Help! - 6 year old daughter Misbehaving in School

"Billy" wrote in message
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Thanks all. *I want to thank each and every one of you for sharing
your comments". You all are truly remarkable to help others with your
unselfish opinions.

So, the quick story.....
My wife and I met with the teachers. They said that they are changing
her seat away from the boy she tantalizes so they say. They will also
change their playtimee schedule and limit the toys (which frequently
is the souce of contests between children). I thought that it was a
start to see some action taken. We discussed the possibility of her
becoming frustrated with the work time. They had not too much to
comment on with that. The principal who claims 25 years of working w/
children said that she belives from what she is seeing/hearing that my
daughter is seeking attention. They claim that she is a leader and
when she seeks the attention of other children, they all follow. Many
times they follow her into recklessness. However, she also says that
many of the children will not play with her because she does not like
to share. Sounds hipocritical, no?

Doesn't like to share, all follow, tantalizes others, nobody likes to
play with her, doesnt care.....sounds like she is related to my boss!
Maybe these are really leadership traits??????

These traits all seem to be the same group. If you were 6, would you want to
play with somebody who doesn't like to share? She is taunting (I think that
is what you mean instead of tantalize) others. And her behavior during class
time are more entertaining than learning to spell, "apple," or add 2 and 3.
She is controlling other kids. That is a leadership trait for 6 year olds.

Unless they are inside because of the balmy weather in the northern US, I
am not sure that they should be using that many toys to begin with. They
should be teaching them to play games that don't require as many toys.

You shouldn't have had to go into school to get your daughter separated from
the boy she is supposedly bothering. That should have happened ages ago.

If she is in need of more attention, they should be able to provide her with
positive attention to help her not seek attention from her classmates in a
negative way. This is a classroom management issue.

The sharing and taunting issue sounds like both a classroom and home issue.
You need to work on her sharing more. There should be consequences, both
positive and negative, both at home and at school for her behaviors.

Finally, I would consider moving her to another school. You've said nothing
that makes me think that this is a good school for her and many things that
make me think it may be a bad match for her.

Jeff