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Gloom and doom crowd
We all know that the system as it stands sucks, that's a given. Still,
I don't know why it is that everytime someone comes to this group looking for help there is always that group that wants to tell you "Oh you're really ****ed now buddy!" You guys that are doing it are really hurting everyone that is dealing with the system. Do you also tell people going in for major surgery that they will probably die too? It's one thing to offer helpful information but just telling someone that they should just give up because everything is against them isn't doing anyone any good at all. To those of you looking for help, don't let these guys get you down. It's true that it's not an easy fight because the gloom and doom crowd is right when they say that many times the NCP gets screwed over royally. OTOH, there are some victories out there and the child support/custody system is making some changes back towards being more fair (even if it's at a snails pace). It would be ashame for anyone to decide they were already beaten before they even tried. The only way it will change is if we keep fighting the way things are now. |
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Dave wrote: We all know that the system as it stands sucks, that's a given. Still, I don't know why it is that everytime someone comes to this group looking for help there is always that group that wants to tell you "Oh you're really ****ed now buddy!" You guys that are doing it are really hurting everyone that is dealing with the system. Do you also tell people going in for major surgery that they will probably die too? It's one thing to offer helpful information but just telling someone that they should just give up because everything is against them isn't doing anyone any good at all. To those of you looking for help, don't let these guys get you down. It's true that it's not an easy fight because the gloom and doom crowd is right when they say that many times the NCP gets screwed over royally. OTOH, there are some victories out there and the child support/custody system is making some changes back towards being more fair (even if it's at a snails pace). It would be ashame for anyone to decide they were already beaten before they even tried. The only way it will change is if we keep fighting the way things are now. You're right, Dave. I think we're all guilty of being negative here from time to time, but the truth is -- Evil Will Out. It's just a matter of time and perseverance. Tammany Hall fell eventually, so will the corrupt CS system. - Ron ^*^ |
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"Dave" wrote in message ... We all know that the system as it stands sucks, that's a given. Still, I don't know why it is that everytime someone comes to this group looking for help there is always that group that wants to tell you "Oh you're really ****ed now buddy!" You guys that are doing it are really hurting everyone that is dealing with the system. Do you also tell people going in for major surgery that they will probably die too? It's one thing to offer helpful information but just telling someone that they should just give up because everything is against them isn't doing anyone any good at all. To those of you looking for help, don't let these guys get you down. It's true that it's not an easy fight because the gloom and doom crowd is right when they say that many times the NCP gets screwed over royally. OTOH, there are some victories out there and the child support/custody system is making some changes back towards being more fair (even if it's at a snails pace). It would be ashame for anyone to decide they were already beaten before they even tried. The only way it will change is if we keep fighting the way things are now. I have some sympathy for the above sentiments. However, we have to keep in mind that people should have a realistic view of how the system works. Just as there are surgeons who make huge amounts of money out of encouraging surgery, so there are divorce-industry participants--notably lawyers--who make huge amounts of money from encouraging people to have unrealistic expectations about what they can expect from litigation. To follow the analogy through, all the people who had unnecessary heart surgery at Redding Medical Center in California would have benefited from someone warning them about what seemed to be going on. And all the fathers who go into court seeking custody benefit from someone warning them that the glass ceiling on paternal custody is still firmly in place. In my view, what's needed is a realistic appraisal of the present system AND a recognition that litigation by one father standing alone is extremely unlikely to have any impact, either for the father or for fathers generally. Developing organizational structure that defends the interests of fathers is what is needed. To repeat a quote from Warren Farrell that I've used before, at present "in the battle of the sexes, only one side shows up." (I see that the Democratic victories in the U.S. Congress are encouraging some to revive the effort to pass the so-called equal rights amendment. So this is a particularly relevant factor now.) |
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"Dave" wrote in message ... We all know that the system as it stands sucks, that's a given. Still, I don't know why it is that everytime someone comes to this group looking for help there is always that group that wants to tell you "Oh you're really ****ed now buddy!" You guys that are doing it are really hurting everyone that is dealing with the system. Please tell me how it hurts the system when people report their direct experience with a system that is designed to extract extortionate amounts of money from NCP's at any cost with no regard to the well being of the NCP? Where is the equality and justice for all that this system is excused from? It's supposed to be a court of law, but what do you call it when hard evidence is ignored & reality is not a guideline. Family Kourt is nothing more than a government collection agency that has unlimited power & authority to hold it's victims to an unrealistic standard that the rest of society couldn't possibly be expected to abide by. And as usual, it's always the poor man that suffers the worst because they cannot afford real justice! IS that negative enough for ya? |
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"Werebat" wrote in You're right, Dave. I think we're all guilty of being negative here from time to time, but the truth is -- Evil Will Out. It's just a matter of time and perseverance. Tammany Hall fell eventually, so will the corrupt CS system. Is there any books available that we can learn to be positive about the C$ system. The "Joy of Child Support" might be a good seller? lol Here is some more positive reading: How to take a 6 month vacation at the State's expense 10 tips to living in poverty How not to ever get layed off Freedom from owning any money Let the state manage your budget Driving without a license Taking comfort that your ex is living well with new hubby and your child support money. |
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"Dale" wrote "Werebat" wrote in You're right, Dave. I think we're all guilty of being negative here from time to time, but the truth is -- Evil Will Out. It's just a matter of time and perseverance. Tammany Hall fell eventually, so will the corrupt CS system. Is there any books available that we can learn to be positive about the C$ system. The "Joy of Child Support" might be a good seller? lol == I think the point is that the system is BAD but we don't need to be overly dramatic when newbies drop by for help. We don't want them driving off a cliff or something. Sticking to the facts is much more helpful. |
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"Gini" wrote in Is there any books available that we can learn to be positive about the C$ system. The "Joy of Child Support" might be a good seller? lol == I think the point is that the system is BAD but we don't need to be overly dramatic when newbies drop by for help. We don't want them driving off a cliff or something. Sticking to the facts is much more helpful. Hmmm, when I was first introduced to this system two years ago, I was positive even when sitting in jail waiting for my hearing. I figured the judge will look at all the facts and make a logical fair conclusion and all this nightmare will get straightened out. All I found out was this is just another government racket and you are just another number to be processed, they could care less about facts or the well being of the people involved. Next! |
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On Wed, 29 Nov 2006 18:14:25 GMT, "Dale"
wrote: "Dave" wrote in message .. . We all know that the system as it stands sucks, that's a given. Still, I don't know why it is that everytime someone comes to this group looking for help there is always that group that wants to tell you "Oh you're really ****ed now buddy!" You guys that are doing it are really hurting everyone that is dealing with the system. Please tell me how it hurts the system when people report their direct experience with a system that is designed to extract extortionate amounts of money from NCP's at any cost with no regard to the well being of the NCP? I never said it hurts to tell what really happened to you. What I said is it hurts when you just tell someone they are screwed. If you give your own account of HOW you got screwed thats information that could be useful, but when you just tell someone they are screwed and leave it at that, what good does that do? Anyone coming here already knows they are screwed. What they are looking for is advice on how to get kissed before they get screwed Seriously, if you say I did xyz and it got me nowhere, then the next guy would know that a different approach should be tried. Where is the equality and justice for all that this system is excused from? It's supposed to be a court of law, but what do you call it when hard evidence is ignored & reality is not a guideline. They are NOT excused. They just think they are. I do have to give them credit though, where else could someone steal your money, your kids, tell you not to lose your income stream for 18 or more years then call it justice with a straight face? Family Kourt is nothing more than a government collection agency that has unlimited power & authority to hold it's victims to an unrealistic standard that the rest of society couldn't possibly be expected to abide by. And as usual, it's always the poor man that suffers the worst because they cannot afford real justice! I agree with you. I'm not saying to sit here and blow sunshine up someone's ass. I'm saying that we'd get a lot more done if we were exchanging useful information instead of preaching to the choir. IS that negative enough for ya? LOL.... |
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"Dave" wrote in Where is the equality and justice for all that this system is excused from? It's supposed to be a court of law, but what do you call it when hard evidence is ignored & reality is not a guideline. They are NOT excused. They just think they are. I do have to give them credit though, where else could someone steal your money, your kids, tell you not to lose your income stream for 18 or more years then call it justice with a straight face? I used to think that could only happened in the good old USSR. America, home of the Free is a lost concept! And as usual, it's always the poor man that suffers the worst because they cannot afford real justice! I agree with you. I'm not saying to sit here and blow sunshine up someone's ass. I'm saying that we'd get a lot more done if we were exchanging useful information instead of preaching to the choir. Well Dave, you came to the choir, so sing along: We are all so sc-rewed......so says the government, we are all so sc-rewed.......so says the government Bow to the almighty DA, for he has proclaimed his valour To hunt us all down, using his limitless power. With his trusty Sheriff, by his side. He will win his election, thanks to me & you chorus: We.... are ....cri-mi-nals....... felons, deadbeats, bums We don't..... have e-nough.... mon-ee We.... are ....cri-mi-nals and our pen-al-tee is po-ver-tee Maybe we could play this at the next re-election campain for everyone in office? LOL |
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