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"Denise Anderson" wrote in message ... "Christine" wrote in message ... I'd say it was sad that you are dividing the family into "his" and "ours". You sound like a very reluctant stepmother YOU HAVE NO IDEA OW GOOD I AM TO THE KIDS! I just meant that I would rather have m 12 week old baby at home, she HAS traveled and quit WELL! but I think THIS vacation is for OLDER children...... MY DH EVEN SAYS the kids enjoy MY company beter than there OWN mothers! I didnt think it was rude to STAY HOME! you sound mental! You asked for opinions. There's no reason to get all ****y because they're not what you wanted to hear. Denise I would have to agree with Denise. You did ask for opinions and maybe you should of put that into your blurb. Kay |
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Denise Anderson wrote:
The water park might not be fun, but personally, I'd enjoy the quiet time in a hotel room by myself. Hotels are great! I tag along whenever DH goes to a conference because I love just sitting there, ordering room service and movies, and going for a swim! :-) The only thing I hate is when they start banging on the door because they want to come in and clean. ;-) I always make a point of going for a walk at least once per day so that I can do the usual tourist things, but sometimes that isn't quite early enough for the cleaning staff's tastes. We've got another one coming up in November. It will be our first with the baby. Woohoo! It will be so weird! I'm not sure what I'll be able to bring for the baby to sleep in. Yes, that's my worry, believe it or not. I think everything else will be pretty easy to deal with (unless there is illness or something). |
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Whew you guys are so easy to rowl up....LOL....
thank you all for the advice..for the most part it was all very good advice...;-)) I guess like someone mentioned, I only give a portion of the details as we all do, But we ( ALL of us ) are a very family, and we ALL have a lot of love for each other.... My SD's do love me and me them... DH...is a =91=91going away=92=92 type of guy...and we have gone MANY places through the summer,even though Chloe is just a few months..ie. resorts, camp, amusement parks ( many amusement parks..;-))....spent MANY days at parks...etc...we are VERY busy...! but the reason I didnt want to join in is because DH usually DOES like to do something with just one girl at a time....OR both girls.... and it is a big park with big water slides.... the reason I cant take the stroller is because it is an indoor park and the WHOLE park is very WET!.....and call me whatever, but I dont want chloe getting soaked....when she can sit up, then maybe she could sit in water..lol....PLUS, she would poop and pee in the water....lol... its only a 3 day trip, and I think DH should understand that we just would have a better time HERE...it will give US time to spend alone too.(.Chloe and I ...;-)) the hotel, does not have anything else in it for us to do.....and no, theres nothing outside of the hotel...besides DH is too paranoid for us to walk the streets in a strange place alone...)...in canada there are TONS of things to look at, that I could stroll her around,,,BUT its been raining like crazy......and i just think...ESPECIALLY the day before her baptisim, it would be best to sit out this one... All the other places we've gone this summer I KNEW there was a nice place to walk her in her stroller, but I dont want to do it for 3 days..lol...and the resort was FUN for all of us, it was indoors and there was entertainment, etc. I dont want to sound like just because I cant ride then I dont want to go,,,I would just rather her be here with me,,in her home..;-) Oh if you guys only knew how much we all did together..LOL.....but I know you have no way of knowing...lol.....and I wouldnt trade my family for ANYTHING...;-))... I think DH WANTS to take the girls....and I WANT to stay home, but were afraid of one being ****ed... I dont feel too guilty because he took the girls to a big amusement park last month....and he said he did not want Chloe to come because he didnt want the kids to have any distractions,,,LOL.....I didnt know we were a distraction...LOL.....But I didnt care....I like to be home with Chloe. BUT i did want to stroll her in the park, but they didnt want me to go...;( Now next year...bring on the beach...;-)) were even talking Hawaii, where we honeymooned..;-))....I think she will be able to walk a little and at least sit up....;-) I do thank you all for your honest advice...;-) Chrissy & Chloe.... |
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"Vicky Bilaniuk" wrote in message . .. We've got another one coming up in November. It will be our first with the baby. Woohoo! It will be so weird! I'm not sure what I'll be able to bring for the baby to sleep in. Yes, that's my worry, believe it or not. I think everything else will be pretty easy to deal with (unless there is illness or something). Most hotels can provide cots. And you can call ahead to make sure their safe ones. We've stayed at some hotels that had some pretty nasty cots.. Or you get a cheap pack and play from a consignment store to bring with you. Denise |
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Jamie Clark wrote:
Sorry Christine, but I agree with what Gloria wrote. At least from what we "see" here on the ng, you seem to post several times about issues between you and dh, and his kids and you and Chloe. It feels very separatist and divisive, although you may not mean it that way. I think family time is really important, and when you married dh, your family became You, Him, his two girls, and now Chloe. I think spending family time together on a vacation is a good thing to do, even if it's not the vacation of your dreams. I don't think planning a vacation with your kids, wife, and 12 week old is rude. I think it's nice. Perhaps the timing is off, but that's another issue. Maybe part of the problem, here, is that he seems to have planned it totally one-sided, i.e. without her input. Maybe she's feeling left out and is resenting that. If so, then perhaps she can suggest something to do, and then go and do it. Since you asked, I say go. Change your attitude about it, but go. Have a wonderful time, bonding with dh, bonding more with his girls, which you already have a good relationship with, letting them bond with Chloe, and letting dh bond with Chloe. Chloe will be fine at the beach -- bring sunscreen and extra clothes. She'll be fine at the water park -- often times they actually have rental stroller. Perhaps bring a Baby Bjorn for you to wear her around. Maybe dh can watch her a bit while you go play with the older girls in the water. Plus, they usually have kiddie pools too, so you can take Chloe in that and let her splash her feet about. Sounds like a great trip to me! Since you asked. Me too. I'm envious. Personally, I would most definitely go. As it is, I've got a hermit of a DH, so the only vacations I ever get with him are his conferences, which aren't really family vacations because I end up spending most of the time doing things by myself (and I don't mind doing things by myself, but I like it when he can join in, too. Thankfully he now cancels out of going to dinner with them in favour of having dinner with me, which really adds to the vacation in a very positive way for me). |
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Denise Anderson wrote:
"Vicky Bilaniuk" wrote in message . .. We've got another one coming up in November. It will be our first with the baby. Woohoo! It will be so weird! I'm not sure what I'll be able to bring for the baby to sleep in. Yes, that's my worry, believe it or not. I think everything else will be pretty easy to deal with (unless there is illness or something). Most hotels can provide cots. And you can call ahead to make sure their safe ones. We've stayed at some hotels that had some pretty nasty cots.. Or you get a cheap pack and play from a consignment store to bring with you. Denise I was thinking of getting a pack and play. But now I'm wondering... We'll likely be staying at a Westin hotel. Anyone know what they are like? This particular one is not at the top of my list of favourite hotels. It's not bad, but the other hotels we've stayed at (Sheraton and Lord Elgin) are a lot better. Maybe I'll luck out and we'll get the Sheraton again, which is my favourite (it's my favourite because the staff is really top notch - they have a considerably older building with older furnishings, so I guess they have to make up for it somehow). DH's conferences are *always* in the same city (Ottawa) so I've gotten to know the hotels reasonably well. ;-) He used to go to other conferences that are farther away, but as he puts it, he outgrew that long ago. :-( |
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Christine wrote:
Is it selfish of me to expect him to wait till next year, for a vacation? Yes. Personally I'd go on the vacation. I think the health risks are all very manageable and not a concern. This type of vacation sounds fun to me though and my dh would stay in and nap with the baby for a couple hours each day while I went and played with the big kids. so, is it rude of ME to stay here with Chloe? No. If you are going to be miserable then this year, with a 12 week old baby, I think you get a free pass to skip the family vacation :-) It is only 3 days. My dh has gone on *many* 3 day mini-vacations while me and the kids stayed home. That works out fine for us all. I wouldn't make it a habit to separate his kids all the time but certainly with the age differences it will make sense for him to occasionally do things with the bigger girls that Chloe isn't going to be able to enjoy or participate in. That is to be expected when you have children with such wide age gaps. and is it rude of HIM to still go knowing Chloe is too small yet? No! - not at all! His girls are bigger and he should be able to enjoy some age appropriate fun activities with them! It might help his daughters adjust to the new baby and not worry so much that their dad's new family will displace them. My dh goes on several mini vacations without us each year. His are even less noble because he is just going to have his own fun - not spend time with his kids, lol. Look at it like a gift. I enjoy the solitude and having the kids just to myself every once in a while. We eat food dh hates, go do things he hates, I watch chick flicks. We have a good time ;-) I think the final decision is that I am going to stay home with Chloe...but i was just wondering what you all thought? I think that is fine as long as you don't lay a guilt trip on him about it. -- Nikki |
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Vicky Bilaniuk wrote:
We've got another one coming up in November. It will be our first with the baby. Woohoo! It will be so weird! I'm not sure what I'll be able to bring for the baby to sleep in. Yes, that's my worry, believe it or not. I think everything else will be pretty easy to deal with (unless there is illness or something). What's wrong with asking the hotel for a crib? I've never encountered one that didn't provide them on request. Best wishes, Ericka |
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On Fri, 13 Aug 2004 00:39:01 -0400, Christine wrote:
Whew you guys are so easy to rowl up....LOL.... Should we take that as a compliment? -- -- I mommy to DS (July '02) mommy to three tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04 & 20 May'04) guardian of DH (33) |
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