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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
Cele wrote:
I don't think you can expect much from 'the system'. What? Oh, Nooooo! I'm screwed. LOL. Whatever's gone wrong before is over, it's written, it's done. You can't affect it. Walk away from it. Work on the now. It's all you can do. For him and for yourself. And be well. What is it with people who can not see that history repeats itself unless you actively seek to stop the cycles? I've been in therapy so much that it is just so clear to me that my son saw me be abused as a child so that is what was role modeled for him and now he is acting that out as he becomes a man. Also, he is reacting to me as I only know how to live with a man from a victim's stand point, I have lots of male friends that I keep at a distance but living with one is a different story. You can't just "let it go" or "forget about it" or "put it in the past" abuse isn't like that. History isn't like that. Time isn't like that. If only it were that simple. But it isn't, it is very convoluted. The rest of your post was right on, depressing though, as I was really hoping "the system" was going to save us. damn. |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
wrote in message . net... I've been in therapy so much that it slap is ridiculously funny to read you trying to reason with folks, and blackmail then into supporting you. And your right lorain, you are gonna pay. And watch that reply button. hahahah show me your tits looney lorain |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... Damn it............... I have to clean the screen again..............lmao sorry hehehe |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
wrote in message . net... Cele wrote: I don't think you can expect much from 'the system'. What? Oh, Nooooo! I'm screwed. LOL. Whatever's gone wrong before is over, it's written, it's done. You can't affect it. Walk away from it. Work on the now. It's all you can do. For him and for yourself. And be well. What is it with people who can not see that history repeats itself unless you actively seek to stop the cycles? I've been in therapy so much that it is just so clear to me that my son saw me be abused as a child so that is what was role modeled for him and now he is acting that out as he becomes a man. Also, he is reacting to me as I only know how to live with a man from a victim's stand point, I have lots of male friends that I keep at a distance but living with one is a different story. You can't just "let it go" or "forget about it" or "put it in the past" abuse isn't like that. History isn't like that. Time isn't like that. If only it were that simple. But it isn't, it is very convoluted. The rest of your post was right on, depressing though, as I was really hoping "the system" was going to save us. damn. Lorian,,,,,try re-reading Cele's post. My thought was,,,,if ever there was a post this girl needs to keep it's this one. You really really need to move along to doing something proactive to make things right in your family's life. What other people know, understand, think means **** all. It's perception. Stop wallowing and start parenting your kid before he finds himself in more trouble than stealing your car and quitting school. No one is going to do it for you. Lisa |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"Lisa aka Surfer" wrote in message ... "Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... "Lisa aka Surfer" wrote in message ... wrote in message . net... Cele wrote: I don't think you can expect much from 'the system'. What? Oh, Nooooo! I'm screwed. LOL. Whatever's gone wrong before is over, it's written, it's done. You can't affect it. Walk away from it. Work on the now. It's all you can do. For him and for yourself. And be well. What is it with people who can not see that history repeats itself unless you actively seek to stop the cycles? I've been in therapy so much that it is just so clear to me that my son saw me be abused as a child so that is what was role modeled for him and now he is acting that out as he becomes a man. Also, he is reacting to me as I only know how to live with a man from a victim's stand point, I have lots of male friends that I keep at a distance but living with one is a different story. You can't just "let it go" or "forget about it" or "put it in the past" abuse isn't like that. History isn't like that. Time isn't like that. If only it were that simple. But it isn't, it is very convoluted. The rest of your post was right on, depressing though, as I was really hoping "the system" was going to save us. damn. Lorian,,,,,try re-reading Cele's post. My thought was,,,,if ever there was a post this girl needs to keep it's this one. You really really need to move along to doing something proactive to make things right in your family's life. What other people know, understand, think means **** all. It's perception. Stop wallowing and start parenting your kid before he finds himself in more trouble than stealing your car and quitting school. No one is going to do it for you. The problem is that the 'therapy' has obviously been an enabling tool for her as well. It is absolute BS that the witnessed 'abuse' is the cause. rather it is living in a misandrist household with a nutcase for a mother. The kid is trying to escape, through drugs, booze, and whatever. Lisa Talk talk talk. My father is of the old school that talk therapy is the key to managing mental illness. From my perspective the only way it does any good is with someone that will simply tell you....."face it, this is how it is" This young lad is 16,,,if anything is to change it better be now, otherwise he's going to be in for a some crappy years. Lorian is enabling him now. Hmmmmm, now here's a thought.....Is failing to parent your child abusive? Lisa Yes. She's creating a male version of herself, except this kid will end up hating everyone, not just men. Somehow, she thinks the current abuse she lays on her kid is magic and comes from no where |
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"Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... wrote in message . net... CME wrote: Excuse me? I do not put up with their so called bull****, I'm not going to repeat myself over and over... nor am I going to try and change what they think or post. I've said my peice about Paul et al. and their attack on you, and that is all I'm going to do. Just because I chose to now ignore the onslaught, does not mean I support them. Then my words don't apply to you. I'm sorry Lorian, but you're being foolish by thinking you can. But you still need to say something about how stupid they sound when they call me disgusting names and pick on me when I'm down, it wouldn't be right to just let them get by with going unchallenged. So, you did that, thank you. What I am objecting to is how others here choose to take their side and blame me instead, again, that does not apply to you. Hahahah Do this or you can't be my friend. Like I said, you have no friends here, just people who enable your looney marooness and people who don't And listen up ****or, Peter called you looney maroon long before me ****or, i read your other lies. You ****ed up last night and you know exactly how, and you're sweating it right now aren't you. yes, I'm gonna nail you for it Oh and is supposed to be scared? Wow, what a bully. I see now where she gets the idea that you're an abuser. Christine |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"CME" wrote in message ... "Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... wrote in message . net... CME wrote: Excuse me? I do not put up with their so called bull****, I'm not going to repeat myself over and over... nor am I going to try and change what they think or post. I've said my peice about Paul et al. and their attack on you, and that is all I'm going to do. Just because I chose to now ignore the onslaught, does not mean I support them. Then my words don't apply to you. I'm sorry Lorian, but you're being foolish by thinking you can. But you still need to say something about how stupid they sound when they call me disgusting names and pick on me when I'm down, it wouldn't be right to just let them get by with going unchallenged. So, you did that, thank you. What I am objecting to is how others here choose to take their side and blame me instead, again, that does not apply to you. Hahahah Do this or you can't be my friend. Like I said, you have no friends here, just people who enable your looney marooness and people who don't And listen up ****or, Peter called you looney maroon long before me ****or, i read your other lies. You ****ed up last night and you know exactly how, and you're sweating it right now aren't you. yes, I'm gonna nail you for it Oh and is supposed to be scared? Wow, what a bully. I see now where she gets the idea that you're an abuser. Christine show me your tits |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"Lisa aka Surfer" wrote in message ... wrote in message . net... Cele wrote: I don't think you can expect much from 'the system'. What? Oh, Nooooo! I'm screwed. LOL. Whatever's gone wrong before is over, it's written, it's done. You can't affect it. Walk away from it. Work on the now. It's all you can do. For him and for yourself. And be well. What is it with people who can not see that history repeats itself unless you actively seek to stop the cycles? I've been in therapy so much that it is just so clear to me that my son saw me be abused as a child so that is what was role modeled for him and now he is acting that out as he becomes a man. Also, he is reacting to me as I only know how to live with a man from a victim's stand point, I have lots of male friends that I keep at a distance but living with one is a different story. You can't just "let it go" or "forget about it" or "put it in the past" abuse isn't like that. History isn't like that. Time isn't like that. If only it were that simple. But it isn't, it is very convoluted. The rest of your post was right on, depressing though, as I was really hoping "the system" was going to save us. damn. Lorian,,,,,try re-reading Cele's post. My thought was,,,,if ever there was a post this girl needs to keep it's this one. You really really need to move along to doing something proactive to make things right in your family's life. What other people know, understand, think means **** all. It's perception. Stop wallowing and start parenting your kid before he finds himself in more trouble than stealing your car and quitting school. No one is going to do it for you. The problem is that the 'therapy' has obviously been an enabling tool for her as well. It is absolute BS that the witnessed 'abuse' is the cause. rather it is living in a misandrist household with a nutcase for a mother. The kid is trying to escape, through drugs, booze, and whatever. Lisa |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... "CME" wrote in message ... "Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... wrote in message . net... CME wrote: Excuse me? I do not put up with their so called bull****, I'm not going to repeat myself over and over... nor am I going to try and change what they think or post. I've said my peice about Paul et al. and their attack on you, and that is all I'm going to do. Just because I chose to now ignore the onslaught, does not mean I support them. Then my words don't apply to you. I'm sorry Lorian, but you're being foolish by thinking you can. But you still need to say something about how stupid they sound when they call me disgusting names and pick on me when I'm down, it wouldn't be right to just let them get by with going unchallenged. So, you did that, thank you. What I am objecting to is how others here choose to take their side and blame me instead, again, that does not apply to you. Hahahah Do this or you can't be my friend. Like I said, you have no friends here, just people who enable your looney marooness and people who don't And listen up ****or, Peter called you looney maroon long before me ****or, i read your other lies. You ****ed up last night and you know exactly how, and you're sweating it right now aren't you. yes, I'm gonna nail you for it Oh and is supposed to be scared? Wow, what a bully. I see now where she gets the idea that you're an abuser. Christine show me your tits read the FAQ Tom,,,,pics aren't allowed silly boy Surf |
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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... "CME" wrote in message ... "Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... wrote in message . net... CME wrote: Excuse me? I do not put up with their so called bull****, I'm not going to repeat myself over and over... nor am I going to try and change what they think or post. I've said my peice about Paul et al. and their attack on you, and that is all I'm going to do. Just because I chose to now ignore the onslaught, does not mean I support them. Then my words don't apply to you. I'm sorry Lorian, but you're being foolish by thinking you can. But you still need to say something about how stupid they sound when they call me disgusting names and pick on me when I'm down, it wouldn't be right to just let them get by with going unchallenged. So, you did that, thank you. What I am objecting to is how others here choose to take their side and blame me instead, again, that does not apply to you. Hahahah Do this or you can't be my friend. Like I said, you have no friends here, just people who enable your looney marooness and people who don't And listen up ****or, Peter called you looney maroon long before me ****or, i read your other lies. You ****ed up last night and you know exactly how, and you're sweating it right now aren't you. yes, I'm gonna nail you for it Oh and is supposed to be scared? Wow, what a bully. I see now where she gets the idea that you're an abuser. Christine show me your tits Ohhh I see... so now I'm a target because I don't agree with you... ohhh who would have thought?! lmao Christine |
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