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Do you have at least 2 children??
Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some
stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks |
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Do you have at least 2 children??
On Fri, 21 Dec 2007 13:47:32 -0800 (PST), mommak wrote:
Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... Very jelous the first year, but they get along great now. How far are they apart..... 32 months. What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Not much. Any thing you want to tell. I love the spacing of our kids and they get along so well. Yes, they fight, but not much. They play more than fight and they play well. |
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"mommak" wrote in message
Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. I have three children. 15, 12, and 11 yrs old. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... DD1 handled it pretty well. When DD2 was 19 months old, DD3 was born. DD2 was too little to react in a negative way towards DD3. DD2 and DD3 don't get along now that they are older, they fight constantly. However, it could be that they are all girls and all very close in age. The biggest thing I think that is important is to make sure you make time for each child individually. How far are they apart..... Between DD1 and 2, there is 3 years apart. Between DD2 and DD3 there is 19 months apart. Between DD1 and DD3 there is 4 years apart. What were some of the questions the first child asked..... I don't remember too many questions. They were pretty young when siblings were brought home. Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks Just remember that no spacing is perfect and it is not guaranteed that your children will get along because they are close in age. My experience shows me that the farther apart they are, the better they get along. The closer they are the worse they get along, but these are my kids and the way it is at my house. I don't like the close spacing because I feel as though I have missed out on a lot of one on one times with each of them because they are so close in age that I feel as though I don't have any time between stages. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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mommak wrote: Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... Mine are 11 and almost 6. My oldest absolutely despised the baby. She had never wanted a sibling, and she wasn't kidding. She wouldn't have hurt him, but she'd certainly have been thrilled if we had returned him to the hospital. She's progressed to liking him, but I suspect she wouldn't mind a whole lot if he disappeared today. How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... When we told her we were going to have another baby, her anguished question was: "WHY????" Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks If you want another child, have another child. Presumably, you'd be having it because you want it, not for some silliness like thinking the other child needs a sibling. Don't expect that the first child will be happy about it. If that happens, great - you get a bonus. Clisby |
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On Fri, 21 Dec 2007 13:47:32 -0800 (PST), mommak
wrote: Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks I'm a grandma, but I remember having my second. My ds and dd are almost exactly 3 years apart. My ds really did not ask anything. He was not interested. He was fine with her until she started walking and getting into his things. Then he was not happy and would push her down or grab his toys back from her. He also regressed at 3.5 because he didn't like the idea of mom being home with baby sister and him being in nursery school. We had to pull him out and put him back in the following year. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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On Dec 21, 4:47�pm, mommak wrote:
Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... �How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks My first two are 25 months apart. The biggest problem we had was due to me not realizing there were some routines we had established that would not always remain consistent after a new baby arrived. So when he woke up from naps and in the morning, we would snuggle on the couch for a bit, and before bed we always read stories, etc. He was fine with the new baby until say he would walk out of his room from a nap and find me feeding the baby and unable to snuggle him in my lap like we had always done. He would then go hide underneath the kitchen table and cry "Baby down!", and I would put baby down and try to coax him out, so then baby would be crying, then I would cry from guilt, so we would all be crying. lol. It didn't last long and I found other ways to fit it all in. There were many nights that I fell asleep with a baby on my chest/shoulder and one hand on him in his big boy bed where DH would come home and wake me with the worst crick in my neck due to having my head jacked back on a wooden bookcase/headboard. These 2 were the closest sibs I'd ever seen as the baby entered toddlerhood. She adored just watching him eat. They snuggled each other and often held hands everywhere we went. We got a lot of comments on how close they seemed. Of course, they are now 8 and 10, and a day without arguing would be heaven sent. I think the hardest thing of having them close together, aside from the challenge a newborn always brings, is that the second one often got lumped in with the first one as far as expectations went at a certain point. We still have to remind ourselves that she is still 2 years younger and should not be expected to do everything responsibility-wise that her brother can do. I had my 3rd 2 years ago when the older two were 6 and 8. They didn't mind him at all and made a very big fuss over him. Everything seemed fine until he started crawling and walking, talking, and playing. He has learned about arguing from simply watching them, so he already has a mind of his own and he asserts himself often. lol. I spent a lot of time worrying about how far in age he was from them. I envisioned that he would be frequently left out and such based on how close they were, which will still happen as he grows, BUT I did not realize until now how much this toddler phase was going to affect the older two, so it turned out I should have been worried about that a tad. They often resent him when they cannot play in the living room like they had always done, that everything has to be a certain way to protect him (small toys, etc.), and that we cannot just up and go do certain things, like sledding, with him, so I spend a lot of time explaining how it won't be much longer, that he is learning from us, etc. |
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On Dec 21, 4:47 pm, mommak wrote:
Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks My 2 are 25 months apart. My daughter was initially happy with her baby brother until he got to about 18 months when he decided it was fun to go up to her and hit her and she would scream. I don't know which action I disliked more. It wasn't all the time and they mostly got along though I can remember saying I wish I'd had them 10 years apart. But mostly now I think it was a good spacing because they didn't have drastically different capabilities as they would if they were many years apart so we didn't have to restrict family activities much. When they got to around 11 and 13 they stopped fighting. Sometimes they'd just pay no attention to each other but other times they would interact well. Now they're 19 and 17. My daughter is mostly away at college but the two of them do stay in touch (email and Facebook) and have a decent sibling relationship though I wouldn't say they're VERY close. -- Zip |
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On Dec 23, 2:41*pm, Zipadee wrote:
On Dec 21, 4:47 pm, mommak wrote: Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... *How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks My 2 are 25 months apart. My daughter was initially happy with her baby brother until he got to about 18 months when he decided it was fun to go up to her and hit her and she would scream. I don't know which action I disliked more. It wasn't all the time and they mostly got along though I can remember saying I wish I'd had them 10 years apart. *But mostly now I think it was a good spacing because they didn't have drastically different capabilities as they would if they were many years apart so we didn't have to restrict family activities much. When they got to around 11 and 13 they stopped fighting. Sometimes they'd just pay no attention to each other but other times they would interact well. Now they're 19 and 17. My daughter is mostly away at college but the two of them do stay in touch (email and Facebook) and have a decent sibling relationship though I wouldn't say they're VERY close. -- Zip Thanks for sharing your story. I only have one child, but would like another. My mom tells me stories about me and my 2 younger brothers. She said I loved to baby the second born child (the middle child) up until he got to the stage where he could crawl and walk with holding on to things... And when he started playing with '''MY''' toys. After he was at that stage... I was mean to him. Just like your kids... I thought it was fun to make him cry. When he would crawl, I'd grab his feet so he couldn't crawl. That is the main story I remember. With the youngest... I was old enough then... I wanted to take care of him. Wanted to help every way I could. I've always gotten along with the younest. But the one that is only 2 years younger than me... we always fought. But now we don't |
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On Dec 23, 12:16Â*pm, Chris wrote:
On Dec 21, 4:47�pm, mommak wrote: Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... �How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks My first two are 25 months apart. The biggest problem we had was due to me not realizing there were some routines we had established that would not always remain consistent after a new baby arrived. So when he woke up from naps and in the morning, we would snuggle on the couch for a bit, and before bed we always read stories, etc. He was fine with the new baby until say he would walk out of his room from a nap and find me feeding the baby and unable to snuggle him in my lap like we had always done. He would then go hide underneath the kitchen table and cry "Baby down!", and I would put baby down and try to coax him out, so then baby would be crying, then I would cry from guilt, so we would all be crying. lol. It didn't last long and I found other ways to fit it all in. There were many nights that I fell asleep with a baby on my chest/shoulder and one hand on him in his big boy bed where DH would come home and wake me with the worst crick in my neck due to having my head jacked back on a wooden bookcase/headboard. These 2 were the closest sibs I'd ever seen as the baby entered toddlerhood. She adored just watching him eat. They snuggled each other and often held hands everywhere we went. We got a lot of comments on how close they seemed. Of course, they are now 8 and 10, and a day without arguing would be heaven sent. I think the hardest thing of having them close together, aside from the challenge a newborn always brings, is that the second one often got lumped in with the first one as far as expectations went at a certain point. We still have to remind ourselves that she is still 2 years younger and should not be expected to do everything responsibility-wise that her brother can do. I had my 3rd 2 years ago when the older two were 6 and 8. They didn't mind him at all and made a very big fuss over him. Everything seemed fine until he started crawling and walking, talking, and playing. He has learned about arguing from simply watching them, so he already has a mind of his own and he asserts himself often. lol. I spent a lot of time worrying about how far in age he was from them. I envisioned that he would be frequently left out and such based on how close they were, which will still happen as he grows, BUT I did not realize until now how much this toddler phase was going to affect the older two, so it turned out I should have been worried about that a tad. They often resent him when they cannot play in the living room like they had always done, that everything has to be a certain way to protect him (small toys, etc.), and that we cannot just up and go do certain things, like sledding, with him, so I spend a lot of time explaining how it won't be much longer, that he is learning from us, etc. Thanks for sharing your story with me. That was some of the things I'm worried about. I have little routines with my child as well. We love to cuddle... she sleeps with us in our bed.... she pretty much loves a lot of skin on skin touch or to be near you. And I don't want to lose that time with her. I don't want to leave her out. But I breast feed her and sometimes it felt like she was always sucking on my ninnies. She wouldn't take a pacifer. I plan to breast feed the second one, and I know that, that will take a little time away from Ariel as well and maybe even make her jealous. What were the main ways you tried to cope with the breastfeeding taking time away fromthe first child.. Thanks mommak |
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Do you have at least 2 children??
"mommak" wrote in message ... Do you have a least two children. If so, I would like to hear some stories about having your second child. Such things as: how did the first one deal with having another baby around.... How far are they apart..... What were some of the questions the first child asked..... Any thing you want to tell. I'd like to have another child... and just want to know about some of the things that might come up. Thanks I have four children. The oldest was 25 months when the second one was born. The third one was 5 years younger than the second one, and the fourth one was 2 years and 8 months younger than the third one. They are NOW ages 46, 44, 39 and 36. The oldest was very 'motherly' especially toward the younger two. I don't remember that she asked anything in particular about her next youngest sister. During the middle grades (2,3,4,5,6) those two were almost the same size and people often asked if they were twins. I had a prohibition against physical fighting, but I find out now that they did fight (when they were in grade school) - they just did it when I wasn't around. I gather that they were fairly evenly matched. The second one was VERY much more competitive than her older sister, and would try to do anything that her sister did. Sometimes she succeeded - she was equal in ice skating and better in swimming. But in fine motor skills (like sewing) she was not able in 4th grade to equal her 6th grade sister, and consequently she now does not sew. It took her a long time to become as good a rider as her older sister because she was afraid, which her sister was not - even when a horse kicked or stepped on her or she fell off, she was not afraid to go back and do it again. The second one did resent the third one quite a lot (she tells me now), but they became friends, and dd#3 is more like dd#1 was in regard to horses, and she is now a professional horse trainer and judge. The youngest one was pretty laid back as a general rule, and allowed his sisters to boss him around to a certain extent. I did put my babies into playpens when they were little and did not allow them to get into their siblings things. Although dd#2 felt sorry for ds and took him out of the playpen. My children are all pretty close now, especially the older two and talk on the phone often. My son is not as close, partly because they don't like his wife, and partly because he's hard to contact as he is always losing his phone, and does not return calls or emails. I have a younger sister (2.5 years younger) and a problem I had was that my mom always told me that I was old enough to 'know better' than to hit my little sister, and my sister soon figured this out, and she would do her utmost to annoy me and when I finally lost my temper, she would run to Mother saying that I hit her. When my mom figured this out, she stopped saying that. I now have 10 grandchildren that are living. The oldest two (dd#1's older children) DID fight with each other a lot. I don't know that they are as close now as their mother and aunts are - they are now 27 and 25. They also have a 13 year old sibling who is the equivalant of a youngest only child. DD#2 has two children that are 5 years apart. DD#3 has 3 children, the youngest will be 2 this month. DS has two living children - one a freshman in HS and the other in 6th grade. Their oldest child died at age 2. |
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