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Ericka Kammerer wrote: wrote: If a child is not old enough to separate from his mom for a lesson then a child is not old enough to take the lesson. Period. Huh? There are *lots* of classes out there that are *designed* for parent and child to do together. What's wrong with that? Chookie isn't in the class because her child can't separate. She's in the class with him because it's a class designed for parent-child interaction. I generally find that businesses promote "Mommy and me" activities as "lessons" and they simply are not. They are fun. So? What's wrong with that? She seems quite clear on what he's learning in this class, and she and he are fine with it and like the class. Is that not enough? Yes, she's got a challenge dealing with the toddler, and if she can't find another solution it might be the case that it's too hard for her to do a mommy-and-me class at this stage, but that doesn't mean that there's no value in those classes. Best wishes, Ericka I had few opportunities to do "mommy and me" classes with my kids. (I worked full time when my oldest was born, and by the time I wasn't working full time she was three and had infant twin siblings. I didn't have child care -- and wasn't willing to take the classes in the evenings when DH was home -- so didn't do them with her. Then, with the twins, I tried onr or two, but found that they were not set up well to deal with one mom/two toddlers. All three of us got more aggravated than anything.) But I did watch several, to get ideas. It isn't true that NO learning takes place -- it IS true that they are different from classes designed just for kids. Some of the learning is for the parents: how to teach your kids things, for example. Some is for the kids. And even if they were JUST for fun, I don't see that as a problem. Some of life ought to be just for fun! -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"Jeanne" wrote in message . .. wrote: If a child is not old enough to separate from his mom for a lesson then a child is not old enough to take the lesson. Period. If your child is old enough to take a lesson without you present I would find a place that is set up so that he can do that. That's your opinion but many people like mommy and me classes and find them effective for many activities (e.g., music, swimming, even ice-skating!) Actually, for music, a parent-involvement format is one of the most effective methods of instruction for young children, especially in instrumental instruction. Posture, hand position, etc is extremely important, and while older children can often self-correct between lessons, young children can't. Even for older children it makes a big difference if the parent takes an active vs passive role in encouraging good practice habits (which does not mean forcing or bribing a child to practice). Usually, parent participation moves from active participation to more passive participation where the parent is expected to assist if needed, watch, and take over the monitoring role at home as the child progresses, but usually the child won't come to a lesson without the parent expected to be actively present and learning until 8-9 yrs old. If anything, classes for preschool/early elementary children without parents present are more likely to be fun playtime and less likely to involve focused instruction. You will not have children learning piano or violin in a kindergarten music class without parents present, for example. I generally find that businesses promote "Mommy and me" activities as "lessons" and they simply are not. They are fun. And the problem is? A lot of learning takes place through fun for children 0-7. In fact, I would argue that if it's not fun for the child, the child isn't learning-and if it's not fun for the parent, normally the child won't get a chance to learn. If your older child can't separate from you for a lesson, I would simply wait until he is old enough to do that. I deal with this a lot as a skating teacher. A teacher who is really trying to teach cannot compete with the presence of parents and siblings. I If a class is designed as a parent-child class, the teacher is not competing with the parent-rather, the parent is a valued, vital part of the class. I do agree that it is difficult to compete with siblings who aren't active participants in a class, which only occurs if the siblings are in the same age group or if it's a multi-age class. If a class is not designed as a parent-child class, then yes, a parent can be a distraction. However, that isn't the case for the OP, nor is it the case for most music classes for children below the age of 8 or so outside a school setting. That's absurd. Even for ice-skating. DD and I took a modified mommy and me skating class when she was about 3 years old. I was in the adult class and she was in the child class but on the ice at the same time. It *was* fun and she learned how to skate. She definitely felt more comfortable seeing me on the ice and not sitting in the stands, behind the plexiglass. Jeanne |
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Ericka Kammerer ) writes:
Catherine Woodgold wrote: Ericka Kammerer ) writes: There's a world of difference between saying, "I'm so sorry Johnny has become a distraction. It's a challenge for us to find another caretaker at this time. Would you be able to recommend another class that can accommodate both children, or a facility that offers childcare?" and saying, "Well, I don't see how I can manage Johnny in the hallway and I can't get a sitter. If you want to keep clients, I think it would be in your best interests to offer some kind of reasonable solution for parents like me who have younger kids." And anyway, requests for different course offerings are typically best discussed with the director/manager of the school than the teachers. Good point about talking to the director/manager. I don't think anyone suggested using the wording in your second example. I think someone would only say that if they were angry and lost their cool and forgot to talk diplomatically. But you know, people are smart. You can gussy up the phrasing all you like, but if that's what you *mean*, that's what they'll hear, and they'll be just as offended as if you'd said it baldly. You only have the credibility to start talking about what others can do for you after you've fulfilled your own responsibilities. It's possible to ask the teacher for help without either saying *or meaning* what you say in your second suggestion. |
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If a child is not old enough to separate from his mom for a lesson then a child is not old enough to take the lesson. Period. I disagree, in general -- though rules to that effect may be in place for some particular lessons. |
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