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Things to think of before you get married again..
Phil wrote:
[distortion deleted] "His semen, his choice, his responsibility." All his fault, got it What about the moral responsibility she should have to at least inform him of the pregnancy? You keep trying that sleazy trick, but it's not gonna work. [distortion deleted] That she has such a moral responsibility does not serve to negate any responsibility that he has. A responsibility you'd never place on a woman, obviously. But I just *did* place responsibility on the woman, and I have done so before. What bothers you is that I will not put up with your using the woman's responsibility to negate the man's responsibility. What I'm asking you to do is to accept the responsibilities that *you* have, and you respond by resisting that with every fiber of your being. No, you just can't accept the fact that it's all lopsided, that women have all the choices and only the responsibility they choose while men have no choices yet exactly the responsibility the woman chooses for them. That is factually false. And it's not the first time you've been factually false, either. What that boils down to is that the facts do not support your preferred conclusions, and your arguments are not only factually bankrupt, but morally bankrupt as well, so you are forced to resort to lying in a vain attempt to maintain your bankrupt fiction. I do not truck with liars. |
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I just took a look at the child support guidelines for Michigan and
Virginia, two jurisdictions in which I have lived. Both base child support on the combined gross incomes of both parents, as well as taking into account the amount of time the child spends with each. Basically, it's the same sort of equity-based system that will be going into effect here in Minnesota on January 1. You might want to take a look at the child support guidelines in the jurisdiction in which you live. |
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"Fred" wrote in message . net... Bob Whiteside wrote: "Fred" wrote in message . net... Tripped over it again, did you? Phil wrote: You also raise another interesting problem: what if the mother doesn't tell him about the pregnancy, does he STILL have responsibilities and what are they? It's still his semen, right? I mean, just because he doesn't know that he did something doesn't mean that he didn't do it. So yeah, he still has a degree of moral accountability, and if the child is alive, he definitely has legal accountability. How so? Because it's his semen. "His semen, his choice, his responsibility." What about the moral responsibility she should have to at least inform him of the pregnancy? You keep trying that sleazy trick, but it's not gonna work. That she has such a moral responsibility does not serve to negate any responsibility that he has. What I'm asking you to do is to accept the responsibilities that *you* have, and you respond by resisting that with every fiber of your being. Disgusting. Your little feminist biology lesson is based on wishful thinking and not established biological information. It's not his semen? Whose semen is it, hers? You're gonna tell us that she impregnated herself? Or are you going for immaculate conception? Actually, all your questions are irrelevant. How hard is it to understand eggs are a scarcer resource than sperm? And how, exactly, does that negate the biological fact that it's his semen, and that without his semen there's no pregnancy? What y'all are all about is negating the male's responsibility by pointing to the female's responsibility. Well, last time I read a biology book, it took two to procreate, which makes both of them responsible for the outcome. Actually, what you think is irrevelant. To say men are responsible for women's bad choices in sperm is to transfer the biological misjudgments made by women to men. So don't say that. I haven't, and you shouldn't, either. Actually, no one cares what you say. The femwits who can't accept their biological destiny want to have the state step in with remedies to cover up their biological mistakes. The state's solution is to use men's money to cover-up the lack of responsibility by women who don't select good mates. And as always with y'all shirkers, it's all about the money. At least you are honest enough to admit it, I'll give you that. Actually, we are just toying with you so you can make a bigger ass of yourself. Problem is, the facts don't support your desired conclusions, so you're forced to resort to falsehoods, spin, and assorted trickery. But you can't get past the essential facts: "His semen, his choice, his responsibility." "Her body, her choice, her responsibility." "For every choice, a consequence." Actually, nobody buys your bull**** conclusions! And actually, by the way, nobody believes you are a "Fred." |
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"Fred" wrote in message . net... As before, let's get right to the nub of it: Phil wrote: When speaking of custody or child $upport, "responsibility" is the same as money. Primarily, fathers have a "responsibility" for child $upport but the mother does not have an equal "responsibility". As a matter of course, fathers pay money to the mothers but mothers do not have to spend it on the children as long as they are minimally cared for (using the fact that nearly all custodial parents are mothers). IOW, she has less "responsibility" to the same children while his sole "responsibility" is $$$. There you go again. To you, it's all about the money. "responsibility ... : moral, legal, or mental accountability" http://www.webster.com/cgi-bin/dicti...responsibility Still, you have helped to make my point that, at the end of the day, this is all about money. Not moral accountability. Not informed consent. Not the welfare of the child. Money. And specifically evading the payment of money when one is both morally and legally accountable to do so. Legally, yes. Morally, hell no. So after all this, you do agree that it's all about the money, to the point that you will evade your moral accountability for contributing to the pregnancy, and even your moral accountability to the child who carries your DNA. That's disgusting. Nobody said that, Fred. Quit twisting everything and really listen for a change. Geesh! |
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Tracy wrote:
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Fred" wrote in message . net... That she has such a moral responsibility does not serve to negate any responsibility that he has. What I'm asking you to do is to accept the responsibilities that *you* have, and you respond by resisting that with every fiber of your being. To say men are responsible for women's bad choices in sperm is to transfer the biological misjudgments made by women to men. I'm jumping in here for a second because I have not seen a single sentence Fred has written that suggests he is saying men are responsible for women's bad choices. All he has said is that men should take responsibility for where he puts his own penis. His ejaculation is due to him placing his penis inside of the woman and engaging in the sexual act with her. Pregnancy is a possible outcome of the act, which in most cases the act itself is mutually agreed on. So I'm not sure why anyone is reading more into someone stating that a man should take responsibility for his choice - where to put his penis. At the end of the day, it's all about the money. These males are trying to evade responsibility for their choices so as to falsely justify not having to pay child support, or medical bills, or whatever else they might have to spend on someone else as a result of their choices. And "someone else" includes the child. I could understand an argument based on the child support laws in a given jurisdiction being based only on the income of the noncustodial parent. That's simply not equitable. But that is not the case in every jurisdiction, and even if it is in a given jurisdiction, it speaks to challenging or changing the law, as has been done here in Minnesota, not using an inequitable law as justification to evade supporting his child. All I'm asking is that both men and women take responsibility for their choices. What's wrong with that? |
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"Fred" wrote in message . net... Let's get right to the nub of it: Phil wrote: Not *the* responsibility. *A* responsibility. "Her body, her choice, her responsibility." "His semen, his choice, his responsibility." "For every choice, a consequence." But not equal choices nor consequences including after childbirth when both parents are, or should be, equal. First of all, when it comes to reproduction, you are confusing equality with sameness. Males and females have different sets of choices and consequences because they are not biologically the same. When you can bear children, then I will grant you the same set of choices regarding reproduction as are available to women. Until then, you'll just have to work with the choices and consequences available to men. Huh? Did anyone ask that men be able to bear children? Where do you come up with this weird stuff? After childbirth, there should be equity. In some jurisdictions, that is the case; in others, it is not. That's an issue for legislatures to resolve. Oh--and until then men should sit idly by and just accept the humiliation visited upon them in family court? What is WRONG with you? |
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"Fred" wrote in message . net... Phil wrote: After childbirth, there should be equity. In some jurisdictions, that is the case; in others, it is not. That's an issue for legislatures to resolve. It is NOT the case in ANY jurisdiction in the US, PERIOD. So now you are resorting to lying. Disgusting. [Actually, folks, he doesn't want equity. He wants to keep all the money for himself.] If he's wrong, why don't you inform us of where these jurisdictions are instead of this silly little coy act of yours? |
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"Fred" wrote in message . net... I just took a look at the child support guidelines for Michigan and Virginia, two jurisdictions in which I have lived. Both base child support on the combined gross incomes of both parents, as well as taking into account the amount of time the child spends with each. Basically, it's the same sort of equity-based system that will be going into effect here in Minnesota on January 1. You might want to take a look at the child support guidelines in the jurisdiction in which you live. What a load of naivete! chuckle |
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"Phil" wrote in message link.net... "Fred" wrote in message . net... Phil wrote: "Fred" wrote in message . net... Gini wrote: "Fred" wrote .................... What, I want to know, is so damned bad about suggesting that people take responsibility? == Not at all--In fact we agree. She had the responsibility to not have sex when she was ovulating and had the responsibility to know when she is ovulating and the responsibility to tell him when she was ovulating. Apparently, she failed to do so. What we seem to have (systemically, in our society) is a failure to compel women to accept responsibility for their actions and decisions and we them condemn men for not anticipating her lack of responsibility. I don't think that it is an either/or situation. Both parties bear a responsibility. What I object to are the representations to the effect that one party is solely responsible to the exclusion of the other. Think about it: some men use sanctimonious statements such as "her body, her choice, her responsibility" to evade their own responsibilities. I know this because those men conspicuously evade my statement, "his semen, his choice, his responsibility." Failing to grasp that HER choice, whatever is may be, overrides his choice and with it goes the sole responsibility for that choice. The ONE making the decisions should accept the consequences of their decision. Those who contributed to the condition are both accountable. But as you say in another post, men and women are different and have different responsibilities due to their biological differences so take a stand and stand by it already. With pregnancy, men should be held equally liable to that of the mother, which means they should have the option of raising the child as they see fit every bit as much as the other but when the parents are not involved in an intact relationship, BOTH parents should be equal in custody, support (financial, emotional, spiritual and all others) and every other facet of the child's life unless there is a valid and just reason not to allow it. That "valid and just" phrase speaks to equity, which is fine with me. Not equality; equity. No, equality, I didn't misspell it. On the other hand, as long as women have the option to just walk away from a living, breathing child, denying men the same right in the same period is sexist and unequal treatment for similarly situated people. As long as women have the option to decide whether to become parents at all, men should have the same legal right during the same period. And there it is! The man seeks to evade responsibility for his actions. No, not at all. You need to learn to comprehend the written word. That is NOT what I said. Perhaps if I typed r-e-a-l s-l-o-w... I'm promoting equality. You see it as something else. Why, I'm not sure but I suspect you are a gender-feminist and ashamed to admit it. Maybe "he" is really a "she" who is not getting the amount she feels she is entitled to. OR maybe his mother didn't get enough child support form any of the men she let knock her up so she wouldn't have to work. He (or she) sounds bitter, angry, and absolutely foolsih. (and maybe related to MoonShyne--you can tell by the tap dancing) |
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"Phil" wrote in message nk.net... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Fred" wrote in message . net... Gini wrote: "teachrmama" wrote ............................ And you, Fred, are totally *dismissing* WOMEN'S responsibilities! I am a woman, and I find it demeaning that you keep harping on what MEN should do, but not a hint about how WOMEN should handle their responibilities in the same situation. Everything a woman does after the sex act is a consequence of where that mean old man left his semen. Nonsense! Or maybe I'm just reading you wrong--why don't you clearly delineate what the woman's responsibilities are after the consequence of pregnancy becomes an issue. == A ride to the CSE office? (Because she's *owed* it, of course.) I guess that the matter is best explained by reference to the theme of the game Fable: "For every choice, a consequence." So he chooses to spread his semen hither and yon, and she chooses to let him spread it in her. And let's say that the consequence is pregnancy. Now there are other choices to be made, in this case by her, and from those choices will spring consequences in turn. Had there been no pregnancy, the consequences resulting therefrom would not have occurred, because the choices resulting therefrom would not have had to be made. And had he not spread his semen around, or had she chosen not to let him spread his semen in her, there would have been no pregnancy. Yes, she contributed to that pregnancy. But so did he, and attempts to deny that fact with sanctimonious bleatings to the effect of "her body, her choice, her responsibility" are simply not valid. Yes, he does not have input into certain downstream choices/consequences. That's unfortunate, but it does not absolve him from taking at least some responsibility for the consequences of his behavior in spreading his semen hither and yon, including downstream consequences not of his choosing, for at the end of the day it's "his semen, his choice, his responsibility." Abortion? Without an unwanted pregnancy, there is no abortion. And without his semen, there is no unwanted pregnancy. "His semen, his choice, his responsibility." Child support? Without a pregnancy, there is no child to support. And without his semen, there is no pregnancy. "His semen, his choice, his responsibility." What, I want to know, is so damned bad about suggesting that people take responsibility? PLEASE pay better attention, Fred! You have never heard me deny the responsibility of either parent--never! What I AM saying is that WOMEN also need to be held responsible! BOTH parties are resposible, and BOTH should have both RIGHTS and RESPONSIBILITIES! I think where you're losing him is when you advocate women having similar responsibility or men having similar rights. Phil #3 Yep--I think you're right. |
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