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Tai wrote: Other times he'll come in the room with poop on his hand crying. See, he checks himself and appears to be surprised when he finds something there. Every time he does find something he bursts into tears because he knows we're going to take away TV privilages or something. Poor little lad! Please try not to punish him with your disappointment, he's not being lazy or careless. It's defintely time for a second medical opinion from another paediatrician. imo. Tai When I was 15, back in the mid 1960s I babysat for a 7 year old boy who occasionally pooped his pants. His mother figured it was laziness and tried different types of punishment. One Saturday, his mother had to leave early in the afternoon and I was to baby-sit Danny and his younger sister until late that night. When I talked to his mother the day before about it, everything was ok so I got a major shock when I arrived to baby-sit. I could hear Danny crying loudly as I approached their house and quickly saw why as I entered the house. Danny was sitting in a baby playpen and was wearing a T-shirt and a diaper. He also had a baby bib tied around his neck along with a pacifier. I think I just froze with my mouth open. It was a shocking sight. Danny's mom took me to a different room and explained that he pooped his pants again, and she's been threatening him with treating him like a baby. She apologized for not calling me to tell me and said she meant to. She said she will pay me double for the evening, but I had to promise to talk to him, play with him, feed him, bathe him and change him as though he were an infant. She said if I didn't think I can handle it, she'd take his diapers off and put him to bed. I'd then get my regular pay. Being only 15, and not knowing any better, I thought it was funny and thought it would be fun to baby him. She had a whole list of rules written down for him. Things like he can't walk but must crawl, can "babble" but not talk, no going potty, that's what diapers are for, etc. After she left, I called my best friend, Brenda, to come help me. She brought her 8-year-old sister. We had an interesting afternoon of "peeky-boo" and "patty cake" and lots of "gootsy gootsy goos", along with spoon feeding in the high chair, (his 5 year old sister mostly fed him) and a couple of diaper changes, it was finally time for his bath, and be put into the crib his mother set up for him. He cried a lot, and almost threw up. I know it had to be extremely humiliating for a 7 year old boy to be bathed and diaper changed by a 15 year old girl in front of another 15 year old girl he didn't even know, also his 5 year old sister, and an 8 year old girl he didn't know. Brenda & I both enjoyed ourselves. I now totally regret it. Doctors found a medical reason for his soiling after 3-4 more times of being "babied" by his mother. That boy suffered unspeakable humiliation and abuse. I'm now ashamed to have taken part in it. I really feel bad to think that I actually thought it was fun, and funny. Later, his mom actually made him stay outside in diapers, and the teasing he got lasted for years. All for something he had absolutely no control over. It's like severely punishing a child for sneezing, or having the hiccups. Pants pooping, pants wetting, bed wetting, all are irritating for parents, but I feel no child would want to deliberately do it, and should NEVER be punished for it. When the doctor found a real problem, his mother felt really awful for what she did to him. Please don't punish. DeeDee |
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