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I am NOT allowing my son to call the shots. I am simply showing him that if
he wants "expensive" things that are not a necesity, then he can learn how to budget his money and help pay for them. If I have a certain amount budgeted for school clothes/shoes and he wants to purchase more expensive items, then the child can learn responsibility and pay for it. All of you that disagree either don't have older children or have never been through a counselor with their older child to learn about how to TEACH them. It isn't all about power and control when you are a parent, it is about TEACHING them to be responsible adults. If you don't teach them the value of money and teach them about spending and saving then you are doing harm to your child for their future. Look at the nations debt problems?? Chris wrote: Exactly, they are NOT a necessity, that is why I pay a portion that I feel is a fair portion and he has to pay the rest. That is the only fair thing to do here. A high school boy WILL NOT wear payless shoes, nor would I want to have an argument over trying to"make" him wear them. Neither would I. I would simply state that is the way it is, period. Children do NOT call the shots in the home. So the best solution is to pay a reasonable amount (out of his child support) towards clothes, shoes, [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] $80 shoes are not a necessity!!!! -- Message posted via FamilyKB.com http://www.familykb.com/Uwe/Forums.a...nting/200710/1 |
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On Oct 11, 10:16 am, "DB" wrote:
"Paula" wrote in Other than showing DB as the bitter, vindictive, and spiteful man that he is. Hey just because I lost my House, Car, Job, Savings and any future I had, that doesn't mean I lost my common sense. Pre School is not a necessity for success, Ask Bill Gates? I can't believe you are that brainwashed!!!!!!! The average University cost per year today is $34,000 per year. What's his $20, 000 college fund going to pay for in 18 years? Brainwashed, no. Parent of a pre-schooler, yes. And I do happen to believe it's that important. She knows her ABCs (has for at least a year), can count to 100, and is beginning on working on her writing skills. She'll be far ahead of any classmates that were not in pre-school ... and in my opinion that is important. You obviously know nothing about 529s ... do some research and then we'll talk. |
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On Oct 11, 10:15 am, Paula wrote:
On Oct 11, 10:06 am, "DB" wrote: "Paula" wrote in And, yes, there are NCPs out there who aren't permitted by the CP to parent the children ... that's not right!! That's not the case in all instances. You seem to regularly forget (actually ignore would probably be the more accurate word) that fact. yes and your type choose to ignore the fact that the NCP's that actually walk away from their child is a very small percentage. Most are driven away! You need to read for comprehension too, Chris. Because I acknowledged that some NCPs "aren't permitted by the CP to parent the children" (and condemned it) in my response shown above. Sorry, that should be DB not Chris ... my apologies. |
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"Paula" wrote "Gini" wrote: .................................................. ........ == Ummm....it was the CP who didn't want to pay her share. Ummm, no. My response was to DB who stated that preschool was a luxury ... which in this age of schooling competitiveness it is most certainly not a luxury. == That's not the point. OK, I'll try to spoon-feed you--You claimed that not paying for extras, not included in the NCPs obligation, is screwing the kid. On the contrary. The amounts over the ordered support are the responsibility of the CP--not the NCP. If the CP wishes to not cover her share, she is screwing the kid. You would like to mandate "extras" to the NCP. == ..................... Kids need the head start that preschool provides to be able to keep up once they get into "real" school. He also advised that the poster (not the OP) stop paying "extra" for the diapers, milk, clothes and other necessities that a child needs. == Let's try it this way--The "extras" are the responsibility of the CP--her part of the support *share.* See, he pays 'A' and she pays 'B'. What is not included in 'A' is necessarily included in 'B.' Well, according to the courts, that is. According to you, if she fails to cover 'B,' he's screwing the kids. == ................................... Read for comprehension, please Gini. == Your failure to grasp nothing more than the most rudimentary of thoughts is not indicative of a comprehension lapse on my part. Spoon-feeding off == == |
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"Paula" wrote in message ps.com... On Oct 11, 1:51 am, "Chris" wrote: A NCP is not a parent. CP is what defines parenting. Not true. There are CPs out there who welcome the parenting of NCPs ... some NCPs choose not to parent. "NCP", by definition, is inherently NOT parenting. It is TRUE. And, yes, there are NCPs out there who aren't permitted by the CP to parent the children ... that's not right!! That's not the case in all instances. You seem to regularly forget (actually ignore would probably be the more accurate word) that fact. |
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"Paula" wrote in message ps.com... On Oct 11, 10:06 am, "DB" wrote: "Paula" wrote in And, yes, there are NCPs out there who aren't permitted by the CP to parent the children ... that's not right!! That's not the case in all instances. You seem to regularly forget (actually ignore would probably be the more accurate word) that fact. yes and your type choose to ignore the fact that the NCP's that actually walk away from their child is a very small percentage. Most are driven away! You need to read for comprehension too, Chris. I didn't know that was his name. Reading comprehension problem, perhaps? Because I acknowledged that some NCPs "aren't permitted by the CP to parent the children" (and condemned it) in my response shown above. |
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"Gini" wrote in Read for comprehension, please Gini. == Your failure to grasp nothing more than the most rudimentary of thoughts is not indicative of a comprehension lapse on my part. Spoon-feeding off Obviously her lack of preschool has affected her rudimentary reading skills! Lets keep this in simple terms so she can understand! If we agree to have a BBQ and I give $100 to pay for the food, when I arrive I should not be expected to run out and buy the chips and beer too, plus all the Deserts as well! Like child support, lets argue who pays for the Charcoal too? |
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On Oct 11, 11:16 am, "Gini" wrote:
"Paula" wrote "Gini" wrote: .................................................. ....... == Ummm....it was the CP who didn't want to pay her share. Ummm, no. My response was to DB who stated that preschool was a luxury ... which in this age of schooling competitiveness it is most certainly not a luxury. == That's not the point. It was MY point which is relevant since I was the one to whom you responded. OK, I'll try to spoon-feed you--You claimed that not paying for extras, not included in the NCPs obligation, is screwing the kid Lovely how you intentionally snipped the part that read: "Please don't twist my reply into saying that NCPs should be forced to do the things that this father is ... because that's not what I said." On the contrary. The amounts over the ordered support are the responsibility of the CP--not the NCP. Your opinion If the CP wishes to not cover her share, she is screwing the kid. According to you it's not a "share" that we're discussing here; it's totality, right? You would like to mandate "extras" to the NCP. == See above, and neither what I said nor what I meant. .................... Kids need the head start that preschool provides to be able to keep up once they get into "real" school. He also advised that the poster (not the OP) stop paying "extra" for the diapers, milk, clothes and other necessities that a child needs. == Let's try it this way--The "extras" are the responsibility of the CP--her part of the support *share.* See, he pays 'A' and she pays 'B'. What is not included in 'A' is necessarily included in 'B.' Well, according to the courts, that is. According to you, if she fails to cover 'B,' he's screwing the kids. == .................................. Read for comprehension, please Gini. == Your failure to grasp nothing more than the most rudimentary of thoughts is not indicative of a comprehension lapse on my part. Spoon-feeding off == == Condescension is neither necessary nor productive. |
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"Paula" wrote in message ups.com... On Oct 11, 10:16 am, "DB" wrote: "Paula" wrote in Other than showing DB as the bitter, vindictive, and spiteful man that he is. Hey just because I lost my House, Car, Job, Savings and any future I had, that doesn't mean I lost my common sense. Pre School is not a necessity for success, Ask Bill Gates? I can't believe you are that brainwashed!!!!!!! The average University cost per year today is $34,000 per year. What's his $20, 000 college fund going to pay for in 18 years? Brainwashed, no. Parent of a pre-schooler, yes. And I do happen to believe it's that important. She knows her ABCs (has for at least a year), can count to 100, and is beginning on working on her writing skills. She'll be far ahead of any classmates that were not in pre-school ... and in my opinion that is important. Great! Perhaps the folks on alt.opinion would appreciate your sharing. You obviously know nothing about 529s ... do some research and then we'll talk. |
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"Gini" wrote in message news:S%rPi.3357$yJ2.314@trndny01... "Paula" wrote "Gini" wrote: .................................................. ....... == Ummm....it was the CP who didn't want to pay her share. Ummm, no. My response was to DB who stated that preschool was a luxury ... which in this age of schooling competitiveness it is most certainly not a luxury. == That's not the point. OK, I'll try to spoon-feed you--You claimed that not paying for extras, not included in the NCPs obligation, is screwing the kid. On the contrary. The amounts over the ordered support are the responsibility of the CP--not the NCP. If the CP wishes to not cover her share, she is screwing the kid. You would like to mandate "extras" to the NCP. == .................... Kids need the head start that preschool provides to be able to keep up once they get into "real" school. He also advised that the poster (not the OP) stop paying "extra" for the diapers, milk, clothes and other necessities that a child needs. == Let's try it this way--The "extras" are the responsibility of the CP--her part of the support *share.* See, he pays 'A' and she pays 'B'. What is not included in 'A' is necessarily included in 'B.' Well, according to the courts, that is. According to you, if she fails to cover 'B,' he's screwing the kids. == .................................. Read for comprehension, please Gini. == Your failure to grasp nothing more than the most rudimentary of thoughts is not indicative of a comprehension lapse on my part. Spoon-feeding off Until one utilizes the three basic laws of thought, anything spewed out their mouth is meaningless. == == |
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