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Old May 30th 08, 03:18 AM posted to alt.child-support
RogerN
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Default CP Spends support on self, can kids sue CP?

A little background:
I got a better paying job a little over 5 years ago. CS went up
significantly. What I pay now is 162% of what I paid before. I did this
through a more demanding but better paying job. Her response was "It's
better than nothing". Shortly after this increase, she got herself a more
sporty car. When the kids turned old enough to drive, they had to go to
work after school so they could buy their own insurance. After a couple of
years, the sporty car wasn't good enough and the CP bought herself a sport
car. So the CP makes half of what my income is (but she gets 32% of my take
home pay) but yet she can afford to buy a sport car and insurance for
herself and the kids have to pay their own way by working after school.
Anytime the kids need school clothes or anything else, she calls asking for
extra money. I ask her what happened to the extra support she got and she
tells the kids that I don't want to help.

So, the oldest is now 18 and just Graduated HS this year. She had a party
afterwards and I didn't attend because I prefer to stay away from her
mother. I eMailed her and told her about the increase in support her mom
got, and I didn't see any of the increase money being spent on them, and her
mom asking for money at every occasion, etc etc. She said she figured out
years ago that their mom was spending their money on herself... Anyway, it
doesn't bother me if their mom spends some of the support on herself, after
the kids ride in her car, etc. But when she buys herself luxuries with
their money and then asks for more money for them and tells them they have
to work because I don't want to help...

Question, could the 18 year old sue her mom for her 1/3 of the 62% increase
that their mom received for over 5 years and didn't spend on them? I'm
still paying the same support and her mom wants her to start paying to live
there since she's 18 and out of school. I don't know that we'd really go
through with it but if the mom knew she could be sued for the support she's
blowing on herself she might ease off the kids.

Thanks!

Roger N


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Old May 30th 08, 05:08 AM posted to alt.child-support
Gini[_2_]
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Default CP Spends support on self, can kids sue CP?

"RogerN" wrote in message
...
A little background:
I got a better paying job a little over 5 years ago. CS went up
significantly. What I pay now is 162% of what I paid before. I did this
through a more demanding but better paying job. Her response was "It's
better than nothing". Shortly after this increase, she got herself a more
sporty car. When the kids turned old enough to drive, they had to go to
work after school so they could buy their own insurance. After a couple
of years, the sporty car wasn't good enough and the CP bought herself a
sport car. So the CP makes half of what my income is (but she gets 32% of
my take home pay) but yet she can afford to buy a sport car and insurance
for herself and the kids have to pay their own way by working after
school. Anytime the kids need school clothes or anything else, she calls
asking for extra money. I ask her what happened to the extra support she
got and she tells the kids that I don't want to help.

So, the oldest is now 18 and just Graduated HS this year. She had a party
afterwards and I didn't attend because I prefer to stay away from her
mother. I eMailed her and told her about the increase in support her mom
got, and I didn't see any of the increase money being spent on them, and
her mom asking for money at every occasion, etc etc. She said she figured
out years ago that their mom was spending their money on herself...
Anyway, it doesn't bother me if their mom spends some of the support on
herself, after the kids ride in her car, etc. But when she buys herself
luxuries with their money and then asks for more money for them and tells
them they have to work because I don't want to help...

Question, could the 18 year old sue her mom for her 1/3 of the 62%
increase that their mom received for over 5 years and didn't spend on
them?

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Nope. The money is for the CP to spend as she pleases. The minor kids have
no legal rights to the CS. Sorry. That's just the way it is. As long as the
kids are provided their basic needs, the CP's legal obligation is met. Some
states permit an audit of the money if there is reason to believe it is
being mis-spent but few define "mis-spent" and such audits are usually
reserved for mega CS awards. Judges simply don't want to be bothered with
cumbersome details.

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Old May 30th 08, 05:40 AM posted to alt.child-support
Bob Whiteside
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Default CP Spends support on self, can kids sue CP?


"Gini" wrote in message
news:35L%j.6540$oV.3969@trndny03...

Judges simply don't want to be bothered with
cumbersome details.


Or reality.

Because reality might shake up their pre-conceived assumptions about how
mothers do parenting.

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Old May 31st 08, 11:24 AM posted to alt.child-support
RogerN
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Default CP Spends support on self, can kids sue CP?


It's sad that they want to crack down on deadbeat NCP's but don't give a
rats behind if the CP uses the money for the children or drugs or anything
else. We need a good TV commercial about a CP getting support money, making
her kids go to bed filthy and hungry as she leaves them alone and blows
their money partying!

Roger N

"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message
...

"Gini" wrote in message
news:35L%j.6540$oV.3969@trndny03...

Judges simply don't want to be bothered with
cumbersome details.


Or reality.

Because reality might shake up their pre-conceived assumptions about how
mothers do parenting.



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Old May 31st 08, 03:04 PM posted to alt.child-support
Phil
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Default CP Spends support on self, can kids sue CP?


"RogerN" wrote in message
m...

It's sad that they want to crack down on deadbeat NCP's but don't give
a rats behind if the CP uses the money for the children or drugs or
anything else. We need a good TV commercial about a CP getting
support money, making her kids go to bed filthy and hungry as she
leaves them alone and blows their money partying!

Roger N


Actually it should be a TV series because it would be one that a large
number of mothers could identify with.
Phil #3


"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message
...

"Gini" wrote in message
news:35L%j.6540$oV.3969@trndny03...

Judges simply don't want to be bothered with
cumbersome details.


Or reality.

Because reality might shake up their pre-conceived assumptions about
how mothers do parenting.





 




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