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You people are NUTS!! I am a custodial father of three children (18,16 and
12) now the 18 year old is graduated with honors from HS and is heading into the Air Force. But my thing is that my ex wife pays (only because it is garnished from her check) 195 a month (for 3 children) - she just turned 18 a few weeks ago. We went in for a review and they came back and told her it was going to 249 a month for 2 children plus 18% of all uncovered medical bills. Hell I would have let it go at the $195 a month it had been the entire time (and the original amount was supposed to be $320 when it was first set I agreed to have it lowered to the 195) My ex-wife then got mad and said she should NOT have to pay a dime! and refused to talk about it and asked to go in front of the judge. This woman has been a pain in my a$$ from the word go. She never sees the children, refuses to call or communicate with them and refused to sign off!! (I told her that if she wanted nothing to do with the children then she could simply sign off) Now the judge we are going in front of..hmmm.. is a PRICK to say the least. he does NOT like dead beat parents at all! he is likely to use IMPUTED income which would put the child support around $318 a month (according to the imputed schedule that was put together by the FOC) Now that I have to take a day off of work and lose about $300 in pay on top of having to see this woman I am going to request they use the imputed income. She tried to tell me she should not have to pay any support because she VOLUNTARILY does not exercise her visitation rights!! (I have in the past tried to bring the children to her for visitation she refused! She changed her phone number and told me and the children BOTH not to call her!) That was about 7 months ago. Other than court I have not seen or heard from her. My belief is that its about responsibility, you bring kids in the world (father or mother) you should HELP support those children! I believe she is just ****ed because I have nice things (Because I work long hours) and my yearly income is about 6 to 7 times higher than hers. All I can say is I work HARD for my money and that does NOT excuse her from her obligation. If that was true then I could simply stop paying taxes cause hell the federal government has plenty of money, more than I do..lol "Chris" wrote in message ... wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 28, 12:33 am, wrote: Very Determined wrote: FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. But then she later wrote: It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and finding him in prison for domestic violence... So contrary to what you wanted us to believe at the beginning, you only "left him alone" for ten years because you couldn't find him! Turns out you've spent ten years(!) trying to trackdown a guy you believe is a scumbag. What a pitiful waste of ten years. VD wrote: My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated ...And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. How many kids did you say you had with your husband? You had one out- of-wedlock from a previous relationship, your husband has two from a previous relationship(s), and you have at least two together. Ya'll should be fixed. People - man, woman, CP, or NCP - who think they can just keep producing kids without considering all the financial and emotional ramifications of the twisted dynamics they're creating get no sympathy from me. You faulted your bio/ncp for going off and making more children, but you've done the same. Guess what's ok for the goose isn't ok for the gander in your opinion. He [biofather/NCP at issue] and I chose to create this child, Really? The two of you as an unmarried couple having a dysfunctional relationship (I say dysfunctional because you claim it was an abusive relationship) sat down and discussed having a baby and made a concrete desicion together to have and raise a child together? Or did you just let yourself get knocked up by this guy you claim was an abusive loser? and I chose to nurture and bear him. uhhuh. he was told once again where his child lives,( in the same place for 14 years) ...FYI, I wanted to clarify when that lien was placed in Nov of 06, last year, he was running 13 1/2 years before that, I am not whimpering over a man "I" left 12 1/2 years ago for abuse. I am happily married and have been for 12 years... It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and finding him Your alleged timeline makes no sense. You married your current husband a mere six months after leaving the NCP. That was either a whirlwind courtship, or you were involved with him already while still with the NCP. (Can you say a-f-f-a-i-r?) You say the NCP has been running for 14 1/2 years, but you only left him 12 1/2 yrs ago. So what was he running from for the 2 yrs you were still with him? I think you were involved with a loser and knew it and when you got knocked up you went Daddy shopping and got hitched to a guy you thought would be a better provider and daddy, and now your sore that you can't have your cake and eat it too. You want daddy#2 to be the emotional daddy, but you want daddy#1 to be paycheck daddy and it just ain't working for ya'. OH - as far as hubby adopting son. Scary for him! Once he does that, HE will be responsible for CS to you for that kid when you leave him. Good for you because you can replace daddy#1 who's not paying with daddy#2 who might pay, but oh so bad for current hubby. It's not an affair, they weren't married. It doesn't matter how long she spent looking. He should not of been hiding from her, his son, or hes responsibilities. Perhaps an introductory book on logic would be in order for you; thus it would reveal the folly of your ways. |
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"Rob" wrote in We went in for a review and they came back and told her it was going to 249 a month for 2 children plus 18% of all uncovered medical bills. What state sets such a low amount? I know fathers that make $10 and hour and pay $400 per month. that was true then I could simply stop paying taxes cause hell the federal government has plenty of money, more than I do..lol What money does the federal government have, they are $9 trillion in debt! They're broke! :-) 1/5 th of your tax dollar pays just the interest ! Isn't it wonderful you have such a good bunch of people looking out for your best interest? |
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"Gini" wrote in My belief is that its about responsibility, you bring kids in the world (father or mother) you should HELP support those children! I believe she is just ****ed because I have nice things (Because I work long hours) and my yearly income is about 6 to 7 times higher than hers. All I can say is I work HARD for my money and that does NOT excuse her from her obligation. ====== Huh? Responsibility? You married and procreated with a loser and you now want to chase after her for a few dollars a month all at the expense of taxpayers, even though you don't need the money...just because she's "obligated?" I agree with your sentiment Gini, but as long as this draconian system exists, woman should be prosecuted to the max too! Only then will people take notice!!!!!!!! Why is she not in jail if she hasn't paid anything? |
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"Gini" wrote in I don't think the solution is to treat mothers like fathers. The solution is to get the courts out of family business and for parents to take care of their children. Period. That's about the most logical thing I've read on here to date! Listen to this guy, he's got the same ideas about getting the government out of a lot of things. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5ZXM3h4jig I think people are sick and tired of standard politics and many will vote for him out of spite! The media are trying their damdest to down play him, might be an idea for father's movements to put their vote in for this guy and wake the rest of the dead heads in office up. This is a typical CP v NCP scenario. Because this CP happens to be dad doesn't excuse his parasitic/entitlement attitude. I agree, he's making good money and taking care of the kids, why waste another minute fighting over chump change! |
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"Gini" wrote in The solution is to get the courts out of family business and for parents to take care of their children. here's another same kind of mentality on getting the government to quit trying to solve people's personal problems http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88REf0tjZHo |
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On Sep 20, 12:08 pm, Very Determined! wrote:
On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their job, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. this world is a BAD place to have kids. Also, most of the time, the fathers get ****ed over by a feminist system that takes away the rights of the father. I was fortunate that when my parents got divorced, because mom left, she lost almost all rights over her kids and she was made to pay CS because she was the one who abandoned her family, had the affair, etc. I think that any mother, or father that abandons their spouse and kids, and seeks a divorce, has affairs, gets "remarried" etc, should have to pay CS. not just a father, but the same goes for a mother also. in your situation, I don't know. what caused the divorce? if he left the family, if he was the reason you don't have a nuclear family anymore, then yeah, he should be made to pay CS. |
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"my family is wrecked" wrote in message ups.com... On Sep 20, 12:08 pm, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their job, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. this world is a BAD place to have kids. Also, most of the time, the fathers get ****ed over by a feminist system that takes away the rights of the father. I was fortunate that when my parents got divorced, because mom left, she lost almost all rights over her kids and she was made to pay CS because she was the one who abandoned her family, had the affair, etc. I think that any mother, or father that abandons their spouse and kids, and seeks a divorce, has affairs, gets "remarried" etc, should have to pay CS. not just a father, but the same goes for a mother also. in your situation, I don't know. what caused the divorce? if he left the family, if he was the reason you don't have a nuclear family anymore, then yeah, he should be made to pay CS. What if the mother has an affair amd leaves the father, taking the children with her--should the father have to pay CS? |
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"teachrmama" wrote in I think that any mother, or father that abandons their spouse and kids, and seeks a divorce, has affairs, gets "remarried" etc, should have to pay CS. not just a father, but the same goes for a mother also. in your situation, I don't know. what caused the divorce? if he left the family, if he was the reason you don't have a nuclear family anymore, then yeah, he should be made to pay CS. What if the mother has an affair amd leaves the father, taking the children with her--should the father have to pay CS? According to the system guidelines, yes the father should have to pay a good portion of his income to a cheating whore that cares little about anybody else but herself. All in the best interest of the child! |
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teachrmama wrote:
"my family is wrecked" wrote in message ups.com... On Sep 20, 12:08 pm, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their job, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. this world is a BAD place to have kids. Also, most of the time, the fathers get ****ed over by a feminist system that takes away the rights of the father. I was fortunate that when my parents got divorced, because mom left, she lost almost all rights over her kids and she was made to pay CS because she was the one who abandoned her family, had the affair, etc. I think that any mother, or father that abandons their spouse and kids, and seeks a divorce, has affairs, gets "remarried" etc, should have to pay CS. not just a father, but the same goes for a mother also. in your situation, I don't know. what caused the divorce? if he left the family, if he was the reason you don't have a nuclear family anymore, then yeah, he should be made to pay CS. What if the mother has an affair amd leaves the father, taking the children with her--should the father have to pay CS? What if the party who had an affair was not the one who filed for divorce, or left town? What does it matter? I don't see how it is unreasonable to say that the parent who has full or majority of the custody should be the one receiving support to raise the children; it might be a ****ty situation, but parents have an obligation to support their children, no matter how ill-suited for marriage either one of their parents might be. -- Sarah Gray |
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"Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "my family is wrecked" wrote in message ups.com... On Sep 20, 12:08 pm, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their job, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. this world is a BAD place to have kids. Also, most of the time, the fathers get ****ed over by a feminist system that takes away the rights of the father. I was fortunate that when my parents got divorced, because mom left, she lost almost all rights over her kids and she was made to pay CS because she was the one who abandoned her family, had the affair, etc. I think that any mother, or father that abandons their spouse and kids, and seeks a divorce, has affairs, gets "remarried" etc, should have to pay CS. not just a father, but the same goes for a mother also. in your situation, I don't know. what caused the divorce? if he left the family, if he was the reason you don't have a nuclear family anymore, then yeah, he should be made to pay CS. What if the mother has an affair amd leaves the father, taking the children with her--should the father have to pay CS? What if the party who had an affair was not the one who filed for divorce, or left town? What does it matter? I don't see how it is unreasonable to say that the parent who has full or majority of the custody should be the one receiving support to raise the children; it might be a ****ty situation, but parents have an obligation to support their children, no matter how ill-suited for marriage either one of their parents might be. #1, the parent who had the affair should not be permitted to take the kids and leave town. 50/50 joint custody with BOTH parents being PARENTS and not wallet toting visitors should be the way it is. #2, if child support becomes a necessity because the parents do live too far apart, it should be ONLY enough for 1/2 of BASIC NEEDS--not a penny more. If the custodial parent wants more of the ncp's income for the children, the custodial parent should give the children more time with the ncp. -- Sarah Gray |
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