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Perming childrens hair - healthy and legal?
I have been an Au Pair in California since May. I live in a family with three kids in the age of 4-8, all girls. This morning I had to go to the hairdresser with them. Their Mom made the appointment, I had just to bring them by and wait. I couldn't believe what happened there. The girls got their hair permed, even the 4 yo. The hairdresser told me, that they got their first perm with 3 an have a perm 4 times a yr. Isn't perming childrens hair unhealthy? Is it custom (and legal) in U.S. to perm kids hair? I never heard about this in Europe. It was scary to see the little one with all these rodds on the head the more so she obviously don't like it. She cryed hardly. I didn't know what to do, should I stay and berate her or hold hands, or should I say girl, you're right, that's crazy, and run away. We stayed and she got her hair permed. But I've a guilty conscience (is it the right word?)now. Poor girls. What should I do and could I say the next time? Thanks |
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wrote in message ups.com... The youngest may not have been happy about having the perm rods put in her hair (but you also say she hardly cried, so she couldn't have been all *that* miserable), so all you could really do is just hold her hand, comfort her and perhaps offer a toy or story to keep her occcupied. She said the child "cried hardly". I thought she meant "cried hard" not "hardly cried." In that case, she could at least bring up the problem to the mom -- "Anna was very unhappy and crying when she was getting it done, and I wasn't sure what to do." Bizby |
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Perming childrens hair - healthy and legal?
wrote in message ups.com... I have been an Au Pair in California since May. I live in a family with three kids in the age of 4-8, all girls. This morning I had to go to the hairdresser with them. Their Mom made the appointment, I had just to bring them by and wait. I couldn't believe what happened there. The girls got their hair permed, even the 4 yo. The hairdresser told me, that they got their first perm with 3 an have a perm 4 times a yr. Isn't perming childrens hair unhealthy? Is it custom (and legal) in U.S. to perm kids hair? I never heard about this in Europe. It was scary to see the little one with all these rodds on the head the more so she obviously don't like it. She cryed hardly. I didn't know what to do, should I stay and berate her or hold hands, or should I say girl, you're right, that's crazy, and run away. We stayed and she got her hair permed. But I've a guilty conscience (is it the right word?)now. Poor girls. What should I do and could I say the next time? Say, "You look so pretty!' And do? Nothing. Worst case: It will grow back. Jeff Thanks |
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Perming childrens hair - healthy and legal?
Perming anyones hair isnt healthy.. it is damaging to the hair.. but not
illegal.. She probably doesnt like anything done to her hair yet so that is why she cried. The chemicals do sting a bit as well if her head has been itchy at all lately and that could bring out tears if the child didnt understand 45 minutes is just a little while.. compaired to however long with the curls.. the girls probably dont even know what their hair would look like straight if they have had them done for so long. Tori wrote in message ups.com... I have been an Au Pair in California since May. I live in a family with three kids in the age of 4-8, all girls. This morning I had to go to the hairdresser with them. Their Mom made the appointment, I had just to bring them by and wait. I couldn't believe what happened there. The girls got their hair permed, even the 4 yo. The hairdresser told me, that they got their first perm with 3 an have a perm 4 times a yr. Isn't perming childrens hair unhealthy? Is it custom (and legal) in U.S. to perm kids hair? I never heard about this in Europe. It was scary to see the little one with all these rodds on the head the more so she obviously don't like it. She cryed hardly. I didn't know what to do, should I stay and berate her or hold hands, or should I say girl, you're right, that's crazy, and run away. We stayed and she got her hair permed. But I've a guilty conscience (is it the right word?)now. Poor girls. What should I do and could I say the next time? Thanks |
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I have been an Au Pair in California since May. I live in a family with three kids in the age of 4-8, all girls. This morning I had to go to the hairdresser with them. Their Mom made the appointment, I had just to bring them by and wait. I couldn't believe what happened there. The girls got their hair permed, even the 4 yo. The hairdresser told me, that they got their first perm with 3 an have a perm 4 times a yr. Isn't perming childrens hair unhealthy? Is it custom (and legal) in U.S. to perm kids hair? I never heard about this in Europe. It is legal and I guess it is the custom with some people. I don't know why. My mom had my hair permed back in the 40s (it was a Toni home permanent), and I tried a couple of more times, but it just didn't work out and I hated it. Frizzy hair wasn't 'IN' then. I used to have people ask me (40 years ago) if I had given my oldest a perm and bleached streaks in the younger ones hair. I hadn't of course - the older one (and also the third one) just had quite naturally curly hair http://p.vtourist.com/2896827-Travel...e-DEBBBEDB.jpg This is my three girls - on the left is DD#2 at about 4 years of age. She has wavy hair with some bleached highlights from the sun (we were living in Florida then) In the middle is dd#3 at 2.5 years (when this was done she was running a fever and I can see that in the picture) and on the right is dd#1 at about 3 years old. DD#1 and #3 both have very curly hair - dd#1 more than dd#3. [These children are now 43 (dd2), 38 (dd3) and 45 (dd1) It was scary to see the little one with all these rodds on the head the more so she obviously don't like it. She cryed hardly. I didn't know what to do, should I stay and berate her or hold hands, or should I say girl, you're right, that's crazy, and run away. The rods don't hurt. Ask the older girls how it usually goes with the 4 yo. Does she usually cry? If not, possibly she picked up on your concern. We stayed and she got her hair permed. But I've a guilty conscience (is it the right word?)now. Poor girls. What should I do and could I say the next time? Thanks |
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Perming childrens hair - healthy and legal?
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"Tori M" wrote: Perming anyones hair isnt healthy.. it is damaging to the hair.. but not illegal.. She probably doesnt like anything done to her hair yet so that is why she cried. The chemicals do sting a bit as well if her head has been itchy at all lately and that could bring out tears if the child didnt understand 45 minutes is just a little while.. compaired to however long with the curls.. the girls probably dont even know what their hair would look like straight if they have had them done for so long. It may not be healthy for the HAIR, but the part that is damaged will grow out -- it doesn't cause permanent damage. The perms currently in use do not create any health hazards, and that's important to know. I haven't had a perm in years, but don't remember them ever stinging at all. However, many children at the age of 4 will cry when you do ANYTHING with their hair -- they just don't like it. While I would not perm little girls' hair (partly because I think it's better to find ways for them to look good in their natural state, and partly because I'm WAY too cheap), it isn't really cruel or evil, it just isn't my idea of the way I'd want to spend time or money. But then, I could never afford an au pair, either! -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Rosalie B. wrote:
wrote: Isn't perming childrens hair unhealthy? Is it custom (and legal) in U.S. to perm kids hair? I never heard about this in Europe. It is legal and I guess it is the custom with some people. I don't know why. For some kids, depending on what their hair is like normally, a perm can turn hair that needs a lot of fussing to look decent into hair that needs little fussing other than the occasional perms. I have no idea what's up with this particular family, and maybe it's all vanity or something odd, but I can think of other scenarios. I wouldn't be thrilled with coughing up the cash to have a child's hair permed regularly, but wanting to do that needn't be inherently sinister. Wash'n'go hair can be a lot easier on a kid than hair that has to be dried/combed out/whatever else the kid finds objectionable. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Perming childrens hair - healthy and legal?
Tori M wrote: Perming anyones hair isnt healthy.. it is damaging to the hair.. but not illegal.. She probably doesnt like anything done to her hair yet so that is why she cried. The chemicals do sting a bit as well if her head has been itchy at all lately and that could bring out tears if the child didnt understand 45 minutes is just a little while.. compaired to however long with the curls.. the girls probably dont even know what their hair would look like straight if they have had them done for so long. The OP didn't say how long the girls had to sit -- where do you get 45 minutes out of this? The times I've had my hair permed (and my hair is course and needs extra time), I've never had perm solution on my hair longer than 20 minutes or so....then rinsed and 5 minutes for the fixative. Granted, they probably had to sit about that amount of time to get the perm rods rolled (depending on the length and thickness of their hair and the size of the rods used), but the OP didn't mention a specific time. I've never had perm solution sting my scalp, either. And as it was pointed out by another poster (Ericka, IIRC), depending on the girls' hair, it might be easier daily care to have their hair permed in the long run, since it basically becomes 'wash and wear' hair (which is the main reason I would get perms, so I could skip blow-drying completely)...and this might be easier on the girls to wash, condition and comb (put in a hairband, ponytail, what-have-you) than making preschoolers sit to have to be blown-dried and styled regularly.... Leah Tori wrote in message ups.com... I have been an Au Pair in California since May. I live in a family with three kids in the age of 4-8, all girls. This morning I had to go to the hairdresser with them. Their Mom made the appointment, I had just to bring them by and wait. I couldn't believe what happened there. The girls got their hair permed, even the 4 yo. The hairdresser told me, that they got their first perm with 3 an have a perm 4 times a yr. Isn't perming childrens hair unhealthy? Is it custom (and legal) in U.S. to perm kids hair? I never heard about this in Europe. It was scary to see the little one with all these rodds on the head the more so she obviously don't like it. She cryed hardly. I didn't know what to do, should I stay and berate her or hold hands, or should I say girl, you're right, that's crazy, and run away. We stayed and she got her hair permed. But I've a guilty conscience (is it the right word?)now. Poor girls. What should I do and could I say the next time? Thanks |
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