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Here's the dilemma - My boyfriend and I have a business together, it's a
web based business. Lately things have been picking up, unfortunatly I work a full time job(this was supposed to be part time, when-I-can-get-to-it kind of web-based hobby). So here's the dilemma; Because it's gotten busier(which is good), he decided to bring in help...his ex-girlfriend. I have a huge problem with it..imagine that! He didn't tell me about it until the day she started. He's not paying her yet, she just happens to have the free time and nothing else to do during the day. I have expressed that I am adamently against this. I would love to go work full time on this, but I can't do it for free. So, oh great wise ones, what would you do? What would be the best way to handle this, without ruining our relationship? It hurts so much to know that she is there working with him. I trust him, I just don't trust her. She's very manipulative. |
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Hi there hdbabe
hdbabe wrote: Here's the dilemma - My boyfriend and I have a business together, Are you sure about this? If one of you is making important decisions about the business without consulting or discussing it with the other, it doesn't sound like a real business partnership. ....So here's the dilemma; Because it's gotten busier(which is good), he decided to bring in help...his ex-girlfriend. The keywords that ring some alarm bells for me are "he decided" - as Kate notes, it should have been something like 'WE discussed and WE decided" He didn't tell me about it until the day she started. ...... I trust him, I just don't trust her. She's very manipulative. I sort of wonder about the basis on which you place your trust in this man - while of course everyone has their own standards, for me his actions would not be considered as trustworthy. And some might see his action in presenting you with the 'deed done' as manipulative. On the basis of what you write it seems that it might be helpful for your future relationship with this man to have some talks about how you both want the relationship to work, what values you share, and, were it me in your position, how soon is he going to explain to that ex that the situation is not workable. Good luck David |
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"hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... Here's the dilemma - My boyfriend and I have a business together, it's a web based business. Lately things have been picking up, unfortunatly I work a full time job(this was supposed to be part time, when-I-can-get-to-it kind of web-based hobby). So here's the dilemma; Because it's gotten busier(which is good), he decided to bring in help...his ex-girlfriend. I have a huge problem with it..imagine that! He didn't tell me about it until the day she started. He's not paying her yet, she just happens to have the free time and nothing else to do during the day. I have expressed that I am adamently against this. I would love to go work full time on this, but I can't do it for free. So, oh great wise ones, what would you do? What would be the best way to handle this, without ruining our relationship? It hurts so much to know that she is there working with him. I trust him, I just don't trust her. She's very manipulative. This sounds familiar. You been here before? Doesn't sound like much of partnership to me. If you don't want to 'ruin' the relationship and you trust him, leave it alone. You can ask nicely for him to find someone else who will work for free but that is unlikely he would find someone. If you trust him but not her, what do you think she will do, drug him then take him to bed? T |
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"hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... Here's the dilemma - My boyfriend and I have a business together, it's a web based business. Lately things have been picking up, unfortunatly I work a full time job(this was supposed to be part time, when-I-can-get-to-it kind of web-based hobby). So here's the dilemma; Because it's gotten busier(which is good), he decided to bring in help...his ex-girlfriend. I have a huge problem with it..imagine that! He didn't tell me about it until the day she started. He's not paying her yet, she just happens to have the free time and nothing else to do during the day. I have expressed that I am adamently against this. I would love to go work full time on this, but I can't do it for free. So, oh great wise ones, what would you do? What would be the best way to handle this, without ruining our relationship? It hurts so much to know that she is there working with him. I trust him, I just don't trust her. She's very manipulative. I would be upset that I did not have a hand in the decision. I surely would not like that she happens to be his ex. I think I would see if there could be someone else to assist. That is too much of a strain on a relationship and shame on him for not thinking of your feelings. V |
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"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... Here's the dilemma - My boyfriend and I have a business together, it's a web based business. Lately things have been picking up, unfortunatly I work a full time job(this was supposed to be part time, when-I-can-get-to-it kind of web-based hobby). So here's the dilemma; Because it's gotten busier(which is good), he decided to bring in help...his ex-girlfriend. I have a huge problem with it..imagine that! He didn't tell me about it until the day she started. He's not paying her yet, she just happens to have the free time and nothing else to do during the day. I have expressed that I am adamently against this. I would love to go work full time on this, but I can't do it for free. So, oh great wise ones, what would you do? What would be the best way to handle this, without ruining our relationship? It hurts so much to know that she is there working with him. I trust him, I just don't trust her. She's very manipulative. This sounds familiar. You been here before? Doesn't sound like much of partnership to me. If you don't want to 'ruin' the relationship and you trust him, leave it alone. You can ask nicely for him to find someone else who will work for free but that is unlikely he would find someone. If you trust him but not her, what do you think she will do, drug him then take him to bed? T There might not be drugs needed. V |
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"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... Here's the dilemma - My boyfriend and I have a business together, it's a web based business. Lately things have been picking up, unfortunatly I work a full time job(this was supposed to be part time, when-I-can-get-to-it kind of web-based hobby). So here's the dilemma; Because it's gotten busier(which is good), he decided to bring in help...his ex-girlfriend. I have a huge problem with it..imagine that! He didn't tell me about it until the day she started. He's not paying her yet, she just happens to have the free time and nothing else to do during the day. I have expressed that I am adamently against this. I would love to go work full time on this, but I can't do it for free. So, oh great wise ones, what would you do? What would be the best way to handle this, without ruining our relationship? It hurts so much to know that she is there working with him. I trust him, I just don't trust her. She's very manipulative. This sounds familiar. You been here before? My first thoughts... snip -- A: Because it messes up the order in which people normally read text. Q: Why is top-posting such a bad thing? A: Top-posting. Q: What is the most annoying thing on usenet? |
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We talked, I cried...He's decided that he needs to maintain a 'personal
relationship' with her. I'm not sure what to make of it that. She's the grandmother of a child he's raising. The child is not related to my boyfriend in any biological way. Long story. I guess boyfriend believes that if he doesn't maintain a 'personal relationship', she'll jump ship as a grandparent. Personally, I say 'Look out below!'. I have decided to keep a distance from the business for now, until the emotions cool down. Doesn't mean I won't show up and surprise 'em. Gotta keep 'em on thier toes. Wish me luck. I have a feeling this relationship has just about reached an end. Time to move on..thanks for the advice all. |
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"hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... We talked, I cried...He's decided that he needs to maintain a 'personal relationship' with her. I'm not sure what to make of it that. She's the grandmother of a child he's raising. The child is not related to my boyfriend in any biological way. Long story. I guess boyfriend believes that if he doesn't maintain a 'personal relationship', she'll jump ship as a grandparent. Personally, I say 'Look out below!'. I have decided to keep a distance from the business for now, until the emotions cool down. Doesn't mean I won't show up and surprise 'em. Gotta keep 'em on thier toes. Wish me luck. I have a feeling this relationship has just about reached an end. Time to move on..thanks for the advice all. Good thinking. V |
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