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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
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flowerlady wrote: I am having a birthday party for my son in a week. I have sent out 12 invitations and have only heard from 3 (2 No's and 1 Yes). I put an RSVP by date on the invitation (9/19/2003). I have to let the place know how many children are attending 2 days before the party (for party activity supplies - there will be extra on hand but probably not enough for 9 unreserved children). I just went through this and called everyone who had not RSVP's by a couple of days before the party and said, "I just wanted to make sure little Johnny got the invitation to Ryan's party on Sunday, and to find out if you think he's going to be able to come." I have had it happen that invitations go astray, or folks think it is the next week or something, and they usually appreciate the call. Folks do forget to call. I've been the offender in the past as well. I think it's perfectly reasonable to call and ask. Miss Manners might disagree. --Robyn What should I do? I think it's rude not to let the host know if you are planning on attending or not. I also think it would be rude of me to ask the parents if they are planning having their child attend the party. Does RSVP mean "If you're not attending"? Last year I invited 10 children to my son's party and all but one RSVP'd. The one that didn't RSVP sent an apology letter for forgetting about the party. I have a hard time understanding that 9 parents would forget to RSVP to this year's party. Please advise - what would you do in this situation? |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
Oh for goodness sakes, get over it. Call the other parents.
At our house,with two working parents and three school aged kids, things are so nutso many weeks between everyone's social life, school, extracurricular sports and lessons, and medical appointments appointments, that it wouldn't be hard for an RSVP to slip through the cracks. Never mind the times we've talked about an invitation and DH suffers from the delusion I've responded and I think HE'S responded. Or the times when an invitation was handed out at school (or worse, made verbally) to a kid, who forgot to give us the invitation or tell us about it, or even forgotten about the whole thing entirely, or lost it. We've had weeks where between our three kids, there were four or five duelling birthday party invites, and if we don't respond in a timely fashion, it isn't because we're rude - sometimes it just means we just don't know about it, or we've forgotten, or there's been a mix up (we think its next week and its actually this week). Mary G. (who's been told by ditzy kids about parties at the very last minute, so as a self preservation strategy has a stockpile of age appropriate kid gifts in the closet along with cards and gift bags ready to go) |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
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Rosalie B. wrote: x-no-archive:yes (Mary Gordon) wrote: Mary G. (who's been told by ditzy kids about parties at the very last minute, so as a self preservation strategy has a stockpile of age appropriate kid gifts in the closet along with cards and gift bags ready to go) Basically if your children are allowed to get off by not telling you about an invitation, then they should also not get to go to the party. Because forgetting is rude and there should be some consequence for being rude IMHO. Why reward them for this kind of behavior by enabling it? Send the gift without the kid, so the birthday person doesn't lose because your kid forgot. I would agree with this. Once the kids are old enough to be handed the invitations (instead of them going to the parents directly) they are old enough to take some responsibility for it. In this house, when my kids were the age for that sort of invitation, the rule was that if it was not on the (HUGE A DIFFERENT COLOR OF INK FOR EVERYONE) calendar on the wall, I didn't know it existed -- even if they'd told me. (Otherwise, they would mutter something incoherant at me first in the morning and assume I knew -- I don't remember my NAME before I've been up for half an hour.) And whether or not they got to go to something they'd forgotten to put on the calendar depended entirely on my whim -- if it was relatively easy, I might go ahead and take them, but they could not count on it. We operate a bit differently now, in part because the kids are much older, but it worked pretty well to convince them they THEY are responsible for their own social schedule (and work schedule and school schedule, come to think of it.) I know what it's like to have a chaotic household; at one point, I was living with 4 teenagers, only one of whom could drive, and went to 3 different schools and had completely seperate social lives. I think I stopped taking responsibility for their schedules as a measure of self preservation! meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests haveRSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
Mary Gordon wrote: Oh for goodness sakes, get over it. Call the other parents. At our house,with two working parents and three school aged kids, things are so nutso many weeks between everyone's social life, school, extracurricular sports and lessons, and medical appointments appointments, that it wouldn't be hard for an RSVP to slip through the cracks. Never mind the times we've talked about an invitation and DH suffers from the delusion I've responded and I think HE'S responded. Or the times when an invitation was handed out at school (or worse, made verbally) to a kid, who forgot to give us the invitation or tell us about it, or even forgotten about the whole thing entirely, or lost it. We've had weeks where between our three kids, there were four or five duelling birthday party invites, and if we don't respond in a timely fashion, it isn't because we're rude - sometimes it just means we just don't know about it, or we've forgotten, or there's been a mix up (we think its next week and its actually this week). Well, maybe one family out of the 12 could have this attitude, but NINE! If everyone is going to start doing as you do, then sending out invitation will be a waste of time. I personally put RSVPs high on my priority list because I think its polite and because that's the way I would like to be treated. I think it would be very rude if my son invited 12 people to his party and then perahaps 10 of them turned up without having RSVP'ed. Yes, muddles happen and people forget but I don't think "get over it" is the right approach. Mary Ann Mary G. (who's been told by ditzy kids about parties at the very last minute, so as a self preservation strategy has a stockpile of age appropriate kid gifts in the closet along with cards and gift bags ready to go) |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
Mary Ann Tuli wrote in :
Mary Gordon wrote: Oh for goodness sakes, get over it. Call the other parents. At our house,with two working parents and three school aged kids, things are so nutso many weeks between everyone's social life, school, extracurricular sports and lessons, and medical appointments appointments, that it wouldn't be hard for an RSVP to slip through the cracks. Never mind the times we've talked about an invitation and DH [snip] Well, maybe one family out of the 12 could have this attitude, but NINE! If everyone is going to start doing as you do, then sending out invitation will be a waste of time. I personally put RSVPs high on my priority list because I think its polite and because that's the way I would like to be treated. I think it would be very rude if my son invited 12 people to his party and then perahaps 10 of them turned up without having RSVP'ed. [snip] Well, sometimes you can't answer the invitation straight away, because you are waiting to find out whether X or Y is happening. And you don't always want to let the other person know that they are second or third in line. If it is a big and obvious thing that is stopping me from giving a definate answer, then I'll tell them: when we were in the middle of buying and selling a house, I must have let loads of people know that I couldn't tell them until later. But if it is a littler thing (I'm waiting for the SIL to tell the MIL whether they need her to babysit, and hence whether we can visit them that weekend), I might wait to reply. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
Rosalie B. ) writes:
Or (probably rude, but unmistakable), "If I don't hear from you by 9/25, we will assume your ds is not coming and will not have a place for him." .... only if you're sure you don't have the kind of friend who will arrive at the last minute saying "Oh, that's OK if there's no balloon and stuff for him, he can just watch the other kids, he'll have fun anyway" -- Cathy |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
Is Canadian French is different than French French then?
There are differences. I've been told (if I remember right) that here in Canada there is a verb parasser (to laze around); in France the adjective exists but the verb does not. And that in Canada the verb peinturer is used for painting walls, as opposed to peindre for painting paintings; in France I think peindre is used for both (I'm not sure I have that quite right). There are also slang versions and more formal versions of French within Canada, as well as various admixtures of "franglais" (French with various amounts of English words added). Using English words in French is usually considered incorrect, while using French words in English tends to sound elegant. -- Cathy |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
Robyn Kozierok ) writes:
I think it's perfectly reasonable to call and ask. Miss Manners might disagree. I think Miss Manners would be proud of one of the earlier posters who would call and be so sorry that the invitation must have gotten lost. -- Cathy |
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Advice needed - birthday party and 25% of invited guests have RSVP'd - what should I do about the rest
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