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Runnin from Custodial Parent
Gini wrote:
"Sarah Gray" wrote Gini wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote ............................ ===== I dunno--I was a facilitator of my ex's relationship with the kids. When he moved 4 hours away to go to graduate school, I delivered the boys to him as much as possible. I had a reliable car while he was driving a beater pickup that I didn't really care to have the boys travel in. When we arrived at his house, he and his then current lady had lunch/snacks for me. I would have done this if we were still married and he were hours away in grad school. *Divorce should not divvy up children.* Ever. How often did you make that trip? To go along with the original court order we had for parenting time, I would have to be making either two or four 16 hour round trip drives a week...and her father isn't in TN for graduate school, or any real need other than not being capable of supporting himself. === In my case, the kids needs outranked whatever issues arose between my ex and I so travel/money simply wasn't a factor other than the logistics. I had very carefully chosen the man I wanted to father my kids and when they were concieved (well, one was adopted), I guaranteed them a dad. There wasn't any, "I'm not picking up slack for you," etc.. Yeah, they couldn't see him every day or every weekend. We just did it as much as possible--more times than I could count, however. When my ex later moved in with his mother to take care of her, the distance was about 50 miles and we met halfway with the kids. I didn't view the relationship between my kids and their dad as a part of my relationship with him. The dynamics were dad/kids and mom/kids--not mom/dad--well, except the time our younger son had to go to John's Hopkins for an evaluation of a heart condition. My ex and I both took him. I drove. He paid for the gas. Childhood is temporary and fast. I had no problem sticking it out for the boys. I owed them that. If it were a 16-hour round trip, you would have done the same? If he lived closer, I would not have a problem working somekind of arrangement out, but she is in school, and I have a job. In my situation, it is simply not feasible. -- Sarah Gray |
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