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Marie wrote:
I have no idea why people think Barbie is mandantory for girls. While it certainly isn't *mandatory* I think most people get it because they think the kids will like it. I played with Barbie's for hours and hours and years and years as a little girl. You can add on to your collection and it never gets old. If it wasn't for Usenet I'd have no idea that there were so many anti-Barbie people out there. Now I'll agree it is not cool to get the stuff after a parent specifically says no, regardless of the silly logic gdr -- Nikki |
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"Circe" wrote in message news:rdvPc.7350$go.4706@fed1read07... ted wrote: Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? No, it is not appropriate. It is not appropriate to say anything about presents in the invitation. As Sophie suggested, you can make recommendations during RSVP calls, but only if asked. Presents are gifts, however, voluntarily given, and as such, it is not polite to limit or constrain the giver. I second this. In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. I advise getting over this. Your children are not you and, as such, they will have different likes and dislikes than you have. If your daughter likes Barbies and/or pink, frilly things, that's *her* choice, not yours. (And rest assured, most of these childhood likes/dislikes are typically phases, anyway. I loved playing with Barbies as a child, but I'm about the least girly, pink and frilly person on the planet.) I second this, too. The above was partly brought to you by a conversation I had with a friend yesterday. Her husband and her son (19yo) are at loggerheads because the son has chosen to attend a Christian church (parents are Unitarian-Universalists). It breaks my heart to see parents get into fights with their children because their children do what they are supposed to do and grow up to be free-thinking individuals who are capable of making their own choices. I second this, too. You sure did not leave me much to say. |
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"Marnie" wrote in message news:uuvPc.235965$XM6.171565@attbi_s53... "ted" wrote in message om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! What is it with well-meaning people and Barbie cakes? Is it simply because they *can* make a cake with a doll in it that they feel they *must*? I think it is a bit rude to insist that you are going to make someone else's kid's birthday cake. Perhaps the Mom would like to do this herself? |
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ted wrote:
Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? No. If they ask you can share areas of interest. If you are stressed about gifts you don't approve of then I wouldn't have a birthday party. I'd have some other kind of event where people wouldn't bring a gift. I can't think of any kind of toy I'd be stressed about, even though there are things I wouldn't buy or encourage on purpose. -- Nikki |
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Peggy wrote:
Some might think this is tacky, but check into birthday gift registries (I think Wal*Mart has one) and put in the invitation something to the effect of "child is registered at Wal*Mart." Mentioning anything about registries in an invitation is a major etiquette no-no. -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7) This week's suggested Bush/Cheney campaign bumper sticker: "Leave no child a dime." All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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"glunk" wrote in message ... "Marnie" wrote in message news:uuvPc.235965$XM6.171565@attbi_s53... "ted" wrote in message om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! What is it with well-meaning people and Barbie cakes? Is it simply because they *can* make a cake with a doll in it that they feel they *must*? I think it is a bit rude to insist that you are going to make someone else's kid's birthday cake. Perhaps the Mom would like to do this herself? my mil does this all the time because she knows I like to buy a cake from the store. But that is because I LIKE store bought cake I gave in and she gets to do DH birthday cake but I like to buy the other ones. First Year bonnie had a Cinderella Cake for her birthday and a cute andgel Cake for her Baptism. Year 2 she had a Dora The Explorer cake for her birthday. As for gifts I have told people close (parents, inlaws, close friends) my preferances such as I dont like Care Bear Movies but the toys are fine. Most of the people that I would expect to get a toy for my kids (not that I expect it but it was the best word) have simular veiws as I do for the most part. I must admit I have many friends that do not like Dragon Tales but I think it is cute I also like teletubbies and a few other PBS shows. Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Xavier due 10/17/04 |
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In article , Peggy says...
"ted" wrote in message . com... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. Some might think this is tacky, but check into birthday gift registries (I think Wal*Mart has one) and put in the invitation something to the effect of "child is registered at Wal*Mart." Majorly tacky... |
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"ted" wrote in message
om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? No it's not appropriate to tell the buyer what to buy unless they ask for suggestions. If you are limiting what your daughter plays with, it's probably a better idea to not have a party so that there can be no mistakes made on the gift. In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. So you don't want your daughter to think for herself? She *is* going to you know. If you're going to start forbiding things, she is probably going to want it to spite you. Just because you aren't into frilly doesn't mean she is isn't going to be. I'm not frilly girly girl and all my girls have gone through the girly frilly phase. And having a Barbie doesn't mean they are going to be frilly. I know my girls are not. They have good taste in clothes so far, one is even into bugs. But, they do like to wear dresses and look nice. You are setting yourself up for some huge troubles if you start thinking for your daughter and wanting her to think like you. Just remember Barbie isn't the evil creature adults make them out to be. When girls play with them, they don't think of slutty things like adults do about them. They play house with them or make up different things to act out with Barbie. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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ted wrote in message om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. I'd love to say this. I do mention regularly that I don't like Barbie so parents who know me wouldn't usually get it. I did feel I'd been successful at her 3rd party (3 months late!!) when she asked me if a "my little Pony" was a Barbie! She does have a Barbie scooter, just because she was passed it on second hand. Personally I wouldn't mind a mention like a small book, because it's not a large present and still gives you scope for choice. Asking for presents either with little choice or expensive would be irritating for me. If you think that several people will bring Barbie (and that's the only thing you'd object to) saying "please, no Barbie" would be fine by me. Adding more than that would look somewhat fussy. Debbie This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. |
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In article 1fvPc.7351$go.1989@fed1read07, Circe says...
Marie wrote: I have no idea why people think Barbie is mandantory for girls. Maybe because the typical 4-6yo girl likes them and they're not exactly the spawn of the devil? LOL! Hear hear. With birthday parties I do sympathize with the sheer amount of STUFF that it leads to, but, if one has strong socio-political-taste objections regarding kids' toys, one has to either set those aside, be prepared to intecede (at home after the party), or just not have a birthday party. And Barbies are not the spawn of the devil. (Oh NO Banty doncha know they're a plot by the International Association of Anorexics looking for a steady stream of recruits!) This goes for boys-guns, etc. etc. Banty |
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