If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#11
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Sophie says:
Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. I've never had anyone say anything rude to me. That having been said, I'm the sort who prefers to find a place that offers at least a little privacy. I'd rather visit the Nordstrom mom's room than nurse on a mall bench, for instance. The bigger problem I've had when nursing in public is that I've had a few gawkers, male and female. One time in Ikea this guy just couldn't get his eye full enough. -- Alpha mom to Eamon and Quinn |
#12
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. Sophie #4 due July 7, 2004 Nope, but I'm dying to just so I could tear them a new a**hole! I've been very lucky with nursing in public, which I do all the time and am quite comfortable. The other day I had Lily in the Baby Trekker carrier and I whipped out my boob and latched her on while I finished my food shopping. Nobody even noticed, other than my mother, who was totally embarrassed. - Jen |
#13
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"Sophie" wrote in message ... Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. Sophie #4 due July 7, 2004 Last weekend I was nursing on a bench on the boardwalk (with the double stroller in front of me, which pretty much blocks the view). An older woman sat on the bench next to me, asked if I was nursing, and expressed amazement that people do that publicly nowadays. She hadn't nursed her children, but was generally curious, and it was a nice conversation. That was the first time (20 months of nursing the first child, one month of the second) a stranger's ever said anything to me, either way. The other day a bookstore I was nursing during storytime. I think, but am not sure, that one parent made a negative comment to another about me nursing. Oh well.... Nancy |
#14
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Cheryl S. wrote:
"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Fortunately, no, no one's ever been rude to me. I think a few people have been vaguely embarrassed (not because they saw anything--just embarrassed that anyone would do such a crazy thing in principle), but most of the time there's been no response or a positive response. I've had people tell me they've encountered rude people, so either I'm lucky or maybe I'm just intimidating--I dunno ;-) You and I probably give off the same "I dare you to say something" vibe. ;-) Ditto. I've always figured it was the same vibe I give off while pregnant that says "Touch my belly and you're dead" g. I know I have gotten the occasional offended look, but only because my husband tells me so. If he didn't notice, I know I never would! -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 4), and the Rising Son (Julian, 6) Aurora (in the bathroom with her dad)--"It looks like an elephant, Daddy." Me (later)--"You should feel flattered." All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
#15
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Sophie writes:
: Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude : to you? Just curious. No, we live in California! :-) Larry, not me; Monika! |
#16
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Cheryl S. wrote:
Wait, two weeks ago at Julie's preschool, another mom saw me sit down to nurse Jaden and said, "I miss nursing." I'm pretty sure that's the first comment anyone's made to me while NIP. I have actually had a fair number of conversations about this over the years while NIP, particularly as my babies got into the toddler years. You'd never believe the number of women I've encountered who guiltily confessed to me as I nursed my 1+yo that they had nursed until their children were 2, 3, or (shocking!) even more than 3yo. I always enjoy these conversations during which I unblinkingly own to having nursed my oldest for 3y2m and to knowing quite a number of moms who nursed until their kids were closer to 5yo. -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 4), and the Rising Son (Julian, 6) Aurora (in the bathroom with her dad)--"It looks like an elephant, Daddy." Me (later)--"You should feel flattered." All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
#17
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Circe wrote:
Cheryl S. wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Fortunately, no, no one's ever been rude to me. I think a few people have been vaguely embarrassed (not because they saw anything--just embarrassed that anyone would do such a crazy thing in principle), but most of the time there's been no response or a positive response. I've had people tell me they've encountered rude people, so either I'm lucky or maybe I'm just intimidating--I dunno ;-) You and I probably give off the same "I dare you to say something" vibe. ;-) Ditto. I've always figured it was the same vibe I give off while pregnant that says "Touch my belly and you're dead" g. I know I have gotten the occasional offended look, but only because my husband tells me so. If he didn't notice, I know I never would! Yeah, I must have the no-belly-touching thing going too. No stranger has *ever* touched my belly, and hardly any relatives have either--even the ones who would have been welcome to do so ;-) Best wishes, Ericka |
#18
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"Sophie" wrote in message ...
Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. No. I've been very lucky in that regard. The only slightly wierd thing that happened was at Costco, when I sat on a bench and nursed Kivi in the alcove next to the pharmacy. It was relatively secluded, since I could only be seen from one side, and it wasn't a high-traffic area at that moment. The clerk REALLY wanted me to move to the patient counseling room, that had a chair and a door. I finally looked at her, and said mildly, "Look, am I showing or something?" She just mumbled that she thought I'd want more privacy, and left me alone after that. But the people who even seemed to notice mostly just smiled approvingly. I've heard horror stories about rude people, but it seems so incongruous, given my overwhelmingly positive experience with it. I'm STILL NIP'ing my 2.5 year old, and haven't had anyone even seem to think it was wierd (at least no one has shared it.) The only person who thought my extended breastfeeding was wierd was a friend of mine who is bottle-feeding (not by choice - she had had breast reduction surgery, and couldn't breastfeed, as it the case in 95% of that surgery type). She didn't have a problem with NIP, but thought a two-and-a-half-year-old was shockingly old. She had heard of such things, but never knew anyone who actually did it. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
#19
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"Sophie" wrote in message ...
Mini-vent coming on - As a person who did not/does not breastfeed, why does it bother me when people say breastfeeding in public is "inappropriate" - and particularly it's inappropriate in a **restaurant**?? Because you aren't stupid? I'm not sure why the fact that you bottlefed has anything to do with it, unless your reasons for bottlefeeding instead of breastfeeding were because you though it was *inappropriate* to expose your breasts to a baby or something, but given what you wrote above, that seems unlikely. :-) Ugh! I can't imagine how it makes breastfeeders feel. It's absolutely insane. First of all how is feeding a baby, in any fashion, "inappropriate" in a restaurant?? Where better to feed them?? Well, from the responses apparently the bathroom would be better - ick! Yeah, I've never understood that one, either. They wouldn't want to eat in the bathroom, but don't have a problem suggesting that a woman pump or feed her infant in the bathroom. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
#20
|
|||
|
|||
Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Yeah, I must have the no-belly-touching thing going too. No stranger has *ever* touched my belly, and hardly any relatives have either--even the ones who would have been welcome to do so ;-) I guess I'm part of the "Don't mess with me" appearance club too. No one *ever* tried to touch my belly or made a comment (to my face that I know of) about NIP. If people did try to touch me though I would have just stepped away quickly. I'm not a touchy person. -- JennP. mom to Matthew 10/11/00 EDD #2 10/24/04 remove "no........spam" to reply |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
Breastfeeding news from Sweden (also: Pediatrician 'responds' to Gastaldo) | Todd Gastaldo | Pregnancy | 40 | May 24th 04 02:18 AM |
Breastfeeding support mini-vent... | Jill | Pregnancy | 32 | April 6th 04 04:28 PM |
MDs causing breast cancer? (also: Breastfeeding 'kickers') | Todd Gastaldo | Pregnancy | 0 | January 29th 04 05:38 AM |
Vaccination is NOT immunization/Breastfeeding *is* immunization! | Todd Gastaldo | Pregnancy | 30 | October 6th 03 09:16 PM |