Runnin from Custodial Parent

I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non-
custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced
shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage,
properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my
interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis
pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A
divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in
alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a
month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens
she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit-
claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the
meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to
Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name
and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held
accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his
child support?!? How can he get away with a change of circumstance and
not pay his support?

"Very Determined!" wrote
I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non-
custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced
shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage,
properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my
interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis
pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A
divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in
alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a
month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens
she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit-
claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the
meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to
Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name
and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held
accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his
child support?!?
==
There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are
irrelevent.
==
How can he get away with a change of circumstance and
not pay his support?
==
Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you lowered?
Does he have a
current support order to you?

On Sep 17, 1:30 pm, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote



I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non-
custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced
shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage,
properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my
interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis
pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A
divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in
alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a
month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens
she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit-
claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the
meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to
Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name
and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held
accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his
child support?!?

==
There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are
irrelevent.
==
How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his support?

==
Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you lowered?
Does he have a
current support order to you?- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

yes, he has a support order to me...in the meantime he is buying and
selling property under her name and benefitting the rewards.

"Very Determined!" wrote in message
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On Sep 17, 1:30 pm, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote



I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non-
custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced
shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage,
properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my
interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis
pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A
divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in
alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a
month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens
she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit-
claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the
meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to
Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name
and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held
accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his
child support?!?

==
There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are
irrelevent.
==
How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his
support?

==
Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you
lowered?
Does he have a
current support order to you?- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

yes, he has a support order to me...in the meantime he is buying and
selling property under her name and benefitting the rewards.
==
Well, what would you do if someone was threatening to take your house?
I don't know who advised you to put a lien on his house but it wasn't a
smart move. Is he paying any support now?

On Sep 18, 11:25 am, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote in message

ups.com...



On Sep 17, 1:30 pm, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote

I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non-
custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced
shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage,
properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my
interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis
pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A
divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in
alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a
month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens
she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit-
claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the
meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to
Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name
and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held
accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his
child support?!?

==
There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are
irrelevent.
==
How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his
support?

==
Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you
lowered?
Does he have a
current support order to you?- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

yes, he has a support order to me...in the meantime he is buying and
selling property under her name and benefitting the rewards.

==
Well, what would you do if someone was threatening to take your house?
I don't know who advised you to put a lien on his house but it wasn't a
smart move. Is he paying any support now?- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

I conferred with an attorney in my state as well as in his, and DA's
office legally cannot do it...I guess lawyers do not always have the
right answers! And no, still no support, because supposedly he is not
working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his
child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! So the
arrearages keep adding up.

"Very Determined!" wrote
"Gini" wrote:
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==
Well, what would you do if someone was threatening to take your house?
I don't know who advised you to put a lien on his house but it wasn't a
smart move. Is he paying any support now?- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

I conferred with an attorney in my state as well as in his, and DA's
office legally cannot do it...I guess lawyers do not always have the
right answers! And no, still no support, because supposedly he is not
working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his
child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! So the
arrearages keep adding up.
==
Have you tried reasoning with him rather than chastizing him?
Have you given him the option of providing direct support such
as clothing, food, whatever the child needs? My ex didn't pay CS but he paid
for my fuel oil, bought the boys bikes, school clothes and whatever else
they needed--
sort of the way parents do before a split.

"Very Determined!" wrote in

working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his
child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not!

My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from
anyone, so what's your problem?

On Sep 17, 3:54 pm, Very Determined! wrote:
but in the
meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to
Virgina, together!

Just have the NCP assert their Constitutional rights against
Virginia's DCSE, DCSE will then proceed to attempt to step on the
NCP's throat.

Very Determined wrote:

FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing.

But then she later wrote:

It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and finding him in prison for domestic violence...

So contrary to what you wanted us to believe at the beginning, you
only "left him alone" for ten years because you couldn't find him!
Turns out you've spent ten years(!) trying to trackdown a guy you
believe is a scumbag. What a pitiful waste of ten years.

VD wrote:

My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated ...And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair
my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him.

With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage.

How many kids did you say you had with your husband? You had one out-
of-wedlock from a previous relationship, your husband has two from a
previous relationship(s), and you have at least two together. Ya'll
should be fixed. People - man, woman, CP, or NCP - who think they can
just keep producing kids without considering all the financial and
emotional ramifications of the twisted dynamics they're creating get
no sympathy from me. You faulted your bio/ncp for going off and making
more children, but you've done the same. Guess what's ok for the goose
isn't ok for the gander in your opinion.


He [biofather/NCP at issue] and I chose to create this child,

Really? The two of you as an unmarried couple having a dysfunctional
relationship (I say dysfunctional because you claim it was an abusive
relationship) sat down and discussed having a baby and made a concrete
desicion together to have and raise a child together? Or did you just
let yourself get knocked up by this guy you claim was an abusive
loser?

and I chose to nurture and bear him.

uhhuh.

he was told once again where his child lives,( in the same place for 14 years)

...FYI, I wanted to clarify when that lien was placed in Nov of 06, last year, he was running 13 1/2 years before that,

I am not whimpering over a man "I" left 12 1/2 years ago for abuse. I am happily married and have been for 12 years...

It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and finding him

Your alleged timeline makes no sense.
You married your current husband a mere six months after leaving the
NCP. That was either a whirlwind courtship, or you were involved with
him already while still with the NCP. (Can you say a-f-f-a-i-r?)
You say the NCP has been running for 14 1/2 years, but you only left
him 12 1/2 yrs ago. So what was he running from for the 2 yrs you were
still with him?

I think you were involved with a loser and knew it and when you got
knocked up you went Daddy shopping and got hitched to a guy you
thought would be a better provider and daddy, and now your sore that
you can't have your cake and eat it too.
You want daddy#2 to be the emotional daddy, but you want daddy#1 to be
paycheck daddy and it just ain't working for ya'.

OH - as far as hubby adopting son. Scary for him! Once he does that,
HE will be responsible for CS to you for that kid when you leave him.
Good for you because you can replace daddy#1 who's not paying with
daddy#2 who might pay, but oh so bad for current hubby.

wrote in message
ps.com...
Very Determined wrote:

FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone,
figured he would do the right thing.

But then she later wrote:

It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and
finding him in prison for domestic violence...

So contrary to what you wanted us to believe at the beginning, you
only "left him alone" for ten years because you couldn't find him!
Turns out you've spent ten years(!) trying to trackdown a guy you
believe is a scumbag. What a pitiful waste of ten years.

VD wrote:

"VD"? That's rich!


My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full
time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated
....And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair
my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to
make sure he has what TWO parents should give him.

With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run
the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE
takes care of all his children including two others from a previous
marriage.

How many kids did you say you had with your husband? You had one out-
of-wedlock from a previous relationship, your husband has two from a
previous relationship(s), and you have at least two together. Ya'll
should be fixed. People - man, woman, CP, or NCP - who think they can
just keep producing kids without considering all the financial and
emotional ramifications of the twisted dynamics they're creating get
no sympathy from me. You faulted your bio/ncp for going off and making
more children, but you've done the same. Guess what's ok for the goose
isn't ok for the gander in your opinion.

But it's a DIFFERENT sauce. Didn't you know that?



He [biofather/NCP at issue] and I chose to create this child,

Really? The two of you as an unmarried couple having a dysfunctional
relationship (I say dysfunctional because you claim it was an abusive
relationship) sat down and discussed having a baby and made a concrete
desicion together to have and raise a child together? Or did you just
let yourself get knocked up by this guy you claim was an abusive
loser?

and I chose to nurture and bear him.

uhhuh.

he was told once again where his child lives,( in the same place for 14
years)

...FYI, I wanted to clarify when that lien was placed in Nov of 06, last
year, he was running 13 1/2 years before that,

I am not whimpering over a man "I" left 12 1/2 years ago for abuse. I am
happily married and have been for 12 years...

It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and
finding him

Your alleged timeline makes no sense.
You married your current husband a mere six months after leaving the
NCP. That was either a whirlwind courtship, or you were involved with
him already while still with the NCP. (Can you say a-f-f-a-i-r?)
You say the NCP has been running for 14 1/2 years, but you only left
him 12 1/2 yrs ago. So what was he running from for the 2 yrs you were
still with him?

I think you were involved with a loser and knew it and when you got
knocked up you went Daddy shopping and got hitched to a guy you
thought would be a better provider and daddy, and now your sore that
you can't have your cake and eat it too.
You want daddy#2 to be the emotional daddy, but you want daddy#1 to be
paycheck daddy and it just ain't working for ya'.

OH - as far as hubby adopting son. Scary for him! Once he does that,
HE will be responsible for CS to you for that kid when you leave him.
Good for you because you can replace daddy#1 who's not paying with
daddy#2 who might pay, but oh so bad for current hubby.

Yeah, but look at the bright side. At least she stands a better chance of
rollin' in the dough with "daddy" #2. And if THAT well dries up, she can
abandon it and hook up with, you got it, ................... daddy number
THREE!