acting out because of this. Maybe she is upset that she can't go out because of the frigid weather. Maybe something changed at home. Maybe there is a new aide, teacher or other staff member or student who bothers her. The other thing is that you said that her problems at the school have gotten worse over the years. I am wondering if the school is the right school for her. Maybe she would do better at a Montessori school, a Lutheran school or, a Quaker school or, Heaven forbid, a public school. If you haven't, I would discuss your daughter's behavior with her. Maybe she can give you some clues. Also, go and talk to the principal, with the idea that there is a problem and you want to work with the school *together* to solve. Jeff- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Exactly what I'm going to do. I have a meeting with the pricipal and teacher tomorrow. Thanks for your advice! Why do you dislike public schools so much? |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
"Billy" wrote in message oups.com... My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! Find another school now. Put her in public school, where the teachers have better education and aren't allowed to abuse children physically and mentally. Discipline and adherence to order is *way* overemphasized in Catholic school, and there's no room for kids that learn differently. BTDT. |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
On Feb 8, 10:47 pm, "deja.blues" wrote:
"Billy" wrote in message oups.com... My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! Find another school now. Put her in public school, where the teachers have better education and aren't allowed to abuse children physically and mentally. Discipline and adherence to order is *way* overemphasized in Catholic school, and there's no room for kids that learn differently. BTDT. I want to do this, but it seems not feasible. I dont know if I can walk into my town's schools kindergarden (half days only - the reason for putting her in the catholic school) tomorrow and say "my daughter's starting on Monday and finishing her year here". I dont know if that is possible. I'm going to make some calls and visits tomorrow Did you ever hear of that happening? |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
On Feb 8, 8:01 pm, Ericka Kammerer wrote:
Billy wrote: My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. I guess at this point, I would ask how you know that the problem is with your daughter and not with the school. You raise several clear issues with the school, it appears that your daughter is often left with only aides supervising (or at least often enough that her misbehavior at those times is causing significant trouble), when you ask the school for information and assistance they apparently have no expertise to share. None of these things would be particularly acceptable to me. Maybe your daughter has issues, and maybe she doesn't, but it sure seems like this school isn't in much of a position to help her. What is her behavior like at home? Is she misbehaving there? If you can look at the situation objectively and decide that her behavior at home is fine, then I expect that there is very little you can do about behaviors that only occur at school. What are you supposed to do? Yell at her every day when she comes home for stuff she doesn't do under your watch? That's very unlikely to succeed in changing her school behavior. If she's challenging at home, then maybe there are some other things you can look into. Perhaps you are contributing to some problem behaviors and perhaps you can improve how you parent her when she's with you. But if the problem is pretty much exclusively at school, you don't have a lot of leverage. Someone *at school* has to be doing something effective *at the time* the problem behaviors are going on. If they aren't willing to do that, then they are not serving your child. I'm not saying that they ought to turn the classroom upside down to meet the needs of one child, but classroom management is part of a teacher's *job*, and if a child whose behavior is fine elsewhere is acting up just in a classroom, then there's something the teacher needs to be doing. Best wishes, Ericka- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Thanks. I can't say that she is too good at home. She fights with her 3 year old brother often. Very possessive, not sharing, agressive, domineering. Odd since she is only 35 lbs - the same weight as him. I think the school is somewhat right but your comment about ther classroom management being their job is where the heart of the matter is. What I don't do right at home is my fault. What they don't do right at school is their fault. The teacher continues to bring up the fact that she can not discipline my daughter because of the incident they all know of where the teacher's aide that was fired due to her manhandling my daughter. It's almost like they want permission to physically maintain her, yet they persistently state that they would never hit the kids, that it isn't right. Very hipocritical, IMO. |
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On Feb 8, 9:07 pm, "Jeff" wrote:
"Billy" wrote in message oups.com... My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. It appears something changed in the last month or so. Maybe a student in the class left 3 weeks ago and she is acting out because of this. Maybe she is upset that she can't go out because of the frigid weather. Maybe something changed at home. Maybe there is a new aide, teacher or other staff member or student who bothers her. The other thing is that you said that her problems at the school have gotten worse over the years. I am wondering if the school is the right school for her. Maybe she would do better at a Montessori school, a Lutheran school or, a Quaker school or, Heaven forbid, a public school. If you haven't, I would discuss your daughter's behavior with her. Maybe she can give you some clues. Also, go and talk to the principal, with the idea that there is a problem and you want to work with the school *together* to solve. Jeff- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Yes, something has changed. She is being given a rough ciriculum that has increased steadily through the past few months. She is learning to add numbers, read books, 7 pages of homework 3 times aweek, etc. My wife thinks this is the cause, the transition from "play" to "work", but I do not agree. I dont know if this is now typical in the K grade, to be reading books and add and subtract. |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
"Billy" wrote in message ups.com... I want to do this, but it seems not feasible. I dont know if I can walk into my town's schools kindergarden (half days only - the reason for putting her in the catholic school) tomorrow and say "my daughter's starting on Monday and finishing her year here". I dont know if that is possible. I'm going to make some calls and visits tomorrow Did you ever hear of that happening? People transfer into public schools all the time after moves and so forth. You just fill out the paperwork, and in she'll go. Bizby |
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Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School
"Billy" wrote in message ups.com... On Feb 8, 9:07 pm, "Jeff" wrote: "Billy" wrote in message oups.com... My 6 year old daughter is in Kidnergarden in a catholic pre-school and we are receiving reports that she is being disobedient, disrespectful, agressive and fighting with other students, etc. The teacher has no suggesstions. We have no answers. We don't even have no clue on how to correct this and need help and experience wherever we can find it! The school is all nuns who come from predominatly the Phillapines and India, and a couple from Italy. The appear very gentle and respectful, as we always loved the school. It is an expensive school and highly recommended in the area. I gather their background comes from strict discipline, and devout religiousness. You Need to Understand The History (to help paint the picture)........ She is just about 6 years old and has attended the school since she was 2 1/2 years, and has always behaved fairly well with the other teachers (all nuns) as she progressed through four differant classes.....until just the past month. She was no angel, but just minor incidents all kids get into. As she progressed through the grades, things became more difficult. - She always cried every day that we dropped her off in her 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year old class. She would always cling to us before we left her. Many of the kids did this, but my daughter more consistently. - She cried less but was still clingy in her 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 year old class, where things started getting a bit tougher. I noticed her teacher tugging her arm very/very hard one day when I arrived to pick her up. When the techer turned and saw me observe this, she was embarrassed, but I let it go. I did write a letter anonymously to the school about it. The following year, the teacher was reportedly transferred to the "sister" school a few towns away. Was it because of this or other similar complaints I don't know. my then 2 year old son now begins going to the same school with all the nuns, because I find at the daycare we are sending him to that he is being neglegted - thrown in a crib with other kids unfree to roam while the two babysitters sit in rocking chairs and converse, never changed right, etc. He does extremely well now until just before the beginning of this year where there was a period of him being intolerable, but that has since subsided. He is also now just potty trained in th past month making their job easier. - In her 4 1/2 to 5 1/2 year old class, there was an incident in which I arrived in the school one day early to find my daughter under a table and the teacher's aide was pulling at her arm very agressively. The primary teacher was out of the school. This was an unpleasant suprise that was discovered when I opened the closed door of the classroom. When I approached my daughter, and the teacher's aide, my daughter had nail marks on her arm, was bleeding from the scratches, all red marks around all parts of her arm, and was crying hysterically. I went right to the head nun who runs the school and she observed the nail marks and redness, etc. One week later, that teacher's aid was gone - sent back to India. There was no mention as to the reason, but we knew why....so did all the other sisters I suppose. - Now in her present 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 year old class she's been great the first half of the time, but now nearing the strech of her pre- school and Kinnergarden graduation, the teacher is reporting all of this odd behavior. It all started in January until present. My daughter is reportedly "leading" the class into disruption, making paper airplanes and leading the class into not paying attention to learning, not listening to teachers or the authority, and today had a fight with a boy who she says kicked her - she scratched him, bopped his sister and another girl who apparently were trying to break it up. The kids have scratches, etc. All of these things happen consistently when the teacher's aides are supervising, year after year, never when the primary teacher is present. However, this teacher keeps making assumptions based on the children's and aides feedback as whom to blame for the rutger. It is always my daughter who is responsible. Anyone with suggestions or experiences we would be grateful. We want her to be prapared for her public school 1st grade transition with proper discipline. It appears something changed in the last month or so. Maybe a student in the class left 3 weeks ago and she is acting out because of this. Maybe she is upset that she can't go out because of the frigid weather. Maybe something changed at home. Maybe there is a new aide, teacher or other staff member or student who bothers her. The other thing is that you said that her problems at the school have gotten worse over the years. I am wondering if the school is the right school for her. Maybe she would do better at a Montessori school, a Lutheran school or, a Quaker school or, Heaven forbid, a public school. If you haven't, I would discuss your daughter's behavior with her. Maybe she can give you some clues. Also, go and talk to the principal, with the idea that there is a problem and you want to work with the school *together* to solve. Jeff- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Exactly what I'm going to do. I have a meeting with the pricipal and teacher tomorrow. Thanks for your advice! Why do you dislike public schools so much? I don't. I was actually making fun of church-based schools. Both types of schools (public and private) can be very good or not so good. Jeff |
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